Work situation-creeping me out
 

Hey everyone.

Ive recently started a new job in a new town, not far from my old one. Ive settled in well and think things are generally OK, apart from a few people I dont really connect with.

My situation is this. Im a qualified massage therapist, a qualification that Im proud of and often discuss it at work.

There is a guy there who Im pretty sure is attracted to me. He is a nice enough person, and I dont think a potential problem, however, there has been some flirting on his part which I have completely ignored or diffused.

Im not a flirty type, and I have a long term partner of 6 years. Out of respect for my boyfriend I never flirt with other men.

Recently he has kept mentioning a long term knot problem he has in his shoulder, and can I "sort it out" for him.He knows that I am a therapist, and keeps asking me to let him know when I have moved to the town I now work in, as I think my current town woud be hard for him to get too. He has been asking me a lot about all the different types of massage that I do.

My dilemma is this.- I do love having clients, both for Swedish and aromatherapy massage .Its good money for me,if the client becomes regular.

I dont know how to deal with this guy asking for a massage. He could be completely harmless, and become a good regular client, or it could become very awkard, if something were to happen, like he came on to me.

I also dont know how to say no, if he keeps asking, which Im sure he will do,(without causing offence) and he has asked several times, in an indirect way already, and is becoming more direct.

Any ideas . Thanks in advance guys.:wave:

Re: Work situation-creeping me out
 

I dont think he had ever considered massage seriously before. He know its not for free as I have mentioned prices to some of the ladies who work there.

I am actually moving to the town where I work so he knows that already!

Re: Work situation-creeping me out
 

Could you perhaps say that you're not good with shoulders or something and you specialise in some thing else? Then you could recommend someone else (A stupid idea maybe but it might work??). Although I understand than you don't want to have to lie and put yourself down as you have a reputation as a business women to uphold and you want to attract more clients. Have you spoken to your partner about this? Also does this guy know you have a long term bf?

Re: Work situation-creeping me out
 

He does know that I have a long term boyfriend yes. Ive mentioned it before.

My partner is not concerned about me massaging men,as he knows that it is purely a job, and really, although Ive never massaged male clients ( I think possibly once) I dont see anything wrong with doing it, as long as there are no undertones. I think there are male clients who could benefit from it, and it seems a shame not to offer that to men as well.

Unfortunately I think that for some men they think massage means something else. Its really a shame. I have a massge therapist who visits me once a month and she massages male clients.

These are long term clients, and people she trusts though.

It would be interesting to get some views from the male SA members here.


Ultimately I need to say no to this guy because I cant run the risk that something uncomfortable might happen, but my SA goes into overdrive at the thought of offending him, and then him acting funny with me.

Re: Work situation-creeping me out
 

yes Jinny I think the same. I think he just wants me touching him. He even asked me to feel the bit on his shoulder with knots in.

The problem is because im shy I have no idea how to say no in a polite way, and if I make excuses he will know that is what Im doing.

Its so embarrasing :thumbpur:

Re: Work situation-creeping me out
 

Maybe you could suggest he sees the massage therapist you have? If he's really serious about it and she has male clients already it shouldn't be a problem. If he's just asking you because he has other motives then maybe he'll drop the subject instead :)