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  #1141  
Old 5th July 2020, 02:27
Raks1981 Raks1981 is offline
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Do you use OpenOffice to write up your blog entries? The small text boxes on SAUK aren't conductive to long posts lol. When I worked at the JobCentre, the customers pc's all had Linux and LibreOffice installed - most people get by on free software just fine.

Age is just a number anyway, you sound like a younger dude too. Do you plan on travelling again when covid clears up? I was listening to the Joe Rogan podcast the other night, and he was talking about how the early days of the Internet were populated by the socially anxious. It wouldn't of grown without them, the confident social types spending their time outdoors. So those over 60's on this forum, thank you
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Old 5th July 2020, 03:44
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^ No, I write my blog entries directly onto the blog, I tend to write as things come into my head and then don't edit (although I will be returning to the travel blog to edit that). I am travelling again in a couple of days time (the tickets were bought before the restrictions were imposed and the border controls lifted last week) and I'm trying to plan more trips before the end of the year, but choices are limited because there are whole continents best avoided right now and those places which are safe to visit have closed borders (or at least, closed to the United Kingdom). Some visas are dependent on having a certificate of a negative Covid-19 test (and I would need two tests, one for the visa application and another 48 hours before departure) but I would have difficulty getting tested in the first instance (as I'm not a key worker or in a vulnerable group) so that's problematic too.

I'm not really a silver surfer! I first got the internet in 1997 and in those days, used it mainly for business and reference purposes; this was the first (and only) forum I've ever joined and that wasn't until February 2013, so I'm not one of the over 60s who populated the internet (especially as I'm not over 60 for another 15 months yet!). I don't think I've ever been called a "dude" before though!
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Old 8th July 2020, 01:24
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Can I have a lifetime ban and all my posts deleted please?

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Old 8th July 2020, 01:40
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Please don't delete your posts or leave the forums mate, you're a valuable contributor here, many people have benefited from your advice. I apologize if my posts caused you any offence, I didn't mean any
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Old 8th July 2020, 08:09
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Can I have a lifetime ban and all my posts deleted please?

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Can you ignore this request for now, please? I don't feel that I can offer advice here any longer (I'll explain why later, right now I have a walking tour for which I don't want to be late and I'm hoping to grab some breakfast en route) but I still would like to be involved in meets, if nothing else. I'll post something later which, I hope, will make everything clearer and offer a full apology for the poor advice I've given over the years.

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Old 8th July 2020, 08:29
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^ The way you advice and support people here is absolutely fantastic and your contributions are some of the most helpful and inspirational I've seen - certainly on a par with the great Ajax Amsterdam! If you don't think your posts have been helpful to countless folk here, including myself, then you are severely mistaken! SAUK needs you - seriously it really does!

Enjoy your trip but please don't stop posting Mr gregarious because your wise words would be greatly missed x
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Old 8th July 2020, 10:16
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^^ I agree with Consolida, you have been a really great poster and your advice and experience has been extremely valuable to people here! I've definitely learned from your posts and enjoyed them too. Maybe have a think and let the mods know what you'd like to do. Enjoy your trip
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Old 8th July 2020, 16:56
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^^ Mr Gregarious, indeed! Ajax was - and is - an inspiration to me and I miss him, I'm not in the same league - especially now I know that I've been a fraud for the past five years (unintentionally). I'm not leaving, but I don't trust my own advice anymore.

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Old 8th July 2020, 17:02
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^ It's concerning to hear you say you feel like you've been a fraud for the past five years, we all have different experiences and they are all valid and we give advice from our own perspectives which may be useful to some and not so much for others. But that's a strength of the forum I would say, lots of different perspectives and we can all learn from eachother! (Just to add my view of anxiety in general is the same as yours that you posted in a thread earlier, if that makes any difference.)
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Old 8th July 2020, 17:28
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That is what they call a 'Heart Stopper'.

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Old 8th July 2020, 17:35
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^ Well, I didn't feel that this was the place to elaborate on what I said in the early hours of this morning but since this has been heading in that direction (and I'm not sure where I should post it), this is what I would say:

I have always been convinced, not just from my own experience, but also that of professionals (including the legendary Ajax Amsterdam, who lest we forget is a qualified and practising therapist) and from those with whom I have talked, that social anxiety (as distinct from social anxiety disorder) is a necessary part of the human psyche; indeed, as I have moved towards "recovery" (I hate that word, but I'm using it as shorthand), I have taken great comfort in knowing that those who appear anxiety-free actually have just found ways to deal with it (notwithstanding that those who were normally socialised in younger life have done so naturally and are only aware of such anxieties in extremis, possibly when public speaking or talking other languages, for instance). In recent times, I have taken control of my anxiety to the extent that I can now cope with just about any situation and in good faith, because of the sincerity of my beliefs, I have - on the understanding that I am being helpful - advised others that it is unrealistic to expect social anxiety to vanish and to accept its presence but strive to reach a point where it is no longer prohibitive or restrictive.

I would go even further to say that an absence of any social anxiety whatsoever is potentially dangerous (as it is what prevents us from putting ourselves into adverse situations) and could even indicate sociopathy. However, last night I learned that I was wrong and that not just one but two people have managed to eradicate social anxiety completely; in this context, I have been giving erroneous advice for five years (well, four at least). I have been encouraging people to limit themselves when, evidence suggests, there is indeed no limit. Now, personally, I am unable to reconcile a complete absence of social anxiety with safety, as I still believe that there are some strangers who should be avoided and that that is the function which that part of our being uses to protect us and it is for that reason that I owe everyone a massive apology for misleading you all and is also why I can no longer offer advice. My own limitations are a disservice to everyone here.

Now, does anybody genuinely need a mod's attention, because that's what this thread is for. Also, I owe everyone another apology for my overreaction - a stressful day (signal failure at Tamworth nearly caused me to miss my flight) and fatigue brought out the autist in me!

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Old 8th July 2020, 17:51
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^ This is just my opinion but I also remember the legendary Ajax Amsterdam saying the same thing about social anxiety as you have here and I have always been inclined to agree with that view. Maybe some people do feel that they don't experience any social anxiety at all anymore (maybe they would describe what they do experience using a different word like awareness or intuition) but I think many people here would also say that they will always feel some level of social anxiety.

On this basis I would say that your advice has been and will continue to be useful. But ofcourse whether you continue to post is your decision.

Perhaps the discussion of this will continue in the original thread and people will offer more explanation for their particular point of view.
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Old 8th July 2020, 18:03
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Maybe a new thread / poll on whether or not it's possible to eradicate it completely? I worry that Raks might think I'm picking a fight here, but I'm not. I am genuinely pleased that he and his friend have come so far and I need to understand more before I can offer the best advice.

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Old 8th July 2020, 19:27
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^ That could be a good idea, it's obviously a subject that's interesting to people.
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Old 16th July 2020, 00:12
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Hi Moderators - could I be banned for 1 week please? Cheers
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Old 21st July 2020, 18:13
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All done
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Old 6th August 2020, 18:09
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Hi Moderators, could I be banned for a week please? Cheers
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Old 9th August 2020, 09:28
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Can I have any threads I've started in the sa room or relationships room deleted please. Is that allowed? As they're all ridiculous, histrionic, self-absorbed nonsense I doubt many other people would get much out of them?
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Old 9th August 2020, 09:37
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^ I think you're wrong, Sunrise - a lot of people can relate to your posts and threads. If they are "self-absorbed" or "histrionic" in any way, that's because we all feel that way sometimes. Personally, I've never read anything from you which didn't engender respect or empathy, even if my attempts to help you have been ill-judged.

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Old 9th August 2020, 10:54
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Can I have any threads I've started in the sa room or relationships room deleted please. Is that allowed? As they're all ridiculous, histrionic, self-absorbed nonsense I doubt many other people would get much out of them?
I have done this for you, leaving two threads which were not posted in these sections
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Old 26th August 2020, 00:42
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Could I have a one week ban, thanks.
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Old 26th August 2020, 00:45
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^ Hope you're okay
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Old 27th August 2020, 10:29
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Could I have a one week ban, thanks.
Hi Raks,
I just sent you a PM, but I don't think it went and then I noticed that you have banned yourself.
(The PM was just a start lol, so if it does show up, that's not all I was going to say)

Hope you're ok mister, and well done on passing your exam x
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Old 4th September 2020, 16:38
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Hi Moderators - could I have a permanent ban please? Happy for my posts to remain. Thanks
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Old 10th September 2020, 10:57
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Can the title of the following threads
http://www.social-anxiety-community....ad.php?t=92970
http://www.social-anxiety-community....ad.php?t=92972http://www.social-anxiety-community....ad.php?t=92972
be changed please, I need to add the word "CANCELLED" at the beginning? Thank you to whoever does it, I apologise for adding to your workload.
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Old 12th September 2020, 11:39
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Please may I be banned at my own request. Thanks.
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