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Old 28th November 2017, 16:36
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I look like a League of Gentlemen character.
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Old 29th November 2017, 17:50
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I can't actually look at myself at the moment. Every time I catch a glimpse I wish I hadn't looked.
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Old 6th December 2017, 22:06
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^ I feel like people wouldn't want to be seen with me because of what other people would think of them e.g. their friends would make fun of them or something. Then they wouldn't want to be near me. I always, always think... how long will it be before they don't want to know me anymore?

My thoughts are always hypothetical silly ones but they always hold me back.

Typing about it always feels ridiculous but it's horrible really, isn't it?! It helps sometimes to get it out because it makes me see how strange it is to think like this and that I probably need a slap.
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Old 15th December 2017, 19:54
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My face-hate is really bad at them moment. Today I was seen by someone and when I got home I looked in the mirror and thought how disgusting I look. Avoidance and blushing are bad for me at the moment too. I'm just shy and don't want people to see me blushing and I'm coming across as a rude, horrible person as a result.

Trying so hard not to cry about this because I feel stupid for crying because of my face.
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Old 16th December 2017, 09:16
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^ It makes me so sad to read that Biscuits as I think you have such a pretty face but it’s not what I think or anyone else thinks that matters it’s how you see yourself isn’t it

I’m sure nobody thinks you’re rude or horrible but if they did it’s because they’re ignorant and don’t know about or understand SA. I know saying this doesn’t help at all, but if I see someone blush it really endears them to me and I don’t think they’re remotely horrible, just a little shy which is a refreshing change to all the cocky over confident folk about
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Old 16th December 2017, 09:58
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^ Exactly. If I see someone blush I warm to them instantly.
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Old 16th December 2017, 20:27
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I literally ran away from someone the other day I'd make such a good ninja. The blushing ninja.

Thanks, Muggins, you're very sweet. I tend to duck out of the way before I blush though. Hopefully people just think that I must need a wee. It does worry me that I come across as snobby or rude.

It's really getting me down at the moment. I suppose I need to find distractions to stop fixating on it.
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Old 16th December 2017, 23:39
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^ hope you feel better soon biscuit gal. I like a blusher too...why does that sound wrong to me? :0
You have a nice friendly face I seem to remember
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Old 17th December 2017, 00:47
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There are so many posts on here that I can relate to, so I don't usually comment in this thread because I don't think I have much to add, but does anyone else cover up all of the mirrors in their homes?

Covering mirrors only helps to a certain degree though, and I was in my kitchen a few minutes ago and caught a glimpse of myself on the side of my toaster and wasn't enamoured with my appearance. I know that most people would struggle to look attractive on that kind of surface, but still. It's one of those black "diamond" toasters, and one of the reasons I got it was because you can't see yourself on the front panels - it just has a bit of shiny stainless steel on the sides.

It seems silly talking about this because most people wouldn't give it another thought, but sometimes I've got to look at myself even though I hate what I see.
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Old 27th December 2017, 10:08
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My son was making videos over Christmas and seeing myself on film has really made me feel awful, I looked so revolting. It’s depressing when you actually believe you’re looking relatively okay after making an effort, just to see evidence that you’re a hideous blob.
I’m trying not to dwell on it but it’s difficult.
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Old 27th December 2017, 11:11
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I was recorded in a video a while back, a few months ago, I couldn't bring myself to even look at it. I had to try and pretend it never existed and no-one saw it.
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Old 24th January 2018, 04:40
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Does anyone else obsess over taking pictures of themselves? I haven't had someone else take a picture of me for years but when I take them myself I obsess over picking every flaw apart. I literally take them just to bully myself and feel bad/suicidal, it's like a punishment for being so disgusting.
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Old 24th January 2018, 14:20
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I don't usually visit this thread because I don't have BDD and I think it's really difficult for someone without it to understand how someone with it feels - there's also a tendency to tell sufferers that they look good, which is (I have learned) never helpful, even though it's usually true. However, even though I don't suffer with BDD, there are posts here which resonate with me: I don't, for instance, have a mirror in my house (I was chatting to someone on meetup recently and discovered that most people use a mirror when cleaning their teeth, which is something I've never even considered - I was told I was "weird", but that's hardly new!) and I won't allow anyone to take my photograph (when I'm visiting a new city and I do the free walking tour, I'm always the one who takes the group photograph at the end, so that the tour guide can be in it but I don't have to be). I've never managed to take a "selfie" (how on earth does anyone do that?) but I did attempt to take one of myself and my ex-fiancée the day after we got engaged - I looked terrible (not least because I was too busy concentrating on how to take the picture, which made me look depressed); that was the last photograph of me ever taken, some nine-and-a-half months ago.

Although I don't have BDD (unless I'm in denial), I've never been happy with the way I look and I can understand those of you who avoid mirrors and cameras; over the years, I've learned to live with myself because other people don't seem to find me totally repulsive, but I still don't understand how anyone could find me (physically) attractive (obviously, my outstanding personality and extreme modesty compensate for what I lack in looks) but I've learned to accept that a (very small) minority do (or at least did - it doesn't happen at my age any more). When I do see myself, I don't see someone hideous or alien, but I do see someone whom I consider deeply unattractive.

