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Old 14th December 2011, 07:01
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Default Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex?

Or the same sex if that's your thing ?

I firmly believe this is half the battle with SA.
It's also something which is largely misunderstood or belittled by those who do consider themselves attractive (and are).
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Old 14th December 2011, 09:23
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Seeing as i'm considerably overweight and have very bad teeth(combination of neglect,dental phobia,bruxism, and tmj) i am as far removed from attractive and sexually desirable as one can get.
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Old 14th December 2011, 09:26
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

In a word, No!!
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Old 14th December 2011, 10:18
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

definately not,..

I think a lot of our perceived ideas of ourselves comes from others, and if other people tend to ignore you, and never think of you or talk about you as a fanciable person then your natural conclusion would be to think you're not attractive.

maybe it's a case of nothing ventured nothing gained,.. maybe people do find us attractive, but due to little or no socialising we never really get to find out.
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Old 14th December 2011, 10:36
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

I think im quite attractive in various ways, relating to both physical, mind, personality, beliefs, emotions, interests and such.

Though I think people are attracted to me for more vain things then become attracted to other things that more important. It seems to be the overall impression I get from talking with people I have been with. (Or even otherwise) I dont understand what they talking about but that seems to be the general idea. I know im not bad looking but I personally find that quite irritating as a method of finding the 'right woman' as got certain requirements, such as needing a certain level of brains to follow my train of thought when im talking. Preferably to join in or just generally understand what im talking about - Even if they disagree with it. At times when I single it a bit awkward if someone is flirting with me who probably not my type. Or sometimes not flirting but just a general girly thing going on towards me for whatever reason..

Though some things that are attractive can easily be unattractive to others. Its just how things are.
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Old 14th December 2011, 11:10
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Ha, lol, no.
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Old 14th December 2011, 11:16
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Some yes, I can recognise it and it's often mutual. Sometimes attraction is not obvious, it lies more in personality. There's times I've physically ache to be with a certain person or seeing them has sent my mind into a frezy of fantasies, sometimes seeing a guy who you know likes you creates a sucker-punch feeling of excitment in the guts and kissing the right person is euphoric but that was in the past. Most guys do not find me remotely attractive.
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Old 14th December 2011, 11:33
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

I consider myself to be fairly physically attractive and have no qualms stating so. I believe a certain degree of self-indulgence and pride in one's physical appearance is necessary in order to feel confident and/or secure. After all, physical appearance is the first criteria by which a person is judged. I agree that appearance is a significant factor concerning social anxiety. Back when I was in the darkest days of my depression, I took no pride in my appearance and made no effort to make myself presentable. I would often go weeks on end without showering or shaving. This made me feel very self-conscious around other people, it was like I was entering social engagements half-defeated.
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Old 14th December 2011, 11:47
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

No, not at all. I think women see me as puny, peculiar looking and altogether unattractive and undesirable.
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Old 14th December 2011, 12:20
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Hahaha certainly not.

I think it has affected my SA in a large way, when I was younger I got bullied for my looks a lot and it got ingrained in me, now when out and about my imagination tells me everyones looking at me and thinking how ugly I am. Of course it's entirely in my mind - people probably don't care how I look, but as the SA interprets every imagined scornful glance as a "oh you're so ugly" comment, which can really wear you down.

Funny is I have actually no idea what I *really* look like to others. I can clearly remember feeling ugly all my childhood yet when I look back at old photos it seems I was actually a nice looking kid. Which is a shame as I spent a whole load of time as a kid wishing I was one of the "pretty girls" when, looking back - I was one.
So I have no idea how distorted my view of myself is...and that makes it hard too, if someone compliments me on my looks I can't tell if they're taking the mick or not

Yikes I sound a bit crazy
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Old 14th December 2011, 12:28
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

To put it simply: Ahaha no.
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Old 14th December 2011, 12:31
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Absolutely no chance.
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Old 14th December 2011, 12:55
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

I reckon I look alright. Not today though, no hot water at home so I can't have a shower…
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Old 14th December 2011, 13:14
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

No, for numerous reasons...
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Old 14th December 2011, 13:49
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

LoL.............nope and the opposite sex agree, but I've had some chances with the same sex.
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Old 14th December 2011, 13:58
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

I think I'm reasonably attractive, I'm no model by any means or anything like that and my face is definitely not perfectly symmetrical or whatever but I do look alright from some angles and I notice girls looking at me from time to time lol.

I've always struggled with this quite a bit tbh. Being the fat kid when I was growing up pretty much meant I was classed as ugly by my adorable peers growing up, we all know how sweet kids are eh? Then with my SA dating never happened, neither did having any meaningful conversations with girls or anything like that, I even used a fake pic on msn when talking to my online friends for years so I never had any reference for how I actually look. I even avoided having my photo taken so I couldn't check that way.

I place far too much emphasis on my looks still and I'm always looking in mirrors etc which doesn't help one bit, I usually swing from thinking I look good to I look horribly ugly. I'm learning to accept that I must look ok though because I do notice people looking at me in a good way and being down on the way you look is just shit really.

