Coping with living alone?

[newbs16]

As someone with social anxiety how do you manage with all the responsibility of living alone. I mean

the bill paying
maintaining the property and garden
socialising, or interacting with neighbours
dealing with problems if they arise
having to answer the door (I usually ignore everyone)

thanks.

Newbs

[Jane Doe]

Generally, okay.

I live in a housing association flat so I don't need to do much to maintain the property apart from contacting them if anything needs repairing. You can do it online now which is so much better The downside is inviting male strangers in but luckily they never say much and just get on with their job.

If I lived in a house or in my own home it would be so much more difficult because if something went wrong I'd be responsible for contacting all of those organisations myself, so I'd probably end up living in a death trap! And of course, if I needed to tend to a garden I'd run the risk of neighbours wanting to chat over the fence etc. I rarely leave my flat, and if I do it's nearly always in the evening when it gets a little dark so no one sees me. If I do pass anyone on the steps or outside I'll say "Hello" if they talk to me but I would never speak first.

I never answer my door either, not that I ever get visitors. On the rare occasion someone buzzes me I have a mini panic attack so I've muted it now.

[endo_endo]

No issues these days. My SA is still there i just do it anyway

[Dougella]

I don't live on my own, but even with me and my partner living together it's been very helpful to have parents we can call and ask what we should do when things go wrong! We've had the bathroom light go out and needed to get a specific type of bulb to replace it with, we've had a leak under the sink, we've had a thermostat that wasn't working and various garden things that we needed advice on.
I assume usually you would need to call the landlord for them to deal with it, but it helps to have advice from people close to you.
Other things you pretty !uch get used to over time.

[R.H.I.N.O.]

I have no problems doing all the things that need doing to run a house single handed. Wish i had someone to share it with though.

[T]

Over the years i've learnt to cope alot better when i first started to live on my own sometimes my SA creeps in when i'm dealing with certain situations but in general i can cope with mosts things these day!

[firemonkey]

I live on my own , but get quite a lot of support to do so. I'm best at managing my finances, but not so good at other activities of daily living. My care plan says such support is to allow me to continue living independently in my flat.

In Essex ,where I had very little help due to no family/stepfamily being near, I was basically self neglecting .

[Formershyguy]

I live with my mum and have done for many years! I'm 42 and would actually love my own place but it still scares me a little. I do help with the hoovering. We live in a council Flat which is quite nice actually with a little garden. She has a gardener come round every week to do the garden and gets a cleaner in too!

I would love to live on my own as I would have a lot more freedom. I like to go out in the evenings but she suffers from anxiety too so I don't feel I can leave her too often. When I do go out at night she will often go to her friends house which is only a few doors down but I have to pick her up in my car as she's scared of walking back at night which is like a 2 minute walk!

Ideally if I got my own place I would want to be able to pay all the bills on time as well as having saving to fall back on just in case I needed it! In some cultures this is pretty normal where children are still living at home or they take in their parents too!

I actually save more money living with my mum because she pays most of the bills. I just pay rent and council tax and also do the weekly shopping for her. I also buy her cigarettes and brandy when she has no money either. So in a way she relies on me too!

A few months ago when my girlfriend was still in the country (she was from Mexico) I stayed in a hotel with her. It was so nice and felt like a Holiday!