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View Poll Results: Are you in a Relationship?? | |||
Hetero Male: YES | 29 | 13.88% | |
Hetero Male: NO | 100 | 47.85% | |
Hetero Female: YES | 34 | 16.27% | |
Hetero Female: NO | 37 | 17.70% | |
Gay Male: YES | 1 | 0.48% | |
Gay Male: NO | 5 | 2.39% | |
Gay Female: YES | 1 | 0.48% | |
Gay Female: NO | 2 | 0.96% | |
Voters: 209. You may not vote on this poll |
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Straight, male, single. Naturally. Damn, I hope I never lose my sense of humour.
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Hetero male in longterm relationship.
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I think some women often lose sight of the fact that they may not be getting approached by the men they really like but how much worse would it be if they never got approached at all! I never said it was easy being a women, just that it's easier than being a man. I don't see how anyone can argue that isn't the case. |
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I think the true explanation for the discrepancy is that one gentleman is with all the ladies. He's a really fast runner and has a variety of elaborate and convincing disguises. He must be worn out. I hope he finds the time to twirl his best fake moustache.
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No one said all women get approached all the time. Lets not take it to extremes. The fact is that on average women get aproached far more than men, which is not at all for the majority of us. But of course you could take Johnny Depp as your male and Susan Boyle as your female example if you just wanted to be silly about it. |
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He's so intriguing. That's the secret. |
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Yeah of course. I'm not saying that women can't have it bad. And if you never have had a relationship as a woman and have never been approached then it can't get any worst! BUT imho if you were a man, you have a lot further to go to sort that out. And even if you conquered your SA and were going out, and were considered of average attractiveness, both in looks and personality the likely hood is you would still very very rarely get approached. The poll really correlates with that. Rougly 50% of female respondees are in a relationship while only 20% of male respondees are in a relationship. I think that speaks volumes. |
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I'm female, single by choice. This is the first time I've been single in over 10 years so I'm in no rush to get into another relationship.
I agree that SA men have it tougher for two reasons: shyness in men is seen as effeminate, and men are expected to approach women (a thought unfortunately still held by the majority I think). But beyond this simpistic idea there are loads of intricate details, some of which Moonin wrote about. Being approached by randoms never usually amounts to anything, and I stopped getting attention when I'm out and about during the day when I got to my mid-twenties. But in the past I do remember it was the men that did all the chasing in situations that led onto relationships. Well, they had to. Back then my SA was horrific! Having said all that my ex is getting insane amounts of attention from women these days. He is getting asked out loads and has loads of women openly flirting with him and asking to spend time with him and basically doing loads of chasing and pushing. He doesn't have SA, and he is a good looking guy but he wear glasses and dresses geeky and his humour tends to disgust and freak out 99% of women (gawd I sound like Cynic with my 99%'s haha). He is as shocked at the attention as I am, because he never got it when he was attached and went out alone. It's weird. Maybe the girls can smell singledom on him. Incidentally I've had pretty much zero attention since we split. I'm trying to get across that although yes SA men have it tougher in the dating game, the reality is more multifaceted than that. And like someone said earlier, there is no point arguing over who has it worst. There never is, regardless of the situation or context. It's a never ending debate and serves no purpose. (Yes I realise the irony of adding to that debate then saying it is ultimately useless). It's better to direct your energies on trying to overcome your SA so you can feel happier around people, especially the people you fancy. |
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Regardless of whether men have it harder than women if you do what is needed you improve your chances of finding someone.
I think this whole debate that has been on here for years is partly due to justify why some find it hard to get a partner if they can say 'well i have it harder than others so that's why i'm struggling to find someone'. Its like its reassuring them that what they are doing or how they are going about it is'nt wrong and that it's not their fault cos they fit a stereotype that is not attractive to the opposite sex supposedly. |
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How can anyone deny it's NOT tougher for men logically it's beyond me. Statistics prove that the majority of SA men are single and I'm sure it's the same for non-SA men comparing against single women.
The whole dating/courting game is tougher for men over all because of silly traditions, historical gender gaps and conformity. Every women knows if they join a dating website they are flooding with messages from guys daily... Give me a woman who can assert them self in the dating game instead of standing on a pedestal giggling and fluttering waiting for Mr Darcy seductively brushing his bushy sideburns to woo and charm them. |
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Now I remember why I rarely come on or post here. I feel like my experiences are ignored/invalid. Well I know how bloody impossible it is so thats all that really matters
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I'd say with SA, nobody has it easier. I've been approached by girls before, completely froze up and only said as much as I needed to get them to leave me alone because I feel too inept to talk to them. I imagine SA women have that issue when men approach them as well. Being approached and approaching are both terrifying.
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You could argue that being a single female when say 40-50 has more negative connotations (correct word?) than being a male at that age. The word 'spinster' just seems more negative than 'bachelor' and in my experience it seems the reasons people think why someone that age is single is worse if they are a female than a male.
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