Does anyone have a "recovery" place?

[Kestrelsgomoo]

By that I mean somewhere you like to go to when things get hard, to clear your mind or even to just stare blankly without having to worry too much about being around others.

Today, after being depressed all day and eventually having a panic attack, me and my boyfriend took a shortcut through the main uni lecture building/cafeteria on the way back to his place. In the daytime its crowded, but in the evening, save for a few people also making shortcuts or society meets in the lecture halls, it's pretty much deserted. We ended up staying there for about an hour while I calmed down, we sat down, talked and wandered around. It was incredibly peaceful, and I actually felt safe there. I plan to go there more in the future if I've had a bad day. Also, every now and then when I feel upset I end up going to the pet shop. Cooing over hamsters also calms me it seems (if only where I live allowed pets).

So, does anyone else have a place like that?

[wjfox]

Originally Posted by Kestrelsgomoo

So, does anyone else have a place like that?

Not really. I live on a busy main road with tons of noise pollution, crowds, etc. and during the day I work full-time in the City.

However, I do see my family occasionally - they live in a small village in the fenlands of Cambridgeshire, where it's incredibly peaceful and relaxing, so I like to go there and chill out. This only happens every 3-4 months though.

I really should visit them more often, I suppose.

[Belinda]

I also used to find it really peaceful hanging round the main uni building in the evening and the cafeteria when it was more or less deserted- know what you mean. Made a nice change from my hall of residence which was a bit hellish for a shy person. Also liked sitting in a square near uni with lots of nice trees and pigeons to watch.

[Vanessa]

i lived beside a foresty area for a while so it was a nice place to escape to.

nowadays though, living in a share house there is nowhere to really feel comfortable, i could walk somewhere but it's a long walk to the nearest park. plus i get so cold outside because i don't have a heavy coat. so i just sit in my room and wait for negative feelings to pass.

[яemus]

Camping or the lakes

[girlinterrupted]

My bed with the duvet over my head.

[Polygon]

Originally Posted by girlinterrupted

My bed with the duvet over my head.

Snap

[Mina]

Originally Posted by Becca-boo

Good idea Kestrelsgomoo. I've slept in the car before when i felt anxious through the night, it was really peaceful! Generally i feel better when i sit in the car.

That doesn't sound comfy!

I also like the deserted uni buildings at night. Working quietly in the library with some interesting books or working in the computer room after everyone else has gone home... no mobile phones or chattering... lovely

Also, I grew up in the countryside and used to walk my dog through the fields and go sit by the river and chill when stuff was getting on top of me.

The seaside is also a good place. I personally feel it is impossible to be unhappy or stressed at the seaside. You are on the beach, it's sunny, you have candyfloss, you're paddling your feet in the water and smell the lovely salty air... that's just bliss as fas as I'm concerned. I have promised myself I'll live by the sea one day, luckily me bf also loves the sea as much as I do.

Oh, and the bath! When I have mountains of uni work to do and I am sad and tired and lonely I just go in the bath and read a good book and forget everything! It's like being in bed with the duvet over your head, nothing bad can happen there!

[Flowerbomb]

My Home is my haven, don't invite anyone one around, just go out if want to see anyone, my mum is allowed around seriously though!

[Flowerbomb]

Originally Posted by Melissa1988

Same with me Karen

Just messaged you a reply on Fb.

[diplodocus]

Well generally my study, I can sit and reflect in there. I'd say my home also but it depends if my lodger is in.

My favourite place is the woods where I walk my dog. It's a 15 minute drive but I can perambulate along the forest paths and not see a soul except for the occasional flighty deer. Breath in the pine infused air, listen to the bird song and gaze over the tree tops while I collect my thoughts

[STRING3R]

The toilet lol.

[Progress]

When I lived at home I used to go for drives sometimes, I find driving very relaxing. Or to a spot in the country where I could sit in the car with a great view in front.
Now I live alone, I've always got plenty of privacy (too much probably).

[Amelia Rosae]

Typical response from me, but at my computer on Aion. In-game people usually cheer me up.

[Olly.]

Originally Posted by STRING3R

The toilet lol.

Lol, same!

But other than that usually I'll get out into the countryside and find somewhere as peaceful as possible, at home that's easy, I live in a village, so walk 100 yards up the road and I'm in open countryside. Bit more difficult at uni as there are more people about but I'm next to the sea and the mountains and there's Anglesey as well so there's plenty of places around, just have to hope there's nobody there.

[buttonlane]

Bed... when Im recovering/reenergising, moping, contemplating, planning, reading.

I love my bed.

[lemongirl]

Yeah my home in my bed!

[Clockface]

My flat, where I can shut myself off from the world and gather my thoughts.

[Blind Cobbler]

Yeh, either the garden shed, with my heater on at this time of year or my caravan in North Yorkshire.

Here tonight, cosy and warm, away from the outside world.

Bliss!

[Olly.]

Originally Posted by nineo

not really. I have thought about renting out a plot or garage or something and take my music equipment over to there. or do some gardening can't afford it though.

I have gone for walks in the nearby estate as its generally quiet at night. but sometimes i'd rather just be somewhere peaceful.
trying to get out of the habit of spending too much time in the room I sleep in,including in bed when awake as I hear that it can contribute to disrupted sleeping patterns.
would love one of these;



shed pub, or another type of man-cave! when I have enough money to get my own place :/

That looks awesome, would love to have a pub I can actually go in without feeling like a freak for being on my own, I want a shed pub in my garden!!

[ewilson]

Since I've lived near the sea, I've had a place along the coastline, somewhere where I know I can't be disturbed, where I can hear the sea, relax, calm down, think.
Its nice to have a place which no one really knows of. But from personal experience, make sure at least one person knows of this place, just incase things go really south, that person will mean the world to you, even if you don't really know it yet.

[clem74]

Originally Posted by Karen

My Home is my haven, don't invite anyone one around

Not even me Karen

My recovery place is my room nice and cosy in there got all mod cons too

[Flowerbomb]

Nope