Have you or would you meet someone you met online?

[newbs16]

Hello

Well, I've been on the forum for sometime think my username might give it away. I have been meaning to attend a meet but laziness or fear usually kicks in and I haven't been.

Would you meet someone that you have been chatting to online that you met from the forum?

Just I'm rubbish at making/keeping to arrangements he lives a good distance away and I'm a bit unsure about meeting esp if I couldn't do it when the time come

newbie2013

[blancmange]

I'd go to a meet up if it weren't for my agoraphobic tendencies
I do have that as an aim for the future though. Its a good way of socialising. People will know how you feel.

[Pandapop]

I think Ive probably met around 100 people online irl, the first person I met online irl was when I was 14 From friends to another forum clubbing meet ups to potential boyfriends.

[Indigo_]

Took me nearly two years but yes, I have

[Spectrelight]

Yeah, like probably 100 people at least. I was really anxious the first few times I did it but now it's a normal thing for me. That's all been in groups though, the only people I've met one on one without having met them before are women from dating sites.

[[Martin]]

Originally Posted by Boy

I guess it's good, no one wants to meet with me, it's fate.

Whenever you have started a meet thread there have always been takers but it is you who have backed out. No idea what you're talking about tbh

[Custard_cream]

I'd like to meet some people off here, there are a few people who I have been speaking to who I'd like to meet and I'd also like to go to a group meet off the board aswell.

The thing that puts me off though is that people won't like me, I wont know what to say, other people will think I am weird, nobody will like me, it will be really awkward, all the usual thoughts which just seem to keep cropping up, funnily enough, just been writing about all these for CBT homework.

Part of me thinks just do it, the other person will be just as scared/ worried / nervous as I am, but then I just think all the usual crap about myself and that I will be wasting peoples time because I won't talk or won't be able to act normal and I will look weird / stupid and will be really boring.

Can't win with these SA thoughts!

[Amplexor]

I have met a few girls from dating websites which didn't really turn into anything. I am also open to meeting with people from here should the opportunity arise

[Pablo Huntsbach]

Originally Posted by Luna.

I've met up with quite a lot of people I met online. Almost all of them from sauk. It is terrifying but can be a good experience. It was mostly groups though. Meeting one to one terrifies me even more because I worry that if they don't like me or I can't keep conversations going then they won't have anyone else to talk to!

I'm working on being able to meet people again, hopefully in the not too distant future.

That's that SA mind talking. You should worry that the the other person will be rubbish at conVersa ruins or you don't like them and won't have anyone else to talk to!

I went to a film meet from here once. Me and the person who organised it were the only ones who turned up. Was a little bit awkward.

[SociallyAwkard]

I've met people online after chatting in other forums or on Twitter or something - sometimes one on one too. I just always tell someone where I'm going so that they can be my emergency call if I need one - or I just tell the person I'm meeting I can't stay for long so that if I feel uncomfortable I have a getout. So far most have gone well.

[Memory]

I've met a few online people that I've known from other sites. I've only met one person from here one-on-one and attended a group meet as well. They've been as I expected really with mostly good results, even though it was terrifying and awkward. I actually found the SAUK group meet the worst in terms of anxiety because 1. it was in a group and I'm awful in groups and 2. I didn't know the people that well and everyone else I've met online I've known pretty well.

[Hollie]

I've only met people from a forum when it has been a forum for a course I'm studying, and the meeting is just going to a tutorial together and talking afterwards or something, not a meetup for fun or anything.

I think I would meet people that I've met online if we had a lot in common, so we had something to talk about. I'd probably prefer meeting one to one but I don't know if I'd be brave enough when it came down to actually going

[MrsJones]

I've never met anyone from the forums, but I did meet someone that I had been exchanging letters with and chatting online to for 2 years. It was probably the worst experience of my life so far.

