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crappy mates
im sick of my crappy mates none of them ever bother to text me in the week or ask how i am... i just feel like they cant be arsed and got better things to do.... any ideas what i can do to get out of this mess
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Re: crappy mates
You are probably making them think that those sort of things are not your style. i know it's unfair but do it with them first, but yourself out there as often as you can. If they are good friends, they will reciprocate. Don't feel like they don't care about you, make them care about what you are upto!
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I love my friends to bits, often think about them and wonder how they are, sometimes when i'm feeling more likeable i'll even tell them how special they are to me but nethertheless i hope they always know they mean alot to me.
I bet your mates love you to bits too and just like me often think of you, my mum has friends that she only speaks to every few months but they've been mates for many years and know in times of trouble they are there for eachother. It's hard when you have sa to make the first moves, to think will they want to hear from me, i'm terrible for worrying bout things like that, but yeah i bet your mates care far more than they show. |
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i do text them quite a bit half the time they dont even reply!
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some friends are crap like that - i think everyone wants different things from their friends. Maybe you want more of a family-ish, support each other type of friendship and they're more into casual, hanging out type friendship? The only thing i can suggest is enjoy these ones for what they are and try to find others to fill the other needs you have - i know that aint easy tho
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Oh yea, I get that sometimes too, the not replying to texts things. Try to speak to them on msn or facebook or something.
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Re: crappy mates
Wish I knew the answer to that. I had a really crap week last week, and the worst part of it was that I felt so alone through it all. Thankfully things improved, but not through the help of friends...
Maybe it was just a problem that needed to be solved and I did that myself, but still it would have been nice if a friend had been there for me. Maybe I don't give people the chance to, wish I knew. It also annoys me when others don't appreciate my being caring - a colleague at work seemed very down yesterday and I sent her a text saying comforting words, and offering to be there if she wanted to talk, she didn't even react to it and today mostly ignored me at work. That did make me feel a bit silly. |
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