Type what you're thinking about right now (11)

[anxiouslondoner]

^ if in doubt, hit Ade Edmonson in the face with something heavy, that always generates a laugh.

[choirgirl]

^^^^Working full time minimum wage while living in a houseshare for ever is my idea of a nightmare.

I'm bone deep exhausted of a lifetime of peopling.

[Toxic]

Don't they pay £10-£10.50 an hour to work at Lidl

I'm sure its meant to be fairly cushy (I mean I live up north so £10 an hour isnt completely impossible to survive on either)

I do sometimes think I'd be fine stacking shelves on the night shift, I tried to get a job doing exactly that 10 years or so ago. I live about 2 minutes from a large Tesco, it would have been perfect - couldn't even get a bloody interview, from the sounds of it..half the city had the same idea

[Amara 94]

My body has gotten used to intermittent fasting. Going 16 hours without food, even more tbh, is not a challenge anymore. However, I feel I need a break because of my mental health. It's not hard to fast but eating 2 meals in a 7 or 8 hour window can be hard for me as the time goes by fast.

[Amara 94]

When we say anxiety makes it hard to get a job. It's difficult to hold a job that involves lots of interaction. Is it really as impossible as we imagine?

I was thinking about this the other day. Lately I have not been exercising as much because it sometimes feels forced/fake. Imagining myself muscly, I would like to be, feels contradictory to me. Because I feel like I am a man, but I'm not aggressive, macho. I'm more sensitive, I even don't want a job in construction as it feels too rough for me, I imagine. So even though I want muscles it feels like someone like me shouldn't really have much muscles, weird talk.

But then, it feels wrong because I believe it's wrong and that's like a protective behaviour towards my ego I think. We can do anything we want to however, that also means that we have to face our weaknesses.

If I were to work in a social environment it might mean confronting my weaknesses and things that I don't like about myself. It would be possible but difficult.

[Introspheric87]

I'm so tired of feeling like I am the problem. That I am the one who has to change, that I have to do something, change something, be someone else to fit in.

[Amara 94]

^ well I do think responsibility is the root to curing addictions and managing mental disorders.

[hellotiger]

Trying to convince myself not to buy a lovely vintage cardigan off eBay. I don’t even have room for it. I just feel like it’s mine, I can see myself wearing it and how nice it will look, and I feel like it belongs to me. I’m not supposed to be spending any money on myself unless it’s necessary. Budgeting sucks.

[Dougella]

Originally Posted by imperfect_perfectionist

^ well I do think responsibility is the root to curing addictions and managing mental disorders.

Addictions and a lot of mental disorders often have pain and trauma behind them, so therapy and working through past events aswell as mental health treatment are what has been proven to help.

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by Dougella

Addictions and a lot of mental disorders often have pain and trauma behind them, so therapy and working through past events aswell as mental health treatment are what has been proven to help.

Yeah I agree but part of the therapy is being able to accept the trauma I would believe. Which is kind of like learning to take responsibility for what the trauma has left behind.

[Tonkin]

Lidl/Aldi do pay more than the others but they work you hard as they have minimal staff on at any time and you have to work whatever section needs staffing.

I think the olden days of just stacking shelves are over as you're constantly moved around from cleaning to tills or wherever demand is.

[Toxic]

^ Oh hell no, I've been at the receiving end of the till in Aldi before, its like being being assaulted with one of them machines that fire tennis balls. I couldn't do that bit! I'd just like a 3am stroll about with a trolley of beans

[biscuits]

^ Remember when they didn’t have scanners at the till and the staff had to remember the codes for every single item. They were so fast.

[Dougella]

Originally Posted by amara

Yeah I agree but part of the therapy is being able to accept the trauma I would believe. Which is kind of like learning to take responsibility for what the trauma has left behind.

What the trauma has left behind maybe or understanding why you turned to alcohol or drugs or developed a mental health problem in the first place. I think it's very important that people know that that trauma is in no way their fault or their responsibility though.