[umm]

I met a group of people from another forum I chat to (a common, shared interest). I was incredibly nervous but in the event it was amazing. I suspect for younger people this sort of meeting is more normal. For me it was incredibly strange but I absolutely loved it!

[MrsJones]

Originally Posted by Charlotte Vale 1942

^ oh no why was that?

The person I met turned my expectations upside down. He visited me from France and I had to endure 4 days (gritting my teeth, of course) of his sleaziness, ungentlemanly conduct and just...utter disrespect. Because he knew where I lived, I didn't feel like I could just go home to avoid spending time with him.

Horrible things ensued upon his arrival leaving me pretty distressed at the end of each night. After he left, I kept beating myself up about being so naive, but others told me that they, too, wouldn't have foreseen what happened. I always thought I was a good judge of character, but in my experience, you never truly know who you're talking to online.

[Hollie]

^ that's awful tbtv he sounds horrible

[MrsJones]

^ He really was. He was totally oblivious to it all, too which was maddening.

[SociallyAwkard]

Originally Posted by ThisBeTheVerse

I always thought I was a good judge of character, but in my experience, you never truly know who you're talking to online.

I second this. It's easy for someone to hide behind a profile and tell you what you want to hear/read. I'm quite lucky in that most people I've met are how they've come across online. Some friendships have fizzled out quite quickly but others have lasted and are still going. And as for the others...well I've lived and learned.

[Olly.]

Well I did for the first time ever today, I met the lovely biscuits, so pleased we agreed to meet up even if it was very scary

[Z.]

Originally Posted by Olly.

Well I did for the first time ever today, I met the lovely biscuits, so pleased we agreed to meet up even if it was very scary

Yay, well done you two!

[Caribou]

Yeah, have met quite a few off here. Have spent a few days with some of them too. I'm always anxious but everyone has been fine and it's nice being with people who suffer similar issues as we can understand each other.

Originally Posted by Boy

No, I mean one on one.
Groups yeah, groups are groups, you just come.

But I realized I can't do groups. That's it.
Now you have an idea? Now you can understand?

One on one

I'd happily meet you but you live so far away.

[newbs16]

Originally Posted by Olly.

Well I did for the first time ever today, I met the lovely biscuits, so pleased we agreed to meet up even if it was very scary

That's lovely where did you go?

[Caribou]

Aye, well done, Olly and Biscuits!

[Indigo_]

Originally Posted by Olly.

Well I did for the first time ever today, I met the lovely biscuits, so pleased we agreed to meet up even if it was very scary

That's great

[Sunshine Recorder]

Originally Posted by Olly.

Well I did for the first time ever today, I met the lovely biscuits, so pleased we agreed to meet up even if it was very scary

That's awesome!!

I've been to SAUK group meets (including one today ), but I've not yet met anyone one-to-one from here. It's something I'd like to work towards, though.

[Morgana]

I've been to a couple of social meets before, yes. Not feeling up to it these days, though.

[ripple]

I have only ever met one person in real life I 'met' online, through a Facebook group.

After messaging back and forth for a year or so, and eventually Skyping/Facetime, we met up in person. I flew 1/4 of the way round the world on 3 flights, and I *hate* flying... It was important that we met with no expectations, so we both kind of pretended there were none, but in reality we both knew there were. We got along so great, and I was surprisingly relaxed the whole visit! A few days into the trip, it turned into a 'real' relationship.

I'm glad I took the chance and done it.

[Mr. Nobody]

not sure you can meet someone online, - one profile can message another profile I suppose,
Skype's possibly the closest you get to meeting online.

anyone who uses the meets section, or a meet-up group or who has used a dating site is bound to meet people irl eventually.

if it seems weird, it's probably best to just see that it's just another, more considered way for people to meet,. rather than just random, chance encounters.

[Z.]

Never met anyone online. Maybe I will, maybe I won't

[Drew Peacock]

I've met loads of people that I knew first online. The first was back in 1997 (yes the internet did exist then!)