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Old 18th January 2011, 21:39
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see i'm buggered. i dont do aftershave!!!
TBH I like the nice clean smell of soap on a guy but most guys seem to where aftershave so thats why I put 'mild'.
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:40
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blokes who wear aftershave smell like a tarts handbag unless you know the specific one the girl like you could shoot yourself in the foot sticking the wrong one on. stick with natural on a first date and some decent deoderant.
yeah , i just wash well and use a roll on anti- persperent (sure) and abit of spray
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:41
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and don't eat anything with garlic that day or the day before.
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:42
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Also if some bloke invited me on a date I would expect to have his attention. I.e. phone switched off, no texting, no emailing, no phoning. No chatting to friends he sees at the bar (beyond pleasantries). This would not amuse me.
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:48
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Also if some bloke invited me on a date I would expect to have his attention. I.e. phone switched off, no texting, no emailing, no phoning. No chatting to friends he sees at the bar (beyond pleasantries). This would not amuse me.
oh yeah forgot about phones - on silent, in pocket.
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:50
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how come no one ever asks what a blokes expectations of a date are? why is it always us blokes that have to jump through hoops?
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:54
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how come no one ever asks what a blokes expectations of a date are? why is it always us blokes that have to jump through hoops?
Only because the OP asked about women's expectations. You could start a new thread stating the bloke's point of view
I'm actually quite curious. I bet I can guess them. lol.
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:54
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Because women hold power over men.
only the ones on this forum, shock horror some blokes actually get woman chasing after them
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Old 18th January 2011, 21:55
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^ If you do as Dory suggests I think you might better post it in the basement.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:04
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^ If you do as Dory suggests I think you might better post it in the basement.
could be amusing but i don't think i can be bothered

blokes on here expectations of a date would be that they got a date in the first place and that she turned up, and most would respond "i'd never get a date anyway nobody likes me woa is me blah blah blah" zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

hmm could that be the answer to their dilema? act desperate and needy get no where act confident and not desperate and you appear more desirable?
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:06
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could be amusing but i don't think i can be bothered

blokes on here expectations of a date would be that they got a date in the first place and that she turned up, and most would respond "i'd never get a date anyway nobody likes me woa is me blah blah blah" zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

hmm could that be the answer to their dilema? act desperate and needy get no where act confident and not desperate and you appear more desirable?
I don't do dates anymore. Not a clue what guys want either.

To answer the OPs question: I was a bit turned off by someone who didn't seem to be bothered to make the tiniest bit of an effort. Maybe he wanted to come across as extra relaxed and cool but I found it a bit umm disrespectful.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:12
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I don't do dates anymore. Not a clue what guys want either.
we're pretty simple all we're looking for is the response that you like us during or after the date
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To answer the OPs question: I was a bit turned off by someone who didn't seem to be bothered to make the tiniest bit of an effort. Maybe he wanted to come across as extra relaxed and cool but I found it a bit umm disrespectful.
what did he do turn up in flip flops and a string vest?
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:16
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Pretty much yep. I don't think most men like needy and desperate women either, they want confident and 'mysterious' - never quite mastered the whole 'mysterious' thing!
i've had more luck in the past in random situations where i'm confident and comfortable than on real dates one of my ex's i started seeing after she was round a mate of mines while i was stripping the front end off my car in his garage and was messing about i was in manky old overalls and covered in crap.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:18
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Exactly!

Spank her ass on the way into mcdonalds and give her a time limit of 20 minutes to make a decision based on your interactions. At 20 minutes, she can take it or leave it.

We shall call it, McDating.
there's confident and then there's being a total **** and i think you've just described the second
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:19
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we're pretty simple all we're looking for is the response that you like us during or after the date
Hmm, you mean like you have to say that? :yikes:

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what did he do turn up in flip flops and a string vest?
Well he was dressed in something that looked like he had slept in it, he hadn't shaved and I had strong suspicions not showered yet either. I don't expect someone to turn up dressed to the nines but a little effort? The basics? Would've been nice.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:22
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thank you for the responses.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:23
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Hmm, you mean like you have to say that? :yikes:
not say but there are lots of other subtle ways of showing it.
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Well he was dressed in something that looked like he had slept in it, he hadn't shaved and I had strong suspicions not showered yet either. I don't expect someone to turn up dressed to the nines but a little effort? The basics? Would've been nice.

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Old 18th January 2011, 22:23
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croks and a mankini

omg, that is such a great image, lol.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:27
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not say but there are lots of other subtle ways of showing it.
Oh I did the smiling thing and it was real, too, not forced or faked or something. But I'm just lost when it comes to other ways. No clue or I simply couldn't do it, like taking his hand or something. I'd die.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:36
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i've had more luck in the past in random situations where i'm confident and comfortable than on real dates one of my ex's i started seeing after she was round a mate of mines while i was stripping the front end off my car in his garage and was messing about i was in manky old overalls and covered in crap.
As you get older random situations rarely happen, especially with SA and not going out much. It's OK I don't mind online dating or the whole dating process. I guess I've always seen it like a job interview - something you have to do to get to the next stage.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:37
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Oh I did the smiling thing and it was real, too, not forced or faked or something. But I'm just lost when it comes to other ways. No clue or I simply couldn't do it, like taking his hand or something. I'd die.
that's probably the simplest but it's doubley difficult when you've got sa, just have to decide if the goal is worth the factor of it.


edit: this is probably why most people get together when alcohol is involved, takes away some of your inhibitions.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:48
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that's probably the simplest but it's doubley difficult when you've got sa, just have to decide if the goal is worth the factor of it.


edit: this is probably why most people get together when alcohol is involved, takes away some of your inhibitions.
That's me settled then.
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Old 18th January 2011, 22:53
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That's me settled then.
>

or did you mean you're gonna get merry and go for it?
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Old 18th January 2011, 23:00
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Naah, option 1 it is.
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Old 18th January 2011, 23:03
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For example, both of my 2 jackets are quite tight and I'm a pretty small guy
You only have 2 jackets?
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Old 18th January 2011, 23:04
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You only have 2 jackets?
i only have 1 , which i thought was normal
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Old 18th January 2011, 23:05
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Naah, option 1 it is.
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Old 18th January 2011, 23:06
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i only have 1 , which I thought was normal
To be honest, it probably is normal! Just weird for me!
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Old 19th January 2011, 00:24
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Also if some bloke invited me on a date I would expect to have his attention. I.e. phone switched off, no texting, no emailing, no phoning. No chatting to friends he sees at the bar (beyond pleasantries). This would not amuse me.

Holy shit Dory! I wouldn't get into long texts and would avoid it unless really necessary but if a woman had this expectation from the outset I'd say bye bye, we just wouldn't be suitable. Just sounds a bit draconian to me

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oh yeah forgot about phones - on silent, in pocket.
Really didn't think it was that common! I've never turned my phone off or onto silent on a date. Maybe I've just been lucky and I've dodged a bullet all this time

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hmm could that be the answer to their dilema? act desperate and needy get no where act confident and not desperate and you appear more desirable?
C'mon you can't say stuff like that around here! The sky will fall down

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Pretty much yep. I don't think most men like needy and desperate women either, they want confident and 'mysterious' - never quite mastered the whole 'mysterious' thing!
Well I like someone who's fun, shy's fine, a bit demure is nice, feminine, and just overall sweet, they don't have to be confident or mysterious.
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Old 19th January 2011, 00:31
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I have to say that in my view, unless one is an on-call medical doctor, one ought to be able to turn off the mobile and give one's undivided attention to the person sitting across the table.
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