#1
|
|||
|
|||
this site would benefit from...
some sort of dating forum, imo. dating for the SA-inclined! I'm gettin desperate so I'd stick my photo up strai8 away!
|
#2
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Whilst I agree in principle i'm not entirely sure SA relationships work out well due to nobody speaking. Still i'd be happy to put myself on there
|
#3
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
This has been suggested, discussed and rejected many times pretty much since SAUK first started out.
People are here for support, advice, chat and to broaden their social networking with other SA sufferers. I'm sure many relationships have been formed at meets, via online chat, email etc anyway without the need for a dedicated dating forum. It would defeat the object of this forum overall if it were turned into a place for dating, plus as usual the ratio of men would vastly out number females. Remember there is a penpal forum anyway, maybe try in there for starters? |
#4
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
"Chances are if you can't get a partner in the physical world, you won't get (or keep) one from the internet either"
gee thanks mate! |
#5
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
As for a dating section on here - the administrators have said in the past that they do not want a section like that on this site. However, there are a few social anxiety or anxiety-based dating websites out there I believe? Plus as someone else said - there are meets, the penpals section, etc. |
#6
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
I've had several online girlfriends. One lasted over a year. Whilst I've never had a 'real' girlfriend so that person is talking rubbish
|
#7
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
In fact a poll was done in the basement not a long time ago about relationships formed here, and I can assure you the results of that in no way tallied with your guesstimate. |
#8
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#9
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Cynic, you really don't want people to be happy huh? Perhaps you've never had a decent long lasting relationship online but I can vouch that many people, myself included have. There is next to no correlation between people not being able to date online not being able to date in reality or vise versa. My apologies if you've been hurt severely by either but let's not generalise
|
#10
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
Or are their more inadequate males than inadequate females? In which case what do all the single women do about the shortfall in adequate men? Do you think that only "adequate" people mate and have relationships? |
#11
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
If you happen to find your 'soulmate' through SA fair enough, but I think there is something extremely inadvisable about seeking out potential partners based on the fact they have the same mental illness as you.
|
#12
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#13
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
One of the biggest attractive qualities of a person is being positive towards things, it gives you energy and belief; not only in yourself but also to your partner (or partner to be) and the whole relationship. I don't think it matters where you find that person as each environment requires a different approach and only that person knows how best to project themselves in the most favourable and comfortable way to them, for example, I really dislike clubs as a meeting place and don't consider them an appropriate meeting place for something sincere, meeting people in clubs has never ever appealed to me, maybe that goes for a lot of people here to, so the "conventional" way doesn't necessarily mean it's the best way. I like clubs to dance in though, that's all. Things have changed and we now have so many different avenues to approach it that suits us better than there used to be. Take Care Danny |
#14
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
|
#15
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Okay well maybe the ppl who think it's a bad idea cud just ignore it. But for those who think it's a good idea I don't see how it cud be detrimental to have a dating forum.
|
#16
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
Having been around this site for quite a while I can verify that quite a few long term relationships have arisen from this place alone, even marriages. And that's one reason why you don't really need a dating sub-forum here. It's a social networking site in itself and if you're looking for a relationship there's no better way of doing it than talking to people, getting to know them and taking it from there. I think there are some sites geared towards dating for the socially anxious, depressed, mentally ill, etc, but don't ask me what they are, I don't know. |
#17
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
The site owner, Administrators and Moderators don't want to have to moderate or take responsibility for a dating section. It has the potential to cause all sorts of problems. We are a social anxiety support site, not a dating site. The decision has already been made that there won't be a dating section I'm afraid. |
#18
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
Quote:
|
#19
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Trouble is i can see a great number of male members and very few, if any, female members!!
|
#20
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#21
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
Although i can of course well understand why some people choose the dating site option. |
#22
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
it would be more a case of lonely ppl havin the oppo to alleviate that 4 ea other and maybe bring a bit of meaning into their lives, as opposed to predation.
Fair do's tho, can be looked at fr a variety of angles and is obviously about as popular an idea as, say, terminal illness, so perhaps we shud leave it dere!! let's focus on a dancing banana instead. |
#23
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#24
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
Actually there are several great posts in that thread!! |
#25
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
I didn't mean to imply that it was only men who were preditory. I believe women can be equally guilty. The problem is that some people with SA might have deeper mental health problems and so could be more vulnerable than your average person. I also think a lack of social skills (which I certainly have) might make it harder for someone in a "date" situation.
It is possible to find a partner through SAUK without a dating forum, as many of us have proved. |
#26
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
You come across as a very bitter person, I think that would be more of a problem than any other when it comes to finding a relationship. |
#27
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#28
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#29
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
|
#30
|
|||
|
|||
Re: this site would benefit from...
Quote:
Also being SA doesnt necessarily mean your ugly. If you want proof of that go into the photo section and have a look at the random pictures of yourself thread if you havent already. Youll probably change your mind soon enough. |