Sorry for intruding, I shall now leave this thread to those who really need it...
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Old 24th January 2018, 23:41
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I can relate to so many of the comments here! MLP James , I know exactly what it feels like to see yourself on a video recording! My eldest nephew got married recently and I had to do a speech at the reception as I was one of his two best men.
Mercifully it appears that my speech wasn't filmed, although some of the others were! My wife and I were at my newly married nephew's recently and I was my usual bag of nerves.My horror increased when he announced that we could see the wedding video. My wife was very keen and I had to pretend to be keen too!
I had to pretend to look at the screen when I came into shot but I was really fixing my attention on the wall.
I sneaked a quick look at one point and almost died of embarrassment. To think that person was me.
It was a blessed relief when it was finally over and when we left the house to return home I was still sweaty and stressed!
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Old 13th February 2018, 22:39
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Does anyone also sometimes try to make sure that they aren’t being attractive by not doing conventionally attractive things e.g. not trying to dress too nicely or not wearing too much make up? I can’t really do a good job of explaining it. It’s a bit like not wanting to draw too much attention to myself because I don’t want people to get to know me and then realise that I’m weird and stuff. (Just to add an extra level of crazy to the crazy haha.)

I need to stop doing this to myself. I keep thinking of things that make me weird.
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Old 13th February 2018, 23:05
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^ think most of us can relate beewiz. I'm sure many Will like your ' weirdness' and those that don't aren't worth worrying about. We can't please the world

Unleash the weirdness gal.
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Old 13th February 2018, 23:11
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^^ One day you'll meet someone who loves your weirdness. I think you're lovely and not weird at all.
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Old 14th February 2018, 20:06
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Biscuits, I agree with Miggs and Claire, your unique and awesome, I don't alway's post but some of your replies have made me laugh a lot and put a smile on my face when I have been feeling crappy, your hilarious and anyone would be lucky to have you.

Said it before and i'll say it again, having seen pics of people on here, there are a lot of attractive people who obviously don't know they are. Obviously that's because bdd literally changes what you see in the mirror and warps reality. Wouldn't say I feel thrilled about being on film and I actually told my dad off for filming me at xmas but I wouldn't say I have bdd, when I was younger I probably did but now I have mostly good days and accept that i'm average looking like the majority of people.
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Old 18th February 2018, 21:27
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Old 23rd February 2018, 09:01
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A hoodie might get you noticed...
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Old 15th March 2018, 21:41
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You know that feeling when you're just about used to how you look in the mirror - you don't like it, but you're used to it - and then you see yourself in a video, and whole new dimensions of hideousness are brought back? The other day my mum showed me a video on her phone of our family a couple of Christmases ago, and, urgh, my face, my body language, my weird inane smile...

It's really difficult to accept that I'm me sometimes.
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Old 16th March 2018, 10:41
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It's really difficult to accept that I'm me sometimes.
Can relate...
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Old 16th March 2018, 17:48
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^/^^ me too

I've been obsessing how my glasses make my nose look bigger, I'm fully prepared and looking into getting laser surgery. I ended up taking pics of all angles and now I hate myself, it's like a compulsion. Ugh.
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Old 16th March 2018, 21:07
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Do contacts not work for you?
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Old 16th March 2018, 22:01
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I used them a few years ago, and they were such a hassle. Do you wear them?
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Old 17th March 2018, 14:18
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No, I don't need glasses. I'm sure you look fine with them though.
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Old 4th April 2018, 17:42
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Does anyone else turn compliments about your appearance into something negative, further proof that you look as 'wrong' as you think you do? I was asked my age today, and the person seemed genuinely surprised when I told them, doing the 'what's your secret?' thing and all that. In a way it's nice, but almost immediately I was turning it into something to beat myself up with. Like, is it bad that I don't look my age? Isn't that just more proof that I don't look the way I should? If I really am the alien/robot/mutant clumsily wearing a human skin that I feel like, I probably wouldn't look my age, would I? It'd be another detail I'd gotten wrong.
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Old 4th April 2018, 17:48
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I scrunch up my face. I don’t like compliments about my appearance .
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Old 4th April 2018, 18:17
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Does anyone else turn compliments about your appearance into something negative, further proof that you look as 'wrong' as you think you do? I was asked my age today, and the person seemed genuinely surprised when I told them, doing the 'what's your secret?' thing and all that. In a way it's nice, but almost immediately I was turning it into something to beat myself up with. Like, is it bad that I don't look my age? Isn't that just more proof that I don't look the way I should? If I really am the alien/robot/mutant clumsily wearing a human skin that I feel like, I probably wouldn't look my age, would I? It'd be another detail I'd gotten wrong.
I get this a Lot too. Like I must look childish or silly for my age. Probably just my brain though
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Old 4th April 2018, 18:28
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I can't accept any form of compliment.
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