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Lost in life - the beginnings

Posted 29th February 2012 at 03:00 by mhealer3

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many things you decribed from childhood i can identify with.

i'd say we have almost a 'post traumatic stress' type disorder, really.

(considering how bad childhood memories & old thought patterns still control us).

it's very important to resolve our fears from the past or they come back 'to haunt us'.
(the patterns we can't resolve can even repeat in our own behavior).
like how i failed in my marriage without our even realizing what
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think u fail at life?

Posted 27th February 2012 at 03:24 by mhealer3

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i agree that positive 'self-talk' is important.
it does take time & effort to see results though, so be patient.

many of our problems come from childhood & involve lots of old hurt.
did someone in your family tell you that you were a loser or a failure?
become kind to yourself. nobody is better than you, but we are each unique.

if u don't like u, who will?
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do you think it is normal to change as a person the older you get?

Posted 8th February 2012 at 01:13 by mhealer3

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i think we change if we feel drawn to something different,
or to be like someone we admire.

our bodies r always renewing itself with new cells,
so it would seem right to have a fresh mindset occasionally.

it's ok to let past things go, as long as there are some new things to enjoy.

i have to remind myself constantly to enjoy my life now,
because for decades all i did was struggle at work.

moderation was not in
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does anyone else think their SA is inherited?

Posted 27th January 2012 at 18:51 by mhealer3

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bad family dynamics or parents with mental problems/alcohol abuse??

i strongly believe problems get 'passed down' to us,
--whether knowingly or not.

only since i'm older have i been able to see the 'whole-life' patterns that
trace from unmet needs, & fears from childhood.

my own parents had terrible childhoods, so i guess
they were doing the best they could for me, but it was still terrible.

i think there was improvement
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anyone ever just let themselves go completly because of SA?

Posted 27th January 2012 at 01:10 by mhealer3

I've done that a number of times. Stopped shaving, didn't shower or wash my hair. Ate like a pig, drank too much alcohol, went to bed very late and got up late. Festered away basically. It was strangely therapeutic at times. An abandonment of having to care. Maybe it gave me space to just be.
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thanks 4 that
i'm glad you spin it so that people don't feel condemned
for 'zoning-out' awhile.

it's a lovely way of saying that we needn't have guilt for halted routines.
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