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10th December 2018, 18:50
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Hello :)
Hi new member here
 I’ve joined because I think I have SA. It doesn’t have a debilitating impact on my day to day life, but it certainly makes things difficult for me at times. I’m quite shy and very much a worrier anyway. I struggle in some social situations. I’m happily married but don’t really have any friends. I find it difficult meeting new people and knowing what to say. My husband is trying to encourage me to get out more and meet people because he knows I get lonely sometimes. I ‘m just not sure its worth the effort and the stress that comes with it. I actually met one of my husband’s colleagues last week and enjoyed it to an extent- probably only because my husband was there as well – but didn’t stop worrying about it all the next day. I have quite a social job so by the end of the day I’ve had enough of socialising. I work full time as a teacher – not sure it was the right choice tbh- and unfortunately its becoming more and more often that I’m having to interact with new people. I’m finding it quite draining. I worry I probably come across as being aloof/rude in the beginning. If the new person is confident that tends to make me feel worse because I think they might think I’m incompetent. I really struggle with eye contact – I don’t look at people when I’m talking to them unless I know them really, really well (e.g. family). I don’t mind talking on the telephone but I hate people looking at me whilst I’m talking and as much as I love eating (!) I don’t enjoy eating in front of people I don’t know. I often worry if I’ve offended people - I’ve completely broken down in tears at home many times because I’ve thought I’ve upset someone – when I’ve apologised the day after people are often unaware of what I’m actually apologising for. At work today I spent 10 minutes in the toilet crying because I thought I’d said something offensive. I’m emotional and prone to tears anyway. Most of the time I’m aware that I might be over worrying and over analysing things but it doesn’t stop me feeling the way I do. Having said all of that I’ve spoken in front of 70 people on a couple of occasions which I feel is a real accomplishment (didn’t look at them though :D). Thank you for accepting me on the forum. Any guidance would be great. 
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#3
25th December 2018, 23:36
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Re: Hello :)
Welcome to the forum!
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