Do you have any goals for 2022

[choirgirl]

The usual rollover, plus the therapy, but I think that was a rollover from last year. Since I have lost my oomph once again, it seems it's the old breaking down goals into smaller and smaller chunks, then writing it all down, then remembering to look at what I've written down on a daily basis, and ...er ... keep at it.

I've also been giving some thought to the gay citizenship process. Of which the main thing that has to be done is coming out. Which is a thing that has to be done. And I'm a bit stuck between clinging onto a fig leaf of dignity and desire to be in control, and going, oh, sod it, just so I can socialise. But it's a sitcom problem now aka, not a real problem. Which is nice. And how much other stuff do I have to give up to claim my citizenship? That's what I'm wondering. Because it's about sanity now, and sometimes, to hold onto what remains of your sanity you have to give up a lot of other stuff you really cared about. Hopes, dreams, ambitions, promises, obligations, values, your old self and the direction that self wanted to go in. I learnt this a long time ago. But I'm at the stage where I am half going, I'll pay whatever it costs, sign anything, just give me my gay citizenship!

[gregarious_introvert]

Although I did post briefly here whilst in Tenerife, I thought I should review the goals for 2020 and 2021 threads, to see what I did achieve in previous years: at the end of 2019, I mentioned being three stones overweight and then a year later, reported that I'd lost that weight. As I enter 2022, I need to lose a stone again. I did manage to travel throughout 2020 and although I didn't go abroad in 2021 (at least, not until the end of the year), I did manage to visit pretty much every part of the United Kingdom - and the Isle of Man (which is, technically, abroad). In 2022, travelling remains problematic (testing, self-isolation, entry requirements and/or being unable to enter certain destinations - and most pertinent of all, the risk of a destination being put on the red list whilst away, resulting in very expensive quarantine) but I do have some plans and will probably find a way to do at least one long-haul trip.

Last year, I mentioned not having been to a gig throughout 2020 and although I had to wait until July, I've managed to attend quite a few during 2021 and have even more booked for 2022, so that was one goal achieved. However, I didn't achieve my goal of improving interpersonal relationships - I actually ended the year with one less friend than I started! I was active on meetup and with the Ramblers and most active with my local CAMRA group, so I do have social outlets, but still seeking that elusive connection which turns an acquaintance into a friendship. There were also efforts at rekindling my romantic relationship and on more than one occasion, I thought things were going well, but I do have to realise that part of my life is over.

As I mentioned earlier in the thread, I've not set any specific goals for 2022, but I do want to build on the progress of recent years and looking back at those old threads has reminded me that I did manage to do that in the past two years, even if it felt like events beyond my control had held me back; whatever restrictions apply this year, I'm sure I'll find some way to keep moving forward.

[indignant misanthrope]

Originally Posted by nothing_special_2501

Attempt to take steps to becoming a barber

well done, you talk a lot about it on here. a good idea to pursue something you like.

Originally Posted by Percy

To keep going

that's my basic goal as well.

[biscuits]

Originally Posted by nothing_special_2501

Attempt to take steps to becoming a barber

This sounds great! It would a fun job - being creative and building up a cliental who like your work.

[anxiouslondoner]

I might go to the gym a couple of times and then forget all about it and start a pie-only diet.
That's if I really put my mind to it. I don't know if I have the mental discipline and commitment.

[Consolida]

To visit my mum in hospital.

[Percy]

Originally Posted by Consolida

To visit my mum in hospital.

Excellent goal

[3stacks]

To consume a world record amount of chocolate

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[Dougella]

^ I'm afraid I think I've already beaten you on that one

[Tonkin]

Possibly get a new job or way to make money.

A few gym goals.

Join a club.

[john smith]

Bought a udemy course and enrolled in some basic free ones. Will I be bothered to do it? I'll try to try it out. Most seem like video tutorials so shouldn't be to hard

[Tonkin]

Anything interesting? I was looking at some courses yesterday and found a popular introduction to front end development one on Udemy that I might buy. But like you, I wonder if I will actually be bothered.