I hope that makes sense, I'm partially baked right now lol
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Old 14th December 2011, 14:04
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Not so much at the moment
But, I have in the past (there's photographic evidence to support this )

Need to get back into shape *jumps on the treadmill*
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Old 14th December 2011, 14:05
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

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I've had some chances with the same sex.
Interestingly, I'm gay and have had chances with the opposite sex. Life's a bitch, eh?
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Old 14th December 2011, 14:07
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Physically, no, and in regards to what there is of my personality, definitely not
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Old 14th December 2011, 14:18
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Yes, no, maybe, no idea. -goes to ask a friend "so, do you find me sexually attractive?"- -slaps self- too much sugar too much sugar um in the past people have commented positivly on my appearance but ive also had bad comments on it. I see myself as unattractive but i dont need to have sex with myself so thats all good i mean erm yea it does plays a part in self-confidence/image sometimes because people often judge me and each other by appearance though my appearance will probebly change from time to time. I think who i am is more important than what i look like and i'll only befriend people/go out with someone that thinks the same I dont actively date people so i dont find it a problem
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Old 14th December 2011, 14:19
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Well, i have been working on my body by dieting and working out for several years now and am final pleased with what i see. i just have absolutely no fashion sense so have no idea how to show it off. The lack of fashion sense also means i dont have a clue what to do with my hair. I can improve on those things though, something i cant improve on is my nose which i have been told is quite large
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Old 14th December 2011, 15:05
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

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Or the same sex if that's your thing ?

I firmly believe this is half the battle with SA.
It's also something which is largely misunderstood or belittled by those who do consider themselves attractive (and are).
I believe I scrub up well and I have often been told by other people that I am attractive. It does sound rather vain, but it's true LOL

What is really interesting is it has probably made SA worse for me! Because people presume I must be confident and I am not. People have often said I am aloof or up my own @"$*-people who don't know me.

I think that confidence is what makes someone attractive! I find confident people attractive(and slightly intimidating). I do have confidence about my appearance and how I dress. I don't have confidence about ME and who I am; my personality .

Yes it is nice to have someone tell you you're attractive/nice looking or whatever, but, it doesn't do a lot for me! Because I want people to say I have a great personality, I am fun to be around and great company etc, because those things mean a whole lot more!! x
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Old 14th December 2011, 15:49
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No, I'm one ugly mother****er.
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Old 14th December 2011, 15:50
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Nope, almost 37 years old and still single. It's not solely about looks, other factors obviously come into the equation. Like I really can't be bothered...
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Old 14th December 2011, 16:32
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

I can look alright at times,rough as a badgers bum at others...but yes generally I think I`m averagely attractive. History shows at least some men have found me attractive Although when depressed I can even talk myself out of that,thinking that proves mental instability,poor judgement or downright desperation on their part than any desirability on mine. Funny how just about everything comes down to how you look at it and attitude in the end.
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Old 14th December 2011, 17:19
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**** no

i grew up in school having the piss taken of my appearance, although it was an all boys school most of them had girlfriends from other schools or somewhere else, and then there was little old loner me

i look a complete tramp if i let my hair grow (which most women seem to prefer) ive had the piss taken of me when i shave my head even though i think i look marginally better this way

i look like ive been dug up, i have zero "fashion sense" (although i find this term bollocks..i wear what i like..not for others) i never work out so although im not fat or anything..my arms are probably about as big as a 10yr old girls

the fact ive managed 1 girlfriend by meeting in real life first in 25 years says enough..i didnt even find her attractive/my type but i went along with it for a month because i was so much in shock that someone found me attractive (although i believe i was just being used)

i think i can be more attractive if you get to know me, im apparently funny and kind and all that stuff, that probably got me somewhere to meeting 1-2 girls online as they could get to know me before seeing me..

i have huge issues with my appearance though, i might be somewhat desirable to certain women if they get to know me first as a friend maybe...looks? **** no im an ugly mug
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Old 14th December 2011, 17:30
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If any female wants to PM me after looking at my pic...feel free..I'm easygoing and like myself moreso now than in the past.
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Old 14th December 2011, 17:47
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

Yeah I do, not to everyone obviously. I like to think quite positive about my looks and even when I'm scruffy and in pjs I think I look quite cute, where as if I'm all dressed up and wearing something that shows off my figure I think I look quite sexy/hot. The only reason I probably think this is because the way I carry myself with confidence and positive thoughts etc. I just don't seem to worry about my looks or worrying about what guys want or wishing that I was like other girls either.

I think that my confidence and body language shows a lot as I seem to get chatted up a lot when I'm out, but then I could say that guys in clubs will chat up any girl to get a piece so who knows .
But minus the night clubs, I still get quite a bit of attention so I've never had a problem with guys or finding dates so my looks or personality must be doing something right.
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Old 14th December 2011, 17:50
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Default Re: Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex ?

My personal opinion on myself changes when my mood changes. If I am going on a night out and make an effort to look good I believe I look attractive and may sometimes believe that others will find me attractive as well.
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Old 14th December 2011, 17:53
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I dunno, I kinda think I can be. I've got a girlfriend, so at least she finds me attractive, I think, wait let me ask her..............


She just said if she had a dog with a face like mine, she'd shave it's @ss and teach it to walk backwards

Nah but before I had SA, I did get female attention.

But i think cos im from a multi race background, I have an exotic look, and some people find me interesting to look at. I dunno. Just don't ask my girlfriend
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