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Originally Posted by The Chosen One
Obviously it would be nice to actually move things onto a second date. I dont know why I am letting myself down. Maybe I am not as attractive as my pictures are, maybe I look older, maybe I am not as interesting and possibly boring in person? Or I am nervous when speaking to new people (which I think is possible).
So what steps could I do to make sure my dates go well and they would be interested in meeting again? Ive always blamed myself for this, but maybe some things cannot be changed?
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Personally I think it's this. I don't know if people realise what a dramatic effect it can have. Watch this youtube clip of an episode of 'Dating in the Dark'. The woman is pretty attractive, the guy is more average, a little bit overweight even, but the woman is not put off by his looks at all. In fact when she sees him for the first time she seems happy enough. That changes quite quickly because of his nervousness though. Now I know not all women are put off by nerves but quite a few are.