The few times I've bought online courses, the positive feeling I get from buying the course, is enough to increase my mood, which in turns makes me feel like I don't need to do the course any more

[Consolida]

Originally Posted by 3stacks

To consume a world record amount of chocolate

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Too late, I've beaten you to it!

[neilm]

To do more than I did in 2021!!!

Shouldnt be too difficult a task to achieve

[john smith]

Originally Posted by Tonkin

Anything interesting? I was looking at some courses yesterday and found a popular introduction to front end development one on Udemy that I might buy. But like you, I wonder if I will actually be bothered.

The few times I've bought online courses, the positive feeling I get from buying the course, is enough to increase my mood, which in turns makes me feel like I don't need to do the course any more

One I got was how to use Unity to create vr games with a project to create a beat saber like game.

Didn't buy course but bought supplies and watched a few YouTube vids on how to solder. Bought a practice board so start on that. Likely be a disaster.

[Tonkin]

Sounds fun anyway. Good luck!

[Mellie]

To volunteer with dogs.

[Dougella]

^ That sounds great! I'd like to do some volunteering with animals.

[Amara 94]

Self improvemnt

[Blue Salamander]

Talk to someone out there

[Martin74]

To get a better job with more money.

[Bluebear]

I didn't have a goal at the beginning of the year. I've started playing the piano again though (not completely sure why I stopped)

[SFC01]

1) I want to complete Spanish course on duolingo, I'm halfway there.
2) Get down 13 odd stone, a stone to go
3) Work on informal mindfulness (ie staying mindful all day, in all aspects of daily living). Been trying ten years on that tho ha.

[Jen.]

How did this year go for everyone?

[Ronnie_Pickering]

set no goals. 2022 has had it's upps and downs. A fantastic mini-holiday with a friend from sauk in Cornwall. Broke my duck and found work for a couple of months. Grief has improved a fair bit after the loss of someone. (undisclosed). Got a new nephew. Getting marginally better at hot summers. A new meetup group didn't work out, but it was worth a go. (better than curtain-peeping). Found about 10 new walks end of 2022 which is going to be great giving them a go next year. And that's about it.

[Dougella]

^ You went on an sauk mini-holiday! What do you mean you broke your duck? Congratulations on the nephew.

[Ronnie_Pickering]

a friend from this forum who doesn't really use this place now. A really great adventure at Cornwall. My duck- I was 8 or 9 months unemployed. So it was good to break that, alas unemployed again. Yeah my sister popped a baby, after a miscarriage. So she's a fully-fledged mother now to her delight.

An alright 2022 Dougella? Or Jen? Or anyone?

[limey123]

I made very few of my goals for 2022. The highlight, though, was getting a new job that I like.

[biscuits]

Originally Posted by biscuits

I'd love to brush up on my Portuguese. I've been trying to find a sort of Zoom course because I'm a bit too worried to go to one in person (covid anxiety & being uncomfortable in a mask). Ideally, I'd like to join a little online group instead of 1:1 tuition and for it to be at the weekend.

This never came to fruition mainly because there didn't seem to be anything like this at the time. Instead I starting using an app, but it's Brazilian Portuguese, so the pronunciation is a bit different. I need to find a better app or course.

In terms of SA - I attended two fun meets, which took a lot because I was incredibly anxious. It shocked me because I wasn't expecting to be quite so anxious - even though the clue's in the name: social anxiety .

[Dougella]

Originally Posted by affluenza

a friend from this forum who doesn't really use this place now. A really great adventure at Cornwall. My duck- I was 8 or 9 months unemployed. So it was good to break that, alas unemployed again. Yeah my sister popped a baby, after a miscarriage. So she's a fully-fledged mother now to her delight.

An alright 2022 Dougella? Or Jen? Or anyone?

Am I missing something though, where does a duck come in? Or is this an autocorrect thing.
I'm sure you'll be employed again, I know you've been applying for a lot of different roles.
"Popped a baby" I'm sure she's very happy if she really wanted to be a mother. Being an uncle (or aunt, I don't know which you identify as) is probably fun too I imagine, especially when the baby starts to speak and can play.

Yes I had an alright 2022, I managed to attend my Mother's wedding which was the main event. Saw all members of my immediate family which was nice as I don't live nearby anymore and one of them lives in Canada.