Internet dating sites
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Well I give up on internet dating, I cannot be bothered with having to go through the same stages each time, the same initial conversation, then the phonecall, then the worry of whether they'll look like their picture, whether you get on etc.
I had a date last night, stunning girl, definitely the nicest looking girl I've been on a date with just missing something though |
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Internet dating is the worst....Full of kooks and weirdos. I much prefer the old fashond style of dating. :smug:
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I much prefer meeting people in person because to be honest online I've found I might be drawn to a certain type of person but when I meet them I realise that had it not been for a dating site, I would never be drawn to them in person. In person I like that someones personality can draw you in, whereas online it's more looks. Funnily enough in person looks don't really do it, infact even if someone technically looks good, if they have a bad personality they look ugly to me. |
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Ok pof is now deleted, my last resort is ok cupid.
Am I right in assuming that the only real free alternative is okcupid? Despite what I've said about internet dating I'm trying one last time. |
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i think match.com is the other popular site. not sure if they have the offer anymore but it used to be if you don't find love in 6 months they give you another 6 months for free
i don't like okcupid that much because i think the % rating system limits people |
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Match.com is a paid site though isn't it?
And I would never pay anything in the hope of meeting someone. I have to say I find pof an Cupid are extreme opposites, pof is full of Slags, chavs and single mums. Cupid is full of intellectuals and goths. I have nothing against any of the above but I don't fit into any of the above. |
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that what puts me off going on there. I very much doubt i'd appeal much to them sorts of women, and tbh intellectuals and goths don't appeal that much to me either. |
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okcupid standards are somewhat higher i think. there was a guy who messaged me and on his profile he specified his preference as "you will have 700+ photos tagged on facebook" :confused: |
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Rather than dating sites I've moved to chat rooms, I use www.ukchatterbox.co.uk, I can talk to girls in the chat room and get to know them in a non-threatening way. UKChatterbox shoes who is male and who is female and there are local rooms for each city/town.
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I'd rather just pay on the date. Well I've been indecisive again and have deleted okcupid, and signed up again on pof :laughing: yes I know I'm nuts :d Anyway this time I'm going on the offensive and messaging people. Let's see how much my pride get's destroyed :wave: |
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good luck!
i probably need to do the same and start messaging people |
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I've been looking at this but can't seem to get over the hurdle of sending the first message - how do you start? Does anyone have any examples?
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Well I've been picking something from their profile and using that as an ice breaker.
Whatever you do try an be original, do not just say hi on the subject line. These females even the ugly ones have like 30 messages after about half hour of logging in, and they need something that stands out from the other 29 messages. Well my pride is being hurt already, I know it sounds bad but I messaged two people who in my mind were uglier than I am, and they viewed my profile and didn't reply :laughing: Ah well I'll message two more who I think I'll have no chance with and see how I get on. |
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^ have some patience, lol
maybe like me those women just viewed your profile for now and intend to reply later i don't like the thing that tells you if they deleted your message, i never look at it i just signed up to match- it wants £77! |
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£77 **** that, I wouldn't even pay 7 quid lol
I wish pof still had that feature where you can see whether it's unread/deleted etc You have to pay, and it wouldn't surprise me if eventually it becomes a fully paid site |
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you're lucky. most don't even view my profile :laughing: keep messaging though. you're bound to have a better reply rate than me. |
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I've still only done the two. I'm going to do 6 and see if the 1 in 3 thing is true.
It's actually bugging the hell out of me that one in particular didn't reply, she wasn't even my type. I just assumed she'd reply lol God I sound so shallow.... Seriously though, I find that some females on there let it go to their head, because they get a few messages they start thinking they are nicer than they actually are. |
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has that function become paid members only? didn't realise. i never used it before anyways.
wasn't there a dating site where the men have to pay a £200 subscription fee and the women have to submit their photo for assessment by a panel of judges.. i remember trying to sign up for it before thinking who am i kidding i'll never qualify! really struggling as to whether i should pay the £77 |
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if someone considers themselves better looking than you,.. sooner or later they may hang that over you, perhaps these people are sparing themselves that potential ordeal ? |
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that's the thing. can't help but feel a little huh? when you dont even fancy them that much and they dont reply. atleast if they're really really attractive you can think to yourself, yeah i was probably not her type and she probably went for someone better looking as she's better looking herself, but when the girl isn't even all that and they dont reply your left feeling a bit like ...shit?, not even the mid-level girls are replying to me.. keep messaging though. i doubt anyone is gonna have a reply rate worse than me on there lol... edit: but hey, i know someone who might reply .. you could always try message that "sexy" girl you just showed me :P haha |
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Maybe these women aren't responding to your looks, but whether they 'click' with the personality you're presenting on your profile.
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Seriously it's really getting me insecure.
That is the exact reason I don't normally message people as rejection hurts me. I normally take the ignorance is bliss approach. Now when someone doesn't message I'm thinking of a variety of reasons why, was it my looks, profile etc. It's not like I can message and ask why there was no reply lol |
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i still recon if you messaged 10 you'd get atleast 1 reply.
it's only me who has the shitty reply rates. |
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If I only get 1 reply my self esteem is going to be in bits.
I wish I didn't care about rejection and what people thought |
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how much have you messaged so far?
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I think you're limited with completely free sites as i presume that a large % of those that go on the free sites are'nt as serious about finding someone compared to someone who just forked out 20 quid for a months subscription. |
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I can't do anymore, I have a real issue with insecurity, twos enough now. |
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