Not being invited along to something

Louise 5 · #1 23rd May 2010, 12:44

Does anyone else find that they are left out of meet ups with friends?

Yesterday one of my friends had casually suggested that we meet up for a bbq this evening, which would have been fab because of the weather. But this morning I got a text saying that they had all arranged to go off to the beach this afternoon instead.

So the bbq has been cancelled and I haven't been invited to the beach meet up. Am I over reacting by feeling upset over this?

nessa456 · #2 23rd May 2010, 12:50

Was the text re. going to the beach possibly an invitation in itself?

ie she was telling you about the change of plan so you could come along.

Just a thought

Deepest Blue · #3 23rd May 2010, 13:11

Hi Louise,

This tends to happen with me and yes it does still get to me sometimes. Nessa's explanation could still be plausible though and you had just received a casual or badly worded text that was meant to also be an invite, I mean why would someone tell someone else they were going somewhere without any intention of inviting them?? Seems strange..

Louise 5 · #4 23rd May 2010, 13:39

Cheers for the advice. I've texted back to check just incase i've gotten my wires crossed :rolleyes:

The impression that I got was that they had decided to head off to the beach earlier today instead of a bbq tonight. And I wasn't asked to go but rather told that the plans had changed. Seems a little odd

UkG · #5 23rd May 2010, 14:14

What did the text say exactly, I think you've read it wrong.

If they weren't inviting you to the beach they would just have said the bbq is cancelled.

charlie188 · #6 23rd May 2010, 17:08

Texts can be mis-read. Are you sure maybe this isn;t you being paranoid?

Maybe you should have text back saying something like "ok I;d be up for that, what time are you going?" but I guess then you may feel like you'd invited yourself and still weren't welcome.

Louise 5 · #7 23rd May 2010, 17:27

Ok, well I double checked and I did mis-read the text a little so thanks everyone for the advice to double check. That's the problem with texts. I miss the days when people used to pick up the phone...much easier! :rolleyes:

The Chosen One · #8 23rd May 2010, 17:51

Well my best and only friend never invites me with his circle of friends. But only when theres no one else, or if i suggest, then no one else usually goes. He doesnt make an effort.

I know how you feel

Deepest Blue · #9 23rd May 2010, 18:00

Quote:

Originally Posted by Louise 5

Ok, well I double checked and I did mis-read the text a little so thanks everyone for the advice to double check. That's the problem with texts. I miss the days when people used to pick up the phone...much easier! :rolleyes:

Cool !

Glad it worked out for you

Louise 5 · #10 23rd May 2010, 20:21

Quote:

Originally Posted by nrtheone

Well my best and only friend never invites me with his circle of friends. But only when theres no one else, or if i suggest, then no one else usually goes. He doesnt make an effort.

I know how you feel

It's horrible to feel left out. Your friend should definitely be making more effort to include you