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Hi everyone, I'm a 22 year old uni student who has had SA for as long as I can remember. I just came here to meet people like me, as I thought it would make me feel less of a weirdo and a fool. I only realised that I wasn't a weirdo (well, hopefully) last year because of a module we were studying which detailed SA and other anxiety disorders, and I immediately matched all the symptoms to myself. It made me feel slightly better knowing that I was not alone.
I just feel I am at the end of my tether right now though with the SA, and I just don't know what to do. The feeling of indecision burdens me constantly throughout my life, but right now I really want to deal with the SA but I just have no idea what to do. It interferes so much with uni and work, and my self-esteem is so low that I find myself blushing in the most inappropriate and un-embarrassing situation :( I look forward to chatting to people who feel the same. Hopefully a problem shared is a problem halved. And it helps that we all can empathise with each other, as others just don't seem to understand, as much as they do try. Emma x |
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Hi Emma,
Welcome to the forum. I've just joined, too and was just about to start my own intro thread when I saw yours, and I thought what the hell it'd be more fun to hijack hers and steal all the attention for myself. ;) No, not really. Apart from the fact that I clearly never grew up, I just wanted to say that you're not alone and I, too, arrived here to learn some things about what I believe to be a long history of SA. Well, after 20+ years of trying to figure this out with [frankly, useless] GP's, my newest solution is to try this forum to see if I can learn from others and see how they handle it. Anyway, that's enough about me for now I should probably start my own intro thread. :) |
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Hehe, hi NotMe. You go for it and steal the show...God knows, you sound far more interesting and have a sense of humour :)
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:wave: Welcome Guys :wave:
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Hi Emma I recently joined to i've been looking at this site for about a month or so but didn't know what to write so it stopped me from joining, a lot of people on here seem to have figured out at a fairly young age that there was something wrong it took me till now to figure it out and I'm 33. Have you been to the doctors?
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Hello and welcome to the forum :smile2:
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Hi Emma welcome to forum no you are not a lone far from it plenty of people in same boat here to help and support you :)
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Thanks for the welcome everyone.
And NotMe, you keep putting a smile on my face, it is hard for me to imagine someone as humorous as yourself being socially anxious :) Hi Benny. I'm sorry to hear that you didn't know what the problem was; I had been studying Psychology for four years and didn't know either. It doesn't exactly get coverage anywhere does it? You have to go searching for answers yourself. I went to the doctors a few months ago for some medication as a last resort. I was petrified and immediately started shaking, sweating and blushing, so he prescribed propranalol which I could take before work. It was, I thought, my last option. I had tried going to a counsellor in college (who just laughed at me, confirming my worst fears), I went to a private practise therapist (who spoke to me in a manner which was patronising) and have tried online therapy and self help books. Nothing works. I'm trying to build up the courage to phone psychological services via the NHS but I'm so scared I can't even use the phone :(. How are you dealing with it? Em x |
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Warmest of welcomes to you both! :d Come in out of the cold. I suggest small steps at first. Does your uni have a student run counciling service that you can call and talk to another student, might be easier and practice for phoning the NHS?
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What kind of herbs are you thinking of? Thanks, Em x |
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Passion Flower is another one you can use with Valerian too though. There's loads more for different things, like if you have issues with your heart I can recommend you other stuff too. Just get tinctures! And make sure it's at least 1:3 ratio. Tinctures are the best thing for these types of herbs. |
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Where do you get them from, like Holland and Barretts or somewhere? |
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Nope, I'll PM you.
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hi Emma
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Hello am1000 :)
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Hello Emma (like the name) Welcome to the Forum! Hope you benefit from it!
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Hi cymruambyth :) and thanks, I hope so too. Do you feel you've benefited from the site?
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I deal with it by doing nothing I'm more ashamed of telling people about it, my sa is not as bad as most people over time I have got less anxious around people but for some reason I fear social events more so I tend to stay in now, I've always been depressed though so I try to only watch things on tv that are funny, keeps me a bit more sane :)
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For depression, doing things which keep you positive are the best idea. When I was in school I used to sit on my floor with a pair of scissors and a razor blade listening to some really depressing music. I think the music made me even worse. If I were listening to the Spice Girls or whatever I may have not used the blades and my mind may have been saved. Who knows. So it's good that you think comedy helps. Em x |
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Hey there :) and welcome to the site, How you finding coping with the SA within Uni, I'm still finding it hard there now :/ I'm slowly starting to get better but lets just wait and see :) Hope you enjoy this site!
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I'm terrible at uni really. So painfully self-aware of everything. How my jeans cling to my legs or how my arms hang by my sides, it's just terribly uncomfortable. When I'm in a lecture I can't speak, even though I know the answer. And when I need to see a lecturer about something, I can barely meet their eye and start stuttering, so the words that come out are not what I had so eloquently phrased in my mind. It sucks :( What have you been doing to make the SA better? Em x |
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I've never told anyone its been a matter of months since I realised I had sa I had another issue in my life which made me depressed and avoid society it was only after I sorted that out I still wasn't right so looked on the internet and sa was me. I haven't done anything about my sa I have loads of ideas but I never end up doing anything, I can't take meds either
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My major problem is talking to people, constantly thinking negative thoughts about myself and enduring social events, what I need is a kick up the bum and force myself into these situations that is the only way I'll overcome them. Therapy probably wouldn't help because I'm so negative I wouldn't listen to them and resort back to my miserable self, I suppose talking on here's a start. How have you been?
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