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Old 29th September 2018, 01:10
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do you ever feel like you just hate everything and everyone?
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Old 29th September 2018, 01:25
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I don't feel hate - just a need to avoid.
To me, to feel hate implies that I've been wronged by others somehow.
I feel that my emotions are a product of my reactions to my situation, not a product of my response to what someone has done to me.
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Old 29th September 2018, 07:09
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Yes, I feel like this most of the time. As the years have gone on the strength of the hate has diminished, I feel more saddened by everything. I think because I'm getting nearer to death and freedom from this, things are getting easier.
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Old 29th September 2018, 08:43
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I go through periods when I feel like I just hate everything, it seems to be getting worse for me a I get older.
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Old 29th September 2018, 08:59
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Can’t say that I do.

In fact, I don’t think that I’ve ever felt actual hatred towards anyone/anything before. Not sure if that’s normal!
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Old 29th September 2018, 09:25
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I rarely feel hate either, if I do it tends to be justified, like hating people who are cruel to animals, or hating the asshole in the BMW yesterday who flew from the back of a traffic jam just as I was pulling out to overtake a tractor and nearly killed me..

I wonder if men are more likely to feel hate/anger/aggression when they are unhappy? And women more likely to feel sadness? Not sure, just a thought.
I know when my husband is unhappy or stressed he's angry and nasty to everyone, whereas I just shut down completely.
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Old 29th September 2018, 13:56
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^ Interesting thought. Mum is a very angry outwardly hateful person towards many people individually, while I'm very inwardly hateful and saddened by our failed race as a whole, so I don't think it hold true of us.
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Old 29th September 2018, 14:19
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I do hate a lot, it's horribly negative,
I think it's just trapped, unfulfilled energy,
I mainly hate myself at never overcoming SA and always being fearful of things, of life really,
It's just such a horrible trapped, suffocating feeling to be fearful of pretty much every interaction,
Hate does seem to be the catalyst for me dealing with stuff and making changes in my life though,
My hatred of my self-imposed isolation as a way of coping with SA tends to build up,
And then I really need to make changes and turn things around,

My hate just seems to build up because I'm such an avoider and procrastinator,
It just builds because I never want to change anything in my life, no matter how shit it is.
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Old 29th September 2018, 14:20
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Ye, maybe it's just an individual thing. I still hate you though, Schmosby, as you said you'd message me and then you didn't
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Old 29th September 2018, 14:25
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Does anyone else have self hatred?

I don't have this as much as I used to, though I can still have times when I am full of self hate and get really down. I grew up full of self hatred, I think because I got so much criticism and bullying. I never started to feel comfortable being myself at all until I had my children and they gave me so much love.
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Old 29th September 2018, 18:54
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Ye, maybe it's just an individual thing. I still hate you though, Schmosby, as you said you'd message me and then you didn't

That made me smile
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Old 29th September 2018, 19:16
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No but I used to think I did till I realised I'm socially anxious, introverted and probably bpd as well if not a bit of autism in there just to finish off the mix.
I get irritated by people and stuff at times but its not hatred.
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Old 29th September 2018, 20:18
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Ye, maybe it's just an individual thing. I still hate you though, Schmosby, as you said you'd message me and then you didn't
lol I'm sorry, I always assume you are busy at weekends and afternoons and I work the rest of the time. Just message me one afternoon when you have time, I'm usually home by around 5 these days.
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Old 29th September 2018, 20:24
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I don't know if hate is quite the right word. More like tired of playing the game of life; being forced to go through the motions every day when it's pointless in the end anyway. I do see the point to some things, and do get some pleasures, but I'll be glad when all this shite is over with. The struggle and hassle is not worth what you actually get.

Plus I'm getting older and uglier which pisses me off considerably. It seems to me we're all just trying to stay comfortable until we die. Mostly everything we strive for is about trying to become, or trying to remain, comfortable. Pretty lame really.

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...It just builds because I never want to change anything in my life, no matter how shit it is.
It's weird, really big changes in my life have happened to me by my barely even doing anything. They just happened. For example, literally spending over 5 years sitting in bed doing nothing but going online and venturing out only for groceries. Then I randomly get talking to someone online and a few years later I'm married to them and living on another continent and doing all this active stuff like hiking and going to the beach every weekend. I mean, it's good, but at the same time bloody weird and makes me feel like some kind of puppet being shunted around by life. If it had been up to me, none of it would have happened. I would still be sitting in bed and wouldn't have been bothered about changing it either. I don't know if it was depression or just being an appallingly unambitious/lazy person. Probably both.


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... saddened by our failed race as a whole...
*nods*. I have trouble with this too.
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Old 29th September 2018, 21:16
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lol I'm sorry, I always assume you are busy at weekends and afternoons and I work the rest of the time. Just message me one afternoon when you have time, I'm usually home by around 5 these days.
I am never busy!
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Old 30th September 2018, 00:55
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I'm not really hateful, i could be but i chose not to - bitter is what i am. If i can't find a better life then i'd rather die without fuss.
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Old 30th September 2018, 10:19
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No, never.

Important to note that hate can be rational or irrational.

You cannot feel hate towards everything and everyone unless you have an awful lot of hate inside.
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Old 30th September 2018, 11:37
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I have a lot of problems with anger. I started to hate my family when I was 5. I dont hate everyone but I do hate certain people as they are such total ****ers.
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