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Is it possible to live your whole life alone?
Have any of the older people here been friendless and partnerless their entire lives or do you know anyone who has?
Or do you think it would eventually drive a person mad? |
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I don't think it's possible for people with SA as most of us want to be around other people. The desire to be round other people wins over the fear of being around other people in most cases.
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I have so far but not by choice and it does drive me mad.
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you're right Winnie. I find the whole situation a bit of a 'catch22' situation. I'm actually desperate to be with someone, ie/ a girlfriend, which is natural I suppose, but my SA stops me dead in my tracks, so it will never happen I reckon.
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Re: Is it possible to live your whole life alone?
I would guess there must be a lot of people who actually choose this.
One sad story that I always remember was an old bloke who lived alone in one end of a one room cottage on a Scottish croft, with his cow at the other end (seriously). He was very happy, and had lived and worked on the croft all his life. Of course for the authorities, this just WON'T do, we must live like them or not at all, so they forced him into a care home. He was dead within a month, the shock of losing his solitude, and way of life was too much. Not really realevent to the question, but I just wanted to share it. |
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It's possible in that you won't grow two heads or nuffin, but it's hardly the way ahead. Do you enjoy your own company - that's a major factor to consider. Humans are social creatures after all; I think you'd possibly get very depressed and perhaps die younger, I don't know.
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I don't know if I would say I was happy being alone but I have become used to it. The only thing which distresses me is being around other people. The more time I spend on my own the happier I am.
I do worry though, if I haven't gone insane. I will take a fortnights holiday from work and not speak to anyone for 16 days and it feels completely normal to me. Alot of people would think that was quite strange. |
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Yes through it depends on the person. We are social creatures and most human beings crave or even require social interaction. The harshest punishment in prison is solitary confinement. I do see TV and other forms of entertainment bridging the gap as we as a society are not as social as we used to be. How many street parties have you seen?
But to show how someone can desire solitude the below is copied from a website: 'Tom Neale. After decades of bumming around the South Pacific, Neale realized his life's dream on October 7, 1952, when he was put ashore on Suwarrow atoll in the Cook Islands and took up residence in an old WWII coastal watchers' shack. Subsisting mainly on what he could catch or raise, Neale lived contentedly alone until arthritis sent him back to civilization in 1954. He returned from 1960 to 1963 and again from 1967 to 1977, when cancer forced him to check into a hospital, dying that year at age 75. Does the South Pacific have a lot of large, uninhabited islands that could sustain a person indefinitely? Who cares? As Neale showed, all you need is one. ' So it all depends on the person. |
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Oh yeah, definatley.
I had friends but as for partners, I've been alone all my life and will be alone for the rest of my life, just watch. |
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Well, in some cases you don't have a choice as in my case, so i suppose you have to be prepared for it. So yes it is possible, but i don't see it as a good thing at all, people shouldn't be on their own, but like i said, sometimes you just don't get the choice
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@Muffin.Dont write yourself off mate.At least you were married once right?Shows you must have something going for you. |
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Re: Is it possible to live your whole life alone?
It is possible to live your whole life alone if you decide to, but sadly and more tragically, in the same way that other bad things happen in life, there will be people who will have to live alone not through choice. I'm not sure of the types of people who would end up alone though, but if from what I have read is true, "nice guys" are most likely to end up alone.
As for me, no - I'm not alone, I have people around me. As for a partner, that's another story... |
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But you have got a choice - there are places you can make friends even if you're shy. If you want it badly enough you will do it.
Thinking negatively will not get you friends or a partner. |
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You guys are just lovely, thanks for your kind words. Fugmaster, Ross and D66, i would so love you to find partners. I realise that i've been married once, and i've even had 2 relationships after my divorce, but all have failed and it's left me seriously wondering, with each failure it casts bigger doubts on myself so i really don't know anymore. I would like to think it's possible still but right now i am very confused to the point where i've really shyed away a little. Winnie, your sentiments are totally correct, but it isn't very easy when you're feeling out of sorts and confused. There isn't many places for "shy" people to find a partner, not that i know of anyway |
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I'm sorry if my new positive stance is inappropriate I was thinking on the lines of meets and SA support groups and there are shy dating sites I believe. But I still have faith that none of us have to live our lives alone. to all... |
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That's the spirit Muffin Head! You're a great guy and I'm sure you (and all the others) will find your special someone when the time is right
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I do have a few friends but as for a girlfriend or wife .. i have given up of ever meeting someone
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It's nice to see that a lot of people on here get together. Just a shame that a small few of us don't and never ever will, on any forum.
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