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Originally Posted by tomtom123
I don't see it as being nice at all, the opposite in fact because you're basically lying.
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I have to agree with that.
You can't form decent relationships with people if you're pretending to be someone you're not. That's not being nice or pleasing people. It's deceiving.
I know you may not do it with the intention of deceiving others though. Maybe it's a fear of confrontation, feeling too exposed if you express a different opinion or lack of confidence, etc?
I think you should practice saying what you really think. Not just for the sake of others, but yours too. It's not about 'pleasing others'. You also have to think about what you personally get out of interacting with others... and pretending can't be too satisfying for you either.