[Toxic]

^^ Poetry in motion

You could tell who where the veterans, usually the middle aged/older women. Had been doing it since 1974 and knew every single code off by heart!

I used to frequent Kwik Save back in the day when I was dragged shopping, plenty of speedsters in there too!

[Merritt]

Thinking about that bit from Common People that goes "You'll never watch your life slide out of view, and then dance and drink and screw, because there's nothing else to do" and thinking that actually sounds pretty good to me.

I'd relate to that song much more if it went "and then have a sit down and fart and eat Haribo Tangfastics, because there's nothing else to do". Come on, Jarvis, sort it out.

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by Dougella

What the trauma has left behind maybe or understanding why you turned to alcohol or drugs or developed a mental health problem in the first place. I think it's very important that people know that that trauma is in no way their fault or their responsibility though.

Yeah their trauma isn’t their fault.

But I think it’s responsible to admit they have a problem in the first place. But this seems like the hardest thing, even for me, imagining I have an anxiety problem that has resulted in misunderstandings is hard to owe up to because it’s almost like being vulnerable and accepting that the way you are is not always right and you are imperfect.

Maybe your perspective is different to mines though.

[Percy]

It's so sad about nikki grahame, anorexia is such a cruel disease.

[biscuits]

^ so sad

[Dougella]

^^ Yes it's terrible anorexia has the highest mortality rate of any mental health condition.

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by Percy

It's so sad about nikki grahame, anorexia is such a cruel disease.

Yeah it’s sad, also DMX’s death. Someone posted the quote in my signature on my Instagram yesterday and I felt the quote was so relevant.

[Percy]

Dmx's death is also sad.

[Bored]

The Duke of Edinburgh awards hmmmmm a bit like the cub scouts and girl guides?

[Bored]

Originally Posted by Percy

It's so sad about nikki grahame, anorexia is such a cruel disease.

yes it's sad, not enough money is given to mental health provisions in this country, but hey ho we can afford to buy forty percent more nuclear weapons, I wonder if DMX ever got any mental health help,

[Percy]

Originally Posted by Bored

The Duke of Edinburgh awards hmmmmm a bit like the cub scouts and girl guides?

Essentially yes.

[Amara 94]

My younger cousin told me today that he thought that I was part of the lgbtq from the first time seeing me.

Others have thought I’m gay or questioned it in the past.

I definitely like women. I don’t know what I’m completely attracted though.

[Toxic]

Are peoples lives so empty they have to go rush to queue outside ****ing Primark for some £2 pants.

Trying to get to work this morning was worse than christmas traffic.

Theres some bars not a million miles away from our work, apparently half the city must still be furloughed and are milking it while the rest of us poor bastards who never got a day off are still trying to get on with things

[Percy]

Someone needs to hurry up and invent holodecks.

[Amara 94]

Maybe the best way to combat the silent treatment is through accountability and coming to terms with your truth.

The silent treatment is sometimes seen as psychological abuse. I have had it happen a few times to me. One of my neighbours seems to have resulted to giving me the silent treatment.

Recently I just realised like with anxiety the silent treatment works by producing negative feelings when you aren't even in the situation. I have feelings of guilt, admittedly as to why my neighbour may have given the silent treatment but then I also question if I should feel guilty. I'm not perfect but I don't out and harm anyone either.

I think, like with building confidence, the best way I imagine to stand up to the silent treatment is to own ones truth because, idk if it would get rid of the silent treatment, but like the silent treatment goes on to shut down ones voice living in your truth and not being ashamed of it takes the power away from the silent treatment I imagine.

Imagine a confident person receiving the silent treatment?

[Amara 94]

I feel I can see Instagram slowly dying. But then it's not really dying but changing. Like Facebook isn't dead but has became somewhere more for groups and I guess older people.

This makes me think about the future of social media a bit.