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Ajax, thanks for the input. I've read it all and has actually made me think more deeply into it and not jump to such a drastic decision so quickly. I will read up on the "attachment theory" and see where it leads me. Quote:
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Thank goodness. For a lot of people it has been a life sentence. I'm sure a few on here would agree. I'm not just doing it due to having god awful genes. I'm doing it for other reasons also. You're emphasizing that I'm doing this solely on the reason that I may pass over a genetic disposition. Not the case, but it is a pretty big factor. Where I live, I have the most horrific support network (in terms of the NHS). Was on a waiting list for over a year for any kind of CBT therapy. Then all I got was a letter to do it online which I thought would include me and the therapist using a mic. Not the case. Was literally all typed messages. I know the NHS is going down the pan and has been going through a controlled demolition over the last 10 years. So I cannot blame the NHS itself, Just the powers that be which are behind it. And where I live there are very few mental health charities, even then they are more aimed at depression, bi-polar,schizophrenia and other mental disorders. Not SA. Quote:
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The "I'll show you" yea. You're probably right. But I feel I wont regret it. the effort, cost and pain are actually surprisingly low, I have no idea where you've got these images painted from. You're right, it is easy as hell. Just use a rubber each time. I'd rather do that than for a girl to either have the implant in her arm for 5 years/be on the pill which screw with the body so much over extended years of use. Good short term perhaps. And yes, there are other contraceptive methods. But I'd rather have peace of mind that I'd never be able to spawn a mini-me by getting a vasectomy. Not even going to respond to the last part. It would result to something akin to a truck ton of shit plowing into a fan factory if I did speak my mind. |
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In conclusion. I'm going to put this decision which I've had since I was 19, and wait until I am 25. Others have said that adult maturity really comes into play at around the 25 years of age mark. If I feel the same then, and if I have a partner or not. I'm getting it done. The title of the thread still stands...I'm getting it done. That is set in stone.
All input has sunk in. A lot of it bias from people who have kids or are happy in their own bubble with a boyfriend seem to have a pretty high correlation against the idea with quotes such as "things change over time", "you'll regret it later down the line" and other remarks such as "costly, painful and a lot of effort" I in some ways agree, yet massively disagree. with all of them. Especially the last one. Thanks to all for the input. It's given me a much broader picture of how against the idea people can be. My close close family are on board with it and say "if you feel that it's what you want to do, then do it" They understand my situation which I won't divulge on in a forum. I'll still respond to as much as I can, But I am driving 290 miles north tomorrow and won't be able to respond until Thursday. |
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My honest opinion, and you asked for it OP so I'm going to be blunt too, is that this kind of thinking is nothing more than mental masturbation masquerading as philosophy. Even if I adopt your position that your genes need to be weeded out of the gene pool, which I don't, but if I did it still does not logically follow that you need the snip anyway. All you need to do not have kids is wear a rubber, or your partner take the pill, or both. These things simply require mature discussion between partners, your dick is not going to start spontaneously impregnating people just because you've not had the snip! Also, it is not well understood how having the snip can affect long term health. I bet you'll find a correlation between it, lower testosterone, and all kinds of resultant health risks over a long period of time. In conclusion, don't go running off half cocked (!) and sleep on it for at least a decade or two. |
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It's morally a good idea to have a vasectomy. I won't have one, because I'm homosexual and even if I weren't, it would be unlikely that I'd ever be having regular sex.
By bringing a child into the world, you expose them, without their consent, to the risk of some terrible suffering. If they never exist, they will never miss the opportunities to have an enjoyable life. So refraining from imposing life on another organism is the moral course of action. |
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I like it though, theres logic to a lot of it and its the only non emotional response on here. You're not allowing his age to affect your response... so on paper you're right. Heres my response to the OP... why not remove your testicles that way you will have no option of having kids ever. A Vasectomy is reversible, a scrotum amputation is not. |
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Anyway, aren't there enough people in this world? How many more billions are there going to be before somebody says Stop!? From my life experiences, I can't really think why anyone would want a child. (It's being so cheerful that keeps him going) |
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The time has come. My 25th birthday is upon us.
Things have changed in life significantly. I met my now fiancé 8 months ago and kids are now most definitely on the agenda, just not for another 4 or 5 years minimum. Thanks for those who heavily suggested leaving this idea until at least the age of 25, I can not thank you enough. Much love!! |
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Wow, that's quite a change! Congratulations on meeting your fiance and perhaps you're a good example that people might want to wait a bit before making such a big decision. You can never really tell how you will feel until you are in a relationship.
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Congratulations and all. I know your circumstances have changed but might i just add that some people just NEVER want kids and will NEVER change their mind and that's ok too!! im 32 and honestly I'd get sterilised in a heart beat if it wasn't soo damn difficult to do. I'm beyond bored of people who say I'll change my mind. The world is overpopulated AF and I don't like kids so honestly why have them lol.
Still, i hope everything works out great for you in the future! |
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I'd have to have sex for that to have any effect.
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started thinking once about simple procedures regular people could perform with minimal training. is a vasectomy that difficult?
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^ Nah,..,simples, weeth vun leetil sneep, it's bye-bye babies,
Next,,...Brain surgery, how difficult can it be,..? At least if it goes wrong there'll just be a gibbering drooling husk of a human left, so there'll be no complaints from the patients. |
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Epic thread revival
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Let me talk you through it.... First, 2 of the largest needles you have seen are injected into both sides of the groin to anaesthetise the area. God, that hurt! That was the worst part. After about 10 minutes, the area was numb so the surgeon then got started. Nothing quite prepares you for the sight of someone holding a scalpel with the intention of cutting into your balls. Although there was no pain, I could feel a lot of quite violent tugging and pulling of the sperm tubes, and at one point he asked me if I wanted to see what was going on. Naturally I declined. The tubes were then cauterised and, again, nothing prepares you for the sight of someone about to singe the inside of your balls with a red-hot cauterising instrument. The whole procedure took about 30 minutes, then, after a cup of tea, I was kicked out. I had to hover above the seat on the bus home as the anaesthetic was starting to wear off, and I couldn't sit properly. Over the next few days or so, the pain was unbelievable. Imagine being kicked in the balls repeatedly over 48 hours – that gives you an idea of the pain experienced. Then the ‘black balls’ developed – intense bruising and swelling lasting about two weeks. Apart from that, it was fine! |
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^ Well
As someone who has no intention of ever having kids...the thought did cross my mind to get the snip if I ever found myself in a relationship again ..After reading that I think I'm just glad I'm not in a relationship so its not really needed |
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Maybe it's just easier for guys. I think I'd get kicked out of the GP surgery if I asked for someone to scoop out my ovaries. Honestly they have been the bane of my life, most likely the cause of many health issues I've had too but nah its easier just to give me pills that poison my system more.
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A few times but they just decided to change my pill instead....its really difficult if you don't have kids, doctors just assume you want to breed even if you say you don't. Honestly I'm better waiting til im 35, I've heard it's easier to get the procedure done by then.
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