Forum: The Lounge
23rd April 2024, 15:29
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Replies: 36
Views: 1,037
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Forum: The Lounge
23rd April 2024, 09:38
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Replies: 36
Views: 1,037
Re: Learner Cars
I used to own a Fiat Panda that not only had power steering that was barely needed for such a small lightweight car, but it also had this extra super-duper, turbo-charged level of power steering that...
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Forum: The Lounge
22nd April 2024, 13:01
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Replies: 36
Views: 1,037
Re: Learner Cars
I did most of my learning in an Austin Mini Metro, but I think I actually passed my test (second attempt, as with all the best drivers) in a Fiesta. These days I drive a Hyundai i10 which has a water...
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Forum: Club 30-81
9th April 2024, 09:32
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Replies: 24
Views: 740
Re: Early Retirement?
All of my working life I’ve wanted to hide in the background – get on with the job without being noticed too much (although still valued as an employee). Unfortunately, this runs against the grain of...
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Forum: Club 30-81
8th April 2024, 16:57
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Replies: 24
Views: 740
Re: Early Retirement?
I'm actively looking for another job just to tide me over the next few years till I can retire. My mental health has dipped a little over the last year or so with work. I used to think I could last...
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Forum: The Lounge
14th February 2024, 09:27
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Replies: 2,031
Views: 244,816
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
14th February 2024, 09:24
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Replies: 5
Views: 910
Re: Struggling
Hey GI, it's really sad that a great guy like you is lonely and struggling to find friendship at the moment. I'm sure that this is just a blip and you'll meet someone soon. Just keep doing what...
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Forum: The Lounge
14th February 2024, 09:19
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Replies: 8,165
Views: 844,760
Re: TV programs you're watching?
Started watching One Day on Netflix. It’s not bad, but the idea that two such people would form such an emotional bond with each other seems very unlikely to me. In fact it seems very contrived in...
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
14th December 2023, 12:27
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Replies: 31
Views: 1,646
Re: Not caring what other people think of you
^I think you’ve hit on a problem with SA that may divide, to some extent, the experiences of men and women who suffer from this dreadful affliction. In men SA, and shyness in general, is generally...
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
11th December 2023, 17:57
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Replies: 31
Views: 1,646
Re: Not caring what other people think of you
I think this attitude of not caring what others think of us actually has a lot of merit for SA suffers who are almost invariably hypersensitive to other people’s judgment. However, I totally agree we...
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Forum: Club 30-81
22nd November 2023, 09:43
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Replies: 64
Views: 10,814
Re: Covers.
Tom Waits' version of Somewhere from West Side Story
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
16th November 2023, 11:38
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Replies: 5
Views: 875
Re: Is CBT gaslighting?
I think CBT only stands a chance of working if your problem is due to a faulty self-perception. The working assumption is that’s it all in your head and that there’s nothing truly wrong with you....
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
8th November 2023, 12:33
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,284
Re: What does "work on yourself" mean?
Personally, I have never found self-help material much good. The only thing that has helped me to a significant extent is experience, which has simply come with age. Nevertheless, I recommend you...
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Forum: The Lounge
1st November 2023, 13:08
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Replies: 21
Views: 907
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Forum: The Lounge
1st November 2023, 10:50
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Replies: 21
Views: 907
Re: Halloween anxiety
^Biscuits, you make me feel quite the curmudgeon haha.
Well, the doorbell didn’t go at all last night! No trick or treaters, thank goodness! It turns out that, like Dougella said, there is now...
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Forum: The Lounge
31st October 2023, 10:34
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Replies: 21
Views: 907
Halloween anxiety
Does anyone else here dread Halloween and the 'trick or treat' neighbourhood kids coming to the door (often with their parents!)? I try to hide, but to no avail.
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
27th October 2023, 11:23
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,725
Re: Is there a 'real you' under your anxiety?
I agree with others (Biscuits and Anxiouslondoner) that there are different versions of ourselves depending on the circumstances, who we’re with, and how we’re feeling at any given moment. I think...
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Forum: Club 30-81
25th October 2023, 10:51
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Replies: 1,045
Views: 208,872
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Forum: The Lounge
24th October 2023, 12:35
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Replies: 26
Views: 1,138
Re: Do you wear a watch?
I’m not one for jewellery, but I do own a couple of watches which I like to wear when I’m out and about or at work. Both watches are manual winders. Even though I’m not a collector (couldn’t afford...
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Forum: The Lounge
23rd October 2023, 15:57
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Replies: 16
Views: 610
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Forum: The Lounge
19th October 2023, 13:55
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Replies: 7
Views: 581
Re: How do you interact with friends?
This question is kind of hypothetical for me nowadays since I don't really have friends anymore. I've answered 'pub/bar' as that's where I'd usually meet a friend in a former life.
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
13th October 2023, 08:47
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,201
Re: Oprah Winfrey
^Totally agree with this!
Oprah's message could be interpreted as less about pretending to be a brash, extrovert person and more about self-acceptance and not feeling ashamed and inhibited. But,...
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
11th October 2023, 17:43
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Replies: 13
Views: 1,201
Re: Oprah Winfrey
It sounds like good advice. If you constantly hide yourself away, you might let good opportunities slip by and live to regret it. But I wonder how much personal control we truly have to be able to do...
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Forum: Room with a View
10th October 2023, 11:21
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,398
Re: What do you eat for breakfast?
Two cups of freshly filtered coffee (an essential). Then porridge with some blueberries and sliced banana, followed by an apple, and sometimes a shot of kefir. One of the few benefits of getting...
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Forum: The Social Anxiety Room
20th September 2023, 11:14
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Replies: 83
Views: 4,290
Re: How Do You Motivate Yourself?
^^Just jumping into doing something doesn’t quite work for me. In fact sometimes it can backfire because I quickly feel overwhelmed again. Thing is, when you’re lacking motivation to do something...
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