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Getting Older - Image
OK so Im looking at a recent photo someones taken of me and i notice how old im beginning to look, quite scary really!! This really confirms to me, (Ive just reached 50 now) that everything is deteriorating. My health is, my energy and enthusiasm for life is misplaced somewhere and i cant find the person i once was. Part of me is afraid of what ive become ie feeling that life has passed me by and another side to me feels angry and let down as if to say is this what ive got to look forward to. Another side to me wants to fight back but i fear im rapidly losing that. Any advice or shared wisdom would be much appreciated right now as maybe im just feeling a bit low
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I feel your pain, I've just turned 50 too. When motivated, I can exercise and eat well and feel good about myself but I've been experiencing a bit of a binge period these last couple of weeks or so and now feel old, fat and tired. I really want to be healthy in my old age but my fondness for food and drink, coupled with my non-existent will power, is working against me.
So I can preach to you about the importance of keeping physically and mentally active but I need to take a bit of my own medicine. |
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AT 52 I think I've given up, doesn't seem much point trying to change things now.
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Hi greenman
I am sorry you feel the way you do. I am 57 and have not given up on myself. I find doing jobs around the house and garden gives me satisfaction when I feel energised and motivated to do them. I hope you can get to an SA-UK meet. It would be good to have one for over-50s although I am not sure there are that many of us who could get together in one place. We are probably too scattered. There is nothing wrong with trying to look your best and you can achieve this with new clothes, haircut, exercise and diet (doesn't have to be drastic - could be just minor changes). Perhaps you could change your image a little and wear a style of clothes that you would not normally wear but that you maybe have always wanted to. I often feel better when I am wearing something new. It might be a good idea to get some sort of counselling as talking about how you feel is often beneficial and you and your counsellor might be able to work out solutions to obstacles to your well-being as well as ways of dealing with your anxieties. This article lists 50 things to do to get yourself out of a social-anxiety rut which can be applied to any age. Social Anxiety rut - 50 ideas |
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whoever said that life begins at 40 did not have a clue, life starts to go downhill fast after 40.
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Being the wrong side of 50 i'm finding increasingly difficult. It's that realisation that i am on the home straight and my life is not going to get any better from this point onward. My many regrets are becoming more and more apparent. If only........................
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God I wish no one kept track of your age. What is good after 40? The body begins to fall apart: libido drops, looks fade, muscles weaken, hair greys and thins and you have to face the fact that the best years are over. Your life is no longer something that is all ahead of you, but something that is mostly behind you. You aren't going anywhere any more. No one is really interested in the middle aged, it's only the young who matter. Being young was horrible, but at least I had hope. No matter how unhappy I was, my life was still in front of me and there was a chance that things would work out. Now I know it won't. Time will speed up and my 40s will be over in a flash. Things are simply going to get worse and worse until some hideous disease like cancer or alzheimers ends this horrendous existence. Did anyone see a documentary a few weeks ago on suicide? There was a guy on there who'd starred in Downton Abbey but had to leave after his wife killed herself. He was interviewed in the documentary and he said "she never really got over turning 50. She felt her life was over". Age is not 'just a number' when that number can cause nervous breakdowns and even lead to suicide. It doesn't surprise me that in the USA people actually undergone therapy specifically to help them cope with turning 40 or 50. Apparently the person most likely to kill themselves in the UK is a single man aged 44. I can totally understand why. You have just gone over the tip of the hill and are starting your downward descent. If you haven't started a fulfilling career, had children or met 'the one' you probably never going to. |
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Biologically and psychologically are we meant to live beyond a certain age?
My Dad is 82, suffering crippling spinal arthritis, barely able to walk, in pain every day, sits around in a chair watching TV waiting for something to happen. My conscience is challenged regularly when he tells me he does not want to live in an old people's home wasting away being spoon fed and having his backside wiped for him. Quality over quantity of life anyone? (Sorry if this post came across as intense and provocative, not meant to, just being being blunt and honest). |
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I think i'm regressing
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