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Old 18th July 2012, 22:10
meinemonkey meinemonkey is offline
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Default anyone single still?

just wondering really
whats your social life like??

no friends and no partner means no social life, which means no chance of ever making friends or meeting someone :s

catch 22 really.... beyond pathetic at my age
feeling particularly upset about it today
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Old 18th July 2012, 22:14
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I have no partner and one friend. And a virtually non-existent social life
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Old 18th July 2012, 22:20
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I have my right hand.
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Old 18th July 2012, 22:22
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^^ lol at defiance . i have no partner but i do have friends.

a partner would be nice but i must say having SA makes it hard
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Old 18th July 2012, 22:22
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do you find it hinders your ability to talk to people???
at the moment, people i work with are off on holidays or have just come back from holidays with friends or partners and have stories to tell about the things they get up to

whereas i have nothing to say because i have no life

it makes me feel like the most boring person alive
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Old 18th July 2012, 22:31
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at the moment, people i work with are off on holidays or have just come back from holidays with friends or partners and have stories to tell about the things they get up to

whereas i have nothing to say because i have no life
Yep, I've been there. My advice is to try and find an interest that puts you amongst people but without too much pressure to socialise. Focus on the interest and maybe friends will follow.
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Old 18th July 2012, 22:37
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Originally Posted by meinemonkey
do you find it hinders your ability to talk to people???
at the moment, people i work with are off on holidays or have just come back from holidays with friends or partners and have stories to tell about the things they get up to

whereas i have nothing to say because i have no life

it makes me feel like the most boring person alive



my social life is decentish these days (never used to be)

so personally i dont think it hinders it hinders my ability to talk to people.

if someone starts asking weather im single or anything (which doesn't happen that often actually) then i just tell them i had a couple of phone numbers recently and a date a few months ago..but in the end nothing ended up coming from it [which is the truth]

personally, if someone asks if im single, i dont like saying ..."yes" and just leaving it like that. as sometimes you do get people who will like to judge you negatively.
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Old 18th July 2012, 23:00
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Yes, have been always also. Envy those that at least had some memories.
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Old 18th July 2012, 23:10
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I'm 32 and never had a relationship that has taken more than a shower to get over. I have no friends at all. But' it's mostly through choice, I have subconsciously pushed people away from me my whole life.. people just annoy me. I'm a lone wolf, as they say. If i'm bothering with someone it's because they are of some practical use to me. Being alone is normal to me it's what I do.
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Old 18th July 2012, 23:26
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I have my right hand.
do you ever cheat on your beloved... and use your left hand?

not single, social life isn't great atm. Quite a few of my friends found partners and don't come out no more or stopped travelling out of their local area. Locally I don't have any friends, except for housemate and my dog. But they don't get on
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Old 18th July 2012, 23:33
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it's an open relationship so any hand will do
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Old 18th July 2012, 23:44
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I feel my first post in the 30+ should be a :



Im approaching this section quite quickly though..im now 26.5! with no sign of improvement

the amount of "friends" i regularly speak to you can count on 1 hand..the amount of friends Local i regularly speak to..now its getting complicated...1? maybe 2..at a push

*i have no social life* at all..unless you count talking on msn to a couple of people...
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Old 19th July 2012, 00:01
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I've had no social life for years except for the odd meet here. I started a new job this week though, so may or may not have some social outings with the other workers, I'm not sure yet. I didn't do well on that at the last place, to be honest.
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Old 19th July 2012, 00:52
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Quote:
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no friends and no partner means no social life, which means no chance of ever making friends or meeting someone :s
My life, in a nutshell.
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Old 19th July 2012, 08:31
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Could do a Cilla and get a Blind Date going on here...get you all paired up then you can invite me to your wedding...which I will politely decline.

Alas, I'm off the market until dearest is fed up with my everchanging moods lol

I'm also mindful of the info involved in some of my posts on here so I'm guessing no bloke would touch me with someone else's barge pole!

All I will say is...it's a front. I'm actually very posh.
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Old 19th July 2012, 09:13
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Yes I am, I also have no social life whatsoever but never really did anyway. Since my redundancy my weekly shop in Sainsburys is the nearest I get to social interaction these days.
Exchange Morrisons for Sainsbury.
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Old 19th July 2012, 10:14
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No partner and no friends. I don't really want a partner, but friends would be nice.
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Old 19th July 2012, 10:56
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I have no partner and happy that way, I find relationships far too much of a rollercoaster.

I have a couple of good friends, neither of whom I see often though.

I'm just more comfortable in my own company and find it hard to sustain friendships and relationships.
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Old 19th July 2012, 11:09
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I have no partner and happy that way, I find relationships far too much of a rollercoaster.

I have a couple of good friends, neither of whom I see often though.

