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Old 5th October 2017, 13:11
misska misska is offline
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Would it be best sending a child a school with his cousins and close to grandparents or one away from them. I have sa when dealing with my sisters and their partners, this means I will have to see them all the time if I choose that school. Or should I choose a different one where I don't know anyone and won't feel as much sa when going to pick my child up.
Im worried i will be stressed going to the school gates everyday and I don't know what to decide.
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Old 5th October 2017, 15:27
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Would either option be better for your child? Are they friendly with their cousins?
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Old 5th October 2017, 16:05
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I was never close to my cousins (I mean they were either much older or girls), maybe it'd be good to get your kid friendly with them? For if they ever visit.

I think maybe whichever is closer might be less stressful in those regards too, if there's a school closer.
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Old 5th October 2017, 16:12
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Hi Misska,

I worried about schools too. We moved to a tiny village when my son was a baby & I was very anxious about everyone getting to know my business & gossiping etc. I felt like if I struggled with the local school & other local mums I'd become agoraphobic (well, even more so) because I'd get scared of bumping into them all the time. Plus my son had been to the local nursery and hated it. So I didn't put him down for our nearest school.
I tried to get him into a lovely small school about 6 miles away that we liked the feel of, but he didn't get in & was given a place at a bigger community school in the next village from here. I worried if he would fit in not being from that village, would people ask why he didn't go to his nearest school etc etc etc...

Anyway, it's been great. Fantastic school, far enough away for me to manage my SA, he made lots of friends, now he's at high school which is closer so he walks. (Incidentally, there's a boy that lives 2 doors down who went to a different primary school again, & gets the bus to a different high school, so it's not just me who didn't do the 'local' thing)

I think the important thing is to make sure you can cope. Your son will have his own friends and can see his cousins and grandparents outside of school. It won't be that long before he'll have his own phone & will be texting them!
Visit the schools & see what your gut feeling is about them, whichever you pick, your son will be ok..we worry, they just enjoy themselves
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Old 5th October 2017, 21:28
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Thank you for the replies
I'm not close to my sister's so he doesn't see his cousins that much apart from family patries etc.
The schools nearby arent that good maybe taking him the other school with his cousins would be better for him. I also went that school as a child so it has a family connection. Just dreading future school runs already.
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