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Old 2nd July 2018, 21:37
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Hey Guys,

So I'm new to all this, although I have been struggling with SA for as long as I remember.
I have been terrible with people and I've always wanted to try and improve and get better with dealing with people.

Last year my friend and I booked a trip to Edinburgh to have some fun and get away for a bit, it was also around my birthday too. We were both going through some stuff at the time. After everything was booked and paid for, a couple of weeks before the trip she bailed out. She didn't give much reason and I couldn't talk her back into it.
We couldn't cancel the flights but she didn't seem bothered about it. I found out later on that we went and did something else the same time of the trip.
So I went on my own and flew to Edinburgh. It was scary, but exciting at the same time, but it was something I had always wanted to do, so I was brave and I did it. One of the main reasons why we picked Edinburgh was because I love pandas, and they had some in their zoo. I spent 5 days up there, walking and walking. Taking photos (love taking photos) and sightseeing. I was staying in a hostel so I had a chance to meet new people. I met a couple of girls who were also travelling solo, and it was nice knowing I wasn't really alone. I had chances to join pub crawls and a hostel party, but that's where I crossed the line, too many people to deal with... I chickened out, which I regret. I know if I was just that little bit braver I could've gone and tried to have a good time. But I knew I would've felt awkward, and I'm not very good at approaching people. But overall, it was a trip worth braving for.

What's more...

A year later, I took a huge leap and travelled to China... ON MY OWN! For one reason only... I volunteered with pandas and was lucky enough to get photos sat cuddling one. I did do a tour while I was there also, to make the most of my time there. But the group was huge! I did try and make an effort, but it was more being friendly rather than socialising and making friends if that makes sense.

I don't want to feel the way I do, and I haven't for such a long time. So, I've been aiming to tick things off my bucket list, do things I'm proud of so maybe one day I'll stop caring about what other people think of me.

Love to hear your brave stories!
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Old 2nd July 2018, 23:32
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That's a really good story of doing stuff regardless of anxiety. It's really nice to read. Keep ticking off those things.
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Old 3rd July 2018, 14:11
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Hi Ruth,
I enjoyed reading your stories. What struck me is that you still managed to enjoy your trip to Edinburgh even though your friend let you down. You had a purpose and you achieved something. I still feel uneasy doing things on my own. For example, I went out to town shopping for new summer clothes last week (only because I have to do the school run and feel I should dress decently) and I only spent the minimum amount of time required. I didn't stay for a stroll nor did I stop for an ice-cream. When I'm alone I feel as if it was a proof to the world that I'm a loser and nobody wants to be with me.

So yes, well done you, and keep it up !
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Old 3rd July 2018, 22:32
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Hi Ruth,
I enjoyed reading your stories. What struck me is that you still managed to enjoy your trip to Edinburgh even though your friend let you down. You had a purpose and you achieved something. I still feel uneasy doing things on my own. For example, I went out to town shopping for new summer clothes last week (only because I have to do the school run and feel I should dress decently) and I only spent the minimum amount of time required. I didn't stay for a stroll nor did I stop for an ice-cream. When I'm alone I feel as if it was a proof to the world that I'm a loser and nobody wants to be with me.

So yes, well done you, and keep it up !
I used to feel like that. I felt I couldn't do anything on my own. But over time I came to point that I was missing out on so much because nobody I knew wanted to do the things I wanted to do. I felt so a lone for so long. I've always been really ambitious, but been surrounded by people who didn't support me, put me down and called me silly and crazy. I got fed up waiting to find someone to do things with, and thought it would be better to prove everyone wrong. So I did, but I lost a lot of friends, and my parents disowned me because they didnt understand. Although I lost so many people and my life turned upside down, my life is better. I'm have the freedom to do what I want, and although I dont have a lot of friends, I have a couple that have been there for me, which is the most important.
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Old 3rd July 2018, 22:44
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I thought I was being brave trapping a spider in a glass...I stand corrected. Well done in your achievements, hugging pandas is pretty epic!
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Old 3rd July 2018, 22:53
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I thought I was being brave trapping a spider in a glass...I stand corrected. Well done in your achievements, hugging pandas is pretty epic!
Oh your brave dealing with a spider! I run a mile! Hate the things! But thank you!
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