Type what you're thinking about right now (10)

[Custard_cream]

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Originally Posted by Jason90

^ vent all you want, if people dont want to read a post then they can skip it. I find doing something i enjoy usually keeps me preoccupied so i dont think so much about being depressed, i know its difficult when you feel so low but i bet theres something you enjoy, music usually helps change my mood, hope you feel happier soon .

Originally Posted by Luna.

^^ Sorry you're feeling so low Cc. I'm sure nobody is getting sick of you on here, it's good to talk about things that are bothering you. Depression can make you feel very lonely.
Things seemed to be looking up for a while so I hope you start to feel better again soon.

Originally Posted by anxiouslondoner

Moan as much as you like CC, sorry you're feeling down. Hope things turn around for the better soon.

Thanks everyone. Hope things do improve, why do things seem to get better then feel so much worse so quickly?

[Pablo Huntsbach]

Originally Posted by hellotiger

^ Sounds as if it was a selfish decision from her. That it was easier to ignore whatever happened between you. I'm basing this off my own experiences having done it to someone before. I loved the guy and still do probably but sometimes when something is complicated its easier to cut it out completely. Of course the only person you could get an answer from is the girl and even then she might choose not to give you the truth.

I broke down a few months ago and ended up sending a fairly pathetic message begging her to just talk to me. No reply. Don't really know what I wanted out of it to be honest, I was in the middle of a crisis and desperate for… something?

[hellotiger]

^If the guy that I've cut contact with had sent that I'd have ignored it too. I'd have seen it as just a low point that he was at, that he'd get over, and would only be made worse by me acknowledging.

[Pablo Huntsbach]

Maybe, still doesn't feel right. She strung me along for over a year, came to me whenever she was having a hard time. I could have made other friends at uni but she never wanted to sit with anyone else, it was just me, her and the other guy (who was seeing someone else at the time) in our little corner. I missed out on the social side of uni for her and she went on to ruin me. I asked her to have one difficult conversation with me and she wouldn't do it. She took everything and gave nothing so I should just be able to stop thinking about her and acknowledge that she just isn't all that great but that's just not how I feel.

[Dougella]

Originally Posted by Pablo Huntsbach

Maybe, still doesn't feel right. She strung me along for over a year, came to me whenever she was having a hard time. I could have made other friends at uni but she never wanted to sit with anyone else, it was just me, her and the other guy (who was seeing someone else at the time) in our little corner. I missed out on the social side of uni for her and she went on to ruin me. I asked her to have one difficult conversation with me and she wouldn't do it. She took everything and have nothing so I should just be able to stop thinking about her and acknowledge that she just isn't all that great but that's just not how I feel.

I agree that she doesn't sound like a very nice person, she kept you from socialising with other people and wanted your attention whenever she was having a hard time. There's not much you can do apart from take it as a lesson learned.

[hellotiger]

Originally Posted by Pablo Huntsbach

Maybe, still doesn't feel right. She strung me along for over a year, came to me whenever she was having a hard time. I could have made other friends at uni but she never wanted to sit with anyone else, it was just me, her and the other guy (who was seeing someone else at the time) in our little corner. I missed out on the social side of uni for her and she went on to ruin me. I asked her to have one difficult conversation with me and she wouldn't do it. She took everything and have nothing so I should just be able to stop thinking about her and acknowledge that she just isn't all that great but that's just not how I feel.

If I could find a way to drag you out of the past I would. Your mind spends far too much time there. Wasted energy when there's not a damn thing you can do to change any of it. You won't get answers from her, you won't find answers in yourself, nor from other people. It is what it is.

[MissyP.]

Im thinking about what work i should be doing right now.

[Z.]

Originally Posted by Floppy

Im thinking about what work i should be doing right now.

What's stopping you?

[Sunshine Recorder]

Could I get away with saying I'm 'house sharing' instead of saying I'm still living with my parents, especially at this age?

[MissyP.]

Originally Posted by Z.

What's stopping you?

Originally Posted by Dayvan Cowboy

Could I get away with saying I'm 'house sharing' instead of saying I'm still living with my parents, especially at this age?

I think it would still class as living with parents unfortunately.

[Pablo Huntsbach]

Originally Posted by Dougella

I agree that she doesn't sound like a very nice person, she kept you from socialising with other people and wanted your attention whenever she was having a hard time. There's not much you can do apart from take it as a lesson learned.

I suppose. I don't know what the lesson is though. Don't believe in anyone? That's either really unhealthy or depressingly realistic.

Originally Posted by hellotiger

If I could find a way to drag you out of the past I would. Your mind spends far too much time there. Wasted energy when there's not a damn thing you can do to change any of it. You won't get answers from her, you won't find answers in yourself, nor from other people. It is what it is.

I want to get out of the past, it's just that I was happy some of the time back then and I never am now. I suppose it's all just some useless attempt at recapturing that content and hopeful feeling. Or understanding how I got it, how I lost it and how to do better next time. And find a way for there to be a next time.

[blancmange]

^^ Don't feel ashamed multiple miggs, I feel like that most days.

[Sunshine Recorder]

Originally Posted by Floppy

I think it would still class as living with parents unfortunately.

Oh well, time for me to look into moving out. Now, how should I put this to my parents?

[blancmange]

I've been there many times, definitely know what it's like
hope you feel better soon.

[Custard_cream]

Originally Posted by multiple miggs

Loneliness is killing me. Sounds OTT, but none the less true for that.