I'm just more comfortable in my own company and find it hard to sustain friendships and relationships.
this sums me up
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Old 19th July 2012, 13:26
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I'm 32 and never had a relationship that has taken more than a shower to get over. I have no friends at all. But' it's mostly through choice, I have subconsciously pushed people away from me my whole life.. people just annoy me. I'm a lone wolf, as they say. If i'm bothering with someone it's because they are of some practical use to me. Being alone is normal to me it's what I do.
You just described me. I'm also 32 and never had a serious relationship. Stopped speaking to my old 'friends' because i was getting too embarrassed about being the only one who was still single, plus they were annoying me too.
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Old 19th July 2012, 13:47
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You just described me. I'm also 32 and never had a serious relationship. Stopped speaking to my old 'friends' because i was getting too embarrassed about being the only one who was still single, plus they were annoying me too.
I wouldnt say I was embarrassed to be around people who are in relationships, i've been a loner since Primary school when nobody would even speak to me and I would spend play time sitting on my own watching planes

in my twenties I had individual friends (2 over the space of about 8 years) which I found easier to deal with but they tried to merge me in with their other friends which I shied away from and just turned into my stubborn self until they just found it best to leave me alone..including the friend I had originally.

Either that or I have found/felt as if I was being used for various reasons, be it my car, money, my flat... for example, when I was in my mid 20s I was friends with a girl who was slightly younger, lived with her parents and didnt drive. She would go out clubbing on the weekends with her other mates (without me) and then end up bringing them all to mine at 2am or would phone me and say lets go to such and such today, which would almost always be a place that was inaccessible without a car. So whilst it was fun being involved somewhat it was fake and got increasingly obvious that I was being used.

I find it much easier to be by myself, if certain people on here realised that it's ok to be alone and stopped torturing themselves trying to 'fit in' to circles they clearly dont belong, they would be a lot happier. Some people are just born to be loners. There is nothing wrong with that. If you find something you do that you enjoy and that brings you into contact with like minded people then it's all good, but people need to stop trying to fit square pegs into round holes because they see that round hole as the norm, you dont fit and you never will.

Havent seen this for a while, but this thread brings it to mind, so i'lll post it again

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Old 19th July 2012, 14:21
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I've been single now for a few years since the catastrophic break down of my last big relationship... On the whole, happily so. I have a few close friends who have stuck around through thick and thin, they will always be friends and I will always be eternally grateful.

Over the last few years I have dated, it's been a mix of the good and bad... and I've had.... erm, acquaintances.
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Old 19th July 2012, 14:22
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I'm 37, still single and never had a girlfriend... heading towards contentment and acceptance that I will always be so I've been focusing more on making friendships. I've formed a couple of good friendships (ironically with women) in the last 2 years which I never had when growing up in my childhood, teens and 20s.

I think we are conditioned to the excess that we must be in a relationship to be "happy" and all that other cliché crap we see in films and on TV. Some people I feel simple are not made to be in relationships and/or to be monogamous for a lifetime.

Saying that, we live in an incredibly disposable and throw away type society, relationships and marriages end easily with children suffering the consequences because people are either too busy with their careers/work or too lazy to fix things. Err, shite... going off topic, nuff said.
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Old 19th July 2012, 16:49
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Yup, singleton here, but I have accepted my fate that I am clearly a social leper and am destined to become a mad old cat lady, die alone and have my half-eaten by cats corpse discovered after 3 months purely due to the smell bothering my neighbours.

As for friends, I have a lot of acquaintances but not really a social circle of friends. I find it really difficult to make friends mostly because I am quite socially maladjusted and I tend to keep my head down in life generally because I'd rather be known as just being quiet rather than as "that weird woman", which is probably futile because I am probably known as "that weird quiet woman".
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Old 20th July 2012, 07:24
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Edit: To depressing

Stuff this place

Last edited by Luco; 21st July 2012 at 20:44. Reason: outta this dump
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Old 21st July 2012, 22:41
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Yep, been single for the past 7 years now (apart from a brief 3 month relationship about 3 years ago). Like being single most of the time but do get lonely now and again. Would be nice to have at least one friend aswell, haven't got any of those
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Old 21st July 2012, 23:02
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Edit: To depressing

Stuff this place
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Old 21st July 2012, 23:26
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^I'm serious though, same shit different day innit.

I seriously need a kick up the back side.

Ah **** it.
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Old 22nd July 2012, 11:59
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Age: 45

Status: Single.

Family: No immediate family

Friends: A few acquaintances, no close friends.

Social life: Effectively zero.

Hope for the future? Yes. Always.
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Old 28th July 2012, 12:45
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Aye, i'm yet another.

I'm not originally from where i'm now living, so don't have any local 'old friends' and just haven't gotten lucky in places i've worked in the past to make good friends there. So I have no-one local to hang out with either. So I never get to meet new people.

I can't see me ever meeting someone. As I don't really think i'm even cut out for relationships. I went and stupidly allowed myself to think 'oh maybe this time..' the last time I met someone, I was led to believe it was actually a mutual thing this time. Usually when I like someone, I can never tell them cos i see them as way out of my league. And those that have liked me haven't been my type, despite me trying to ignore that and give it a whirl anyway, obviously it never worked out.

Needless to say, they changed their mind, saying they realised they weren't up to a relationship them self yet. Which, me being me, clearly doesn't believe, it had to be that they just realised i'm not all that.

But yeh, it's one reason why I struggle talking to folk, because i have nowt TO talk about. I don't go anywhere, or do owt, other that potter about on my computer or play xbox when i'm home, or do voluntary work when i go out.
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