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People say you should just ignore bullies/they talk crap etc....but what if they are actually telling the truth? I get very confused on looks/appearance when it comes to who decides what is and what isnt "ugly" and if theres differing levels or does it depend on certain peoples own preference..or are there standards! a list of what is universally classed as unattractive (Yes i overthink this a lot) from what ive discovered from being around certain people i do seem to tick a lot of boxes on personality (and even looks in some cases, god knows how!) But the constant putting myself down/thinking im undesirable and unable to see what potential women might see in me isnt gonna do me any favours now im rambling.. but thanks |
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I haven't tried at all. I see no reason at all why a women would want to have a relationship with a freak like me.
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not sure lol. I vaguely remember something about him having a girlfriend a while back but i think people were just joking. |
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Never have much chance if I avoid anyone that looks at me, or whimper when i talk to them while being bright red and ugly looking.
On the odd times when i am feeling less anxious, still dont get the chance as I need to have known them for a while to talk, and by then they probably just see me as a strange character. Its totally understandible though, if someone went all embarrassed and tried to avoid me when I said hello, then i would think they were odd too. |
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Obviously they weren't the type to go looking for trouble and avoided places and people that might give them hassle. None of this mattered when it came to getting attractive girlfriends because the girls in question couldn't give two hoots about 'hard' men! |
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^ Lol, well tis true sadly hehe .
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I think quite a few women, even non-s.a. ones, would quite like a partner with no friends- when I had a boyfriend who had friends (this was back in the mists of time in about 1986) I hated it as they thought I was too quiet n shy and I thought they were too annoying and loud. The last 15 years with a friend-free partner have been great and I have no desire to join the 'in-crowd' thanks very much. Cynic, I see what you mean about a large percentage of women demanding a popular boyfriend but there are loads of women who just want someone they have a lot in common with and who understands them well. Something tells me you are going to find fault with this argument...
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^ Same is true for guys. I am SA though mostly recovered and an introvert by nature. It just wouldn't suit me to have an incredibly sociable partner with hordes of friends to have to deal with. An old female friend of mine was very sociable and I know it did her partners head in. He wasn't SA in the slightest and fairly outgoing but when she'd have friends round which was quite often he'd make his excuses and leave.
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I believe, when in comes to relationships, itll happen at the right time when its meant to. I know it can seem crappy when you want to be with someone and share things with someone and be in love, but if you just concentrate on whats now, and also with SA keeping positive to help overcome it, things will happen, you will meet someone. Im not very good at explaining myself but i hope that makes sense!
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