other people's lives

[Johnni]

Do you ever wonder what non-sa people get upto in their lives. Are they going out that night, do they have partners?, ho wmany friends do they have?, basically what their life is like. I tend to do this and it's always something positive that they are doing.
I also do it with people on this board sometimes like are they are going out tonight or how many friends they have.

[P74]

I do this as well. I don't always assume it's something positive that they're doing although I did used to.

[crimson~raven]

Yeah! I think its kind of hard not to really. Although I have had this for more than half my life I had a better social life when I had a partner (I can do alot more when I have some one to sort of lean on!) so now I miss all that sitting at home wishing for things I won't have.

But it is best not to dwell too much

[mimosa_the_madness_mouse]

Yeah, when I was in uni halls it was so easy to compare other people's lives with yours as you knew when they were going out, could hear them laughing and joking through the walls etc. I do it to an extent with people from this board too, though I try not too, as all that seems to come from it is a negative comparison that's not justified; just because I'm not going out every night, it doesn't mean I'm not doing worthwhile things. Just because I have a few close friends rather than lots of acquaintances, it's still a perfectly valid way to live, and if anyone else was making negative judgements about me based on the ways I spend my time and my amount of friends, I'd tell them to f*** off (or want to, at least!) so why should I be allowed to criticise myself like this so freely, if I wouldn't let others?