I am ashamed.

I know how you feel miggs. Don't feel ashamed.

[Pablo Huntsbach]

After feeling crap for most of yesterday I'd say today was the worst 'getting up for work' day so far.

Also I'm annoyed because they've changed the way I get paid to a flat rate rather than minimum wage with premium rates for weekends and nights. Even though on average it works out at an extra £25 a week it just happened to be the week I'm working nights all weekend.

[hellotiger]

Originally Posted by Pablo Huntsbach

I want to get out of the past, it's just that I was happy some of the time back then and I never am now. I suppose it's all just some useless attempt at recapturing that content and hopeful feeling. Or understanding how I got it, how I lost it and how to do better next time. And find a way for there to be a next time.

You seem to be assuming that it was your fault, that there was something you did or said which caused it. But it doesn't seem that way at all to me. Thinking about it is futile. You could do and say the things you did with another person and it could go a completely different way.
I know what it is to be stuck thinking of all the good times. To wish to go back to them and stop things from falling apart. All we can do is carry on, wait for the next thing to come our way, and hope that if things look like they are starting to go wrong as they did before that we will recognise it and stop it. Maybe it will all go wrong again but life is too long to be afraid of that happening. There are plenty more chances to **** things up all over again.
I probably shouldn't choose motivational speaker as a career choice.

[Dougella]

Originally Posted by Pablo Huntsbach

I suppose. I don't know what the lesson is though. Don't believe in anyone? That's either really unhealthy or depressingly realistic.



I want to get out of the past, it's just that I was happy some of the time back then and I never am now. I suppose it's all just some useless attempt at recapturing that content and hopeful feeling. Or understanding how I got it, how I lost it and how to do better next time. And find a way for there to be a next time.

Nooo, you have to still believe in people! Just don't let someone isolate you from spending time with others and be aware of whether someone you're close to is there for you as much as you are for them, or it's all one sided.

[hellotiger]

^I love getting new toys. It's like Christmas. A very kinky Christmas.

I've just looked in a mirror for the first time this morning and scared myself. Forgot I got my eyebrows tinted yesterday. Thought I'd been drawn on in my sleep.

[Pablo Huntsbach]

Originally Posted by hellotiger

You seem to be assuming that it was your fault, that there was something you did or said which caused it. But it doesn't seem that way at all to me. Thinking about it is futile. You could do and say the things you did with another person and it could go a completely different way.
I know what it is to be stuck thinking of all the good times. To wish to go back to them and stop things from falling apart. All we can do is carry on, wait for the next thing to come our way, and hope that if things look like they are starting to go wrong as they did before that we will recognise it and stop it. Maybe it will all go wrong again but life is too long to be afraid of that happening. There are plenty more chances to **** things up all over again.
I probably shouldn't choose motivational speaker as a career choice.

I suppose. The real reason I'm stuck in the past is that I get far too much time alone to think and it's kind of unavoidable, and when my mind is idle it just automatically goes to the same place.

Originally Posted by Dougella

Nooo, you have to still believe in people! Just don't let someone isolate you from spending time with others and be aware of whether someone you're close to is there for you as much as you are for them, or it's all one sided.

Will do. If I get the chance, anyway.

A relationship is more or less out of the question right now but I'd settle for an awkward, clumsy crush and a little bit of texting. That's a bit pathetic…

[Jason90]

Pretty sure my dads about to get scammed but he wont ****ing listen and my 2 sisters are on his side, maybe im overly cautious or maybe im able to see past the greed that they cant, time will tell.

[Spectrelight]

Originally Posted by Luna.

I assume it makes men feel more masculine or something if they've got a petite girlfriend. Goes back to caveman times where men protected women. I don't know. I've never really noticed that they do dislike them. The fact I'm nearly 6ft tall is nowhere near the top of the very long list of reasons why men would dislike me.

I don't have a problem with tall girls. Taller than me would be odd but that's not going to happen as I'm pretty tall myself.

[Z.]

Originally Posted by CaveGirl

I'm thinking about why so many men dislike tall women.

Is that true? I'm not quite sure it is. If it is, well, I guess human shallowness knows no bounds.

[anxiouslondoner]

Originally Posted by CaveGirl

I'm thinking about why so many men dislike tall women.
I'm going to kiss the next man who says he likes tall women esp those aorund 5ft8/ 9

*cries enough salty tears to flavour a pack of crisps*


just remembered the creepy man from last year who said I was pretty and tall then proceeded to sit really close. Men over 45 seem to have tons of sexual confidence..

I don't know if they do dislike them, really; while I'm no expert on what other men like and dislike, I can't say I've heard anyone saying that. I like tall women, but height isn't really a major factor for me as far as attraction goes. Some of the most attractive women I know are rather taller than average.

[Silent Ninja]

^ It's way too late for steak now, you'll get indigestion (well I would anyway, if I ate steak)

[Silent Ninja]

I suppose you could use Gaviscon as a sauce.

[Silent Ninja]

Soya rather than dairy? (or am I just going too far now )

[Caribou]

Originally Posted by multiple miggs

Cooking steak. Yumz

Nice

[Caribou]

I didn't see the bit where you said you're having a yogurt instead. Yogurt is no subsitute for steak

[Silent Ninja]

Originally Posted by multiple miggs

^ ^aww what are you the taste bud police?? Lol.

People that don't like strawberries are plain wrong.

Well if I can't enjoy eating I don't see why anyone else should