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What age were you when you got your first girlfriend/boyfriend?
I'm 23 and haven't had a girlfriend before. I am socially awkward around girls I like and if a girl actually does like me I always mess it up and it's too late, she's went off me. I think I'm quite good looking. I have often been considered a selfish person by girls, only caring about myself. I don't think that's true. It's the perception they get. I don't think I ever will have a relationship. Never have, never will. I think the person you are at 23 is the person you will be the rest of your life. Am I right?
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Also these girls who mean jacks**t to you are very judgemental if you think what they are saying is not true, sounds like they know jacks*** to say it as well. |
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I don't think thats right, people go through situations in life which change them whether it be to make them stronger, or change the way they think with certain things etc.
I'd say my first proper relationship was when I was 14/15. |
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Same as you here4help. 22, have never had a girlfriend and as far as i'm aware no girls ever liked me that way. It used to bother me, but i'm perfectly happy being single tbh
I dont think its true that once you hit a certain age you cant change, i've changed loads in the past year and i dont see that rate of change slowing down. The key is exposure to things that you find difficult. |
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Sometimes I feel being single and free is the way to go for some people, along with loosing and ignoring the stigmatization... |
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I don`t think age means much,more what someone has experienced and been through. I think everyone changes as they go through life,whether that be for better or worse.
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15 seems pretty young for somebody with social anxiety. I went to an all boys secondary school so that probably effected me. I wasn't able to meet girls at an early age, therefore I had little experience.
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Really whatever age anyone else was when they had a relationship has no bearing on anyone elses experience,comparing ourselves to others is a typical SA trait I think,but usually quite unhelpful if we get bogged down by it. Whatever age we are,we can always work on ourselves and seek to improve,be that in relation to SA or just as a person generally.
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I was 33. I heard about someone the other day (can't remember who) who got married and had children at 51. |
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I was 24 before anyone was even interested.
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I never will now , I`m 43.
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Maybe I just haven't been in many situations I could meet girls. Perhaps speed dating might be worth a try.
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I'm 36 and still waiting. Frankly there's negligible chance of anything happening from now on, really.
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"I think the person you are at 23 is the person you will be the rest of your life. Am I right?"
I hope not lol. I'm 23 and I still hope to be a lot more confident in a lot of areas later on. I was 16. That lasted for a few weeks. Then still 16 and that lasted 2 years. Although my SA almost messed that up for me before it started lol. You're still young and it will happen eventually. I wouldn't worry too much. |
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i had a few girlfriends when in secondary school and then at 15 social phobia took over my life. i didnt have another girl friend for 18 years and then i met a girl, were not together now but i guess im proof that things can change.
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I've never had one, but I guess I'm in no hurry since purely sexual relationships don't interest me. It's not like women even look at me anyway, but I still wait for someone who actually matters.
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I had a 'girlfriend' when I was 13 but I'm not sure that really counts
I then had a few dates and a couple of girlfriends when I was 18/19 but they were only short-lived and then nothing since. I'm now 26. I've had a few close girl mates but nothing more than that. I sometimes wonder if they were waiting for me to make it more than friends, but I am too scared to find out. |
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I'm 30 and I've never had a girlfriend. I frequently tell myself that I'll never get into a relationship and that nobody could ever possibly want to share their life with me, but my friends always question why I'm not yet in a relationship which makes me think that maybe I am actually worthy of getting a girlfriend.
I'm the kind of guy who takes things slower which might be part of the reason, but also my low self esteem and SA have been the main things that have stopped me. I must radiate this in my body language and it might be off putting for women, so I think I need to get my confidence up so I can feel better about myself and lessen my SA. You are certainly not the person you are now for the rest of your life. I've changed so much in the last 7 years I hardly recognise myself, which is a success story, so you can also become more confident. Don't get downhearted, it is more than possible to grow as a person :-) |
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Hmm strange some people wiv severe social anxiety had a proper relationship wen 14 or 15! I cant work that out. People av told me im very pretty but didnt have my first proper relationship if u can call it that until i was 30! Anyway cos of the way i was and circumstances i didnt feel comfortable talkin to men until i was 27 and i did go to an all girls secondary school too!
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i am 30.
i've NEVER had a girlfriend. fallen in the friendzone more times than i can count. even sex in my reality is a myth, its not real. i just dont know how to get a girlfriend. theres a girl i have a big crush on but dont know how to develop it. shes in another country and hasnt replied to my fb message in two weeks upon replying to hers |
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Never.
I think the desire to even get a girlfriend has long since past. Still I'm a kissless virgin so it wouldn't hurt to have someone with me. |
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I had my one and only short term relationship a few weeks before my 20th birthday, just over three years ago. We were both completely different to each other and it ended up being a bit of a disaster in all honesty. I'm agonizingly lonely but that bad experience has taught me not to just jump into any random relationship for the sake of it.
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i think i was like 7 or something, or is that too young to count. some girl in my class that i didn't really talk to much came upto me and just sorta said "right you're being my boyfriend" and kissed me on the cheek ...and that was that.
a week later she dumped me for some kid called david. dude was such a chick magnet. |