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Old 18th November 2017, 23:32
clyde33