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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 18th March 2011, 13:37
Replies: 16
Views: 2,244
Posted By hardy
radio4 play on SA

Anybody else hear the radio4 play at 2-15 yesterday . It was the first time I've ever heard a play or any show based on SA. It was quite good.

I hope its replayable online at the BBC website
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 18th March 2011, 13:30
Replies: 30
Views: 4,068
Posted By hardy
Re: What if the illusion of no one liking you is actually true?

It is true ! obviously no one does like you! The big mistake youre making is to think that means that you are unlikeable or actually disliked. Due to your SA nobody can see the real you so at the...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 3rd March 2011, 17:01
Replies: 28
Views: 3,086
Posted By hardy
Re: Can't even relate to fictional characters

youre forgetting that fiction is a kind of surreal world that only hints at real life. Just snap shots ; with the boring bits and silences cut out.
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 24th December 2010, 11:15
Replies: 71
Views: 9,306
Posted By hardy
Re: Ever wonder why people don't like you?

The answer is in your question. A few people will dislike like you because they missunderstand your SA. but most people wont like you because they cant get to know you because of SA. Don't mistake...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 24th December 2010, 10:37
Replies: 7
Views: 1,846
Posted By hardy
Re: What makes socializing an enjoyable / pleasurable activity for people?

I think thats correct. Most people with SA would enjoy it if they were not worrying about what others think of them . that worry is the ONLY thing that stands between you and "normal" social...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 23rd December 2010, 23:05
Replies: 9
Views: 1,340
Posted By hardy
Re: What to do about odd relationship

I think thats the key . he is not likely to change for you . he may suit somone but he is not really what matches your needs . I think you should go for somone else.
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 6th December 2010, 14:17
Replies: 45
Views: 7,203
Posted By hardy
Re: Has anyone here found their first partner after 30 ?

Well I had friends before 30 but first partner was at 32
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 3rd December 2010, 16:43
Replies: 10
Views: 1,985
Posted By hardy
Re: I don't like you.

Dont waste your time analysing . some will like you and some wont . Your Likeability is a kind of average of everybody . we Saers give far to much thought to the few that we think dont like us . They...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 30th November 2010, 12:20
Replies: 9
Views: 2,171
Posted By hardy
Re: Should I even bother approaching girls in my situation?

Youre thinking too far ahead .Like anything it takes practice . Stop worrying about forming a relationship . Cross each bridge when you come to them dont try to protect yourself from "failure". See...
Forum: Room with a View 22nd November 2010, 13:57
Replies: 4
Views: 2,798
Posted By hardy
Re: I went to a Dating Master Class Yesterday

Like most other advisors they concentrate on trying to make you more interesting and attractive . I suspect this is because they know what sells!! They know there are many people out there who think...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 22nd November 2010, 10:30
Replies: 9
Views: 1,746
Posted By hardy
Re: Read book or surf net?

I think theres a lot of truth in the effect of snobbery on your feelings of guilt . In reality its perfectly possible to educate and "improve" yourself by most types of medium . books, films , tv ,...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 18th November 2010, 13:22
Replies: 69
Views: 9,855
Posted By hardy
Re: Have you received abuse from strangers?

NO. it happens to everyone at sometime if the person who does it thinks they can get away with it, thats all
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 17th November 2010, 08:58
Replies: 56
Views: 5,715
Posted By hardy
Re: Just don't get it :/

true.

but tastes vary so much that its extremely rare to find somone that is completely unapealing to anybody.
You Cynic, we have known long enough to know you have talents. Unless you look like...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 15th November 2010, 15:22
Replies: 56
Views: 5,715
Posted By hardy
Re: Just don't get it :/

I think it depends on your type of SA .If its based on thinking that others see you in an inferior and/or unattractive way it is incredibly hard to find a partner. If you can get your head round the...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 4th November 2010, 19:45
Replies: 20
Views: 8,282
Posted By hardy
Re: How can I stop Blushing??

you cant challenge the blushing if its a fact . but you can challege
1) how visible is it to others?
2) do people think less of a person who is red?
3) do people who joke about it REALLY think it...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 2nd November 2010, 13:32
Replies: 69
Views: 9,855
Posted By hardy
Re: Have you received abuse from strangers?

In paranoia its possible to miss translate lip movement ,sounds or speech into negative comments about yourself which were actually harmless sounds or words about somone else . Its also possible to...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 2nd November 2010, 11:20
Replies: 69
Views: 9,855
Posted By hardy
Re: Have you received abuse from strangers?

It does happen to everyone whether thay have SA or not. Its a form of bullying and says nothing about what people generally think of you .
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 1st November 2010, 11:16
Replies: 19
Views: 2,225
Posted By hardy
Re: Boring

theres a possibility that she really meant it when she said she spoke her mind ! Feelings are not tidy and logical . One minute we can find somone boring ;another time genuinly think theyre...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 26th October 2010, 08:48
Replies: 19
Views: 2,406
Posted By hardy
Re: I've got a date`

Youre putting too much into this one date . I know if you dont get many it seems megaimportant . But the secret of success is to realise that its a lottery . You either click or you dont according to...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 25th October 2010, 12:09
Replies: 7
Views: 1,522
Posted By hardy
Re: How people see you.

What SA people need to understand is that though maybe 90% of people may not like you that 90% dont dislike you either because SA means they cant really know you.
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 24th October 2010, 20:35
Replies: 15
Views: 2,124
Posted By hardy
Re: Do people think your simple/naive because of lacking confidence

I think youre right . but I think it shows you how people misunderstand youre behaviour and therefore make assumptions about you. Thats typical with SA . its not that theyve taken a dislike to your...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 24th October 2010, 12:13
Replies: 32
Views: 4,024
Posted By hardy
Re: Why is being very quiet not accepted?

its because employers and work mates are human and therefore just being able to do the job or even be excellent at it is not enough. There is a definite bias towards "sociable people". However its...
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 21st October 2010, 09:16
Replies: 66
Views: 9,322
Posted By hardy
Re: Yet another miserable post about being single and undesirable

I agree . also you need to get your head round the idea that no girl wants a man who is obsesesed with getting a girl!! mainly because that means youre neglecting being a nice person who does...
Forum: The Lounge 20th October 2010, 15:28
Replies: 18
Views: 9,642
Posted By hardy
Re: How not to buy a new laptop.

For Argos you can look up the catalogue number on line and then you dont have to hang around locating it in the shop catalogue.
Forum: The Social Anxiety Room 19th October 2010, 10:01
Replies: 15
Views: 1,853
Posted By hardy
Re: being invisible

that is part of the problem that you dont see much about in self help books if youre starting from an isolated position . To get out of that vicious circle you have to do a lot of approaching...
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