[tryinghard]

I think a sense that you are not gaining from other people's company leads to a lack of desire to seek it. For instance, if the relationships you have are to some extent one-sided, where you are providing for them but they are not providing for you (perhaps because you are not asking for any of your needs to be met). Or if you feel in some way that you simply do not fit in, then you will not get the same level of connection. I don't think it is all to do with anxiety at all. I often feel zero anxiety but simply feel I have nothing to gain from being with others.