Nigtclubs have as much conversation as.. a CHURCH! (noise)

[hollowone]

Who hates not being able to talk to the person next to you but, feeling that people are WATCHING you? Who hates it when everyone's dancing and you don't know what to do & feel everyone's watching?

The only conversation you get is in the smoking area. Indoor areas have music blaring so loud you have to SHOUT to your friends or people by the bar (other customers and staff) ARE YOU WAITING.

Why do I go to nightclubs? Simple a) my friends drag me there b) there's NO CHOICE. either a) house arrest (stuck at home in front of screens) b) go to pubs alone.

RE tonight
-Do I get interesting conversation? NO
-Do I sit there on drinks guard duty? YES
-Do I spend most the nigh UNABLE to talk to people (friends and new people)? YES
-Do I get to meet new people (wind up in convo with someone new, lose track of time, end the convo with ('I've enjoyed your company, we should check-out x,y, z, here's my number)? NO
-Do nightlubs deliver on being a place people meet new people? NO
-Do nightclubs rip-off the customer? YES

^Nightclubs are boycotting themselves.

I guess I'm not the only person that hates nightclubs or only goes because a friend wants to go there? Most people go because friends or parties DRAG them in. Who would voluntarily subject themselves to the torture?

The only selling point they have is dancing, being among a crowd, listening to music. Apart from that they're not very good unless there's areas where conversation is possible.

Seriously, churches probably have more and better conversation. This is about conversation suppression whether it be a 'shush' or having to shout, it's the same. Nightclubs are as bad or worse than churches and defeat their original mission of being a meeting place, just a profiteering place.

[Sunrise]

People don't go to nightclubs for the conversation, and nor are they a place you go if you want to meet new people (unless you're out on the pull). You go to have a few drinks and a bit of a dance. They're probably one of the worst places to go if you want sparkling conversation. I don't think they fail to deliver as a place to meet new people, because they're not trying to deliver that. Most people go with existing friends to have a good time, and apart from the occasional drunk chit chat with a stranger in the smoking area they mainly stick to thier own little group.

The lack of conversation and feeling that I was blending into a crowd is what I always used to like about them to be honest. The lack of self-consciousness is what I used to like, but I never went to make friends, I went for the escapism. I could pretend to be normal for a couple of hours.

[hollowone]

^I agree they are the WORST places to meet new people. The only reason I go is because my friends go & I have the choice of a) stay in or b) go to those horrid places. If out I have the choice of a) go to where the friend group wants to go or b) go somewhere else.. alone.

Here's why nightclubs are rubbish

Most people go with existing friends to have a good time, and apart from the occasional drunk chit chat with a stranger in the smoking area they mainly stick to thier own little group.

^The big social catch 22. You only get to meet new people if you're lucky enough to have a BIG social circle and BUMP INTO people with a BIG SOCIAL CIRCLE. No good for meeting people from scratch. At best you may get the odd exchange of words and the odd conversation in the smoking area (friends you're with and new people). Nightclubs feel hostile. I hate them.

If social life wasn't so restricted to bars and nightclubs, I wouldn't bother. Although originally designed to be facilitators of social interaction (failing miserably), they have now become the only choice (in some towns). That's not acceptable.

Solution; make better meeting places & social opportunities more accessible.

[Dougella]

^ Don't people go to night clubs to dance and also to hook up with people? (I've never been to one, but that was always the impression I got!)

[Consolida]

^ I've never been to a nightclub either (I've lived a very sheltered life, lol) but I was dragged a long to something called a 'Disco' as a teenager. Does that count?

My son sometimes goes to nightclubs and it always sounds like my idea of hell. LOUD music and lots of young people standing around in groups totally inebriated on drink and/or drugs. It doesn't sound like the type of place anyone would go to if they are seeking any meaningful interaction with others.

I sometimes hear very old folk nostalgically talking about their young days when they used to go a long to tea dances. They often used to meet their husband/wife to be at these places. Sounds much more like my cup of tea

[Dougella]

^ I've never been to a disco either I think I'm even more sheltered than you.

[Clumsy*]

^ me three, never been to a nightclub ever. But like Consolida, I went to the school disco in secondary school

[biscuits]

That brings back memories of the song where everyone sits on the floor in rows and you clap the floor and then rock back and forth.

I love dancing. I prefer live music venues to nightclubs.

[Sunrise]

I went to a school disco in primary school. They played Agadoo and the Birdie Song. It's a memory that I prefer to keep repressed.

[biscuits]

^ awww didn’t little sunrise enjoy it at the time? I wasn’t inhibited at all as a primary school child. I’m so glad people didn’t video everything back then hahah

[Sunrise]

I'm ashamed to say, yes, very much so. I was very carefree and uninhibited at that age. I think the only thing about me that has improved with age is my taste in music.

[biscuits]

^ aw when you're on your own you should put on one of the school disco tracks and let loose. It's fun :D

[choirgirl]

I was trying to work out when I last went to a nightclub; now I remember, it was part of the all day hen night. It was a night that specialised in hen and stag parties, so it was all these 30 somethings LARPing as 18 year olds but being too well behaved. Prior to that it probably was ooh a good 20 odd years ago. I always thought it was more about music and dancing (and possibly drinking and/or trying to pull) rather than the things you mention hollowone. I quite like the idea of the tea dance myself, maybe it could be LGBT friendly; do we all get to dress up in era appropriate outfits? I'd need to learn the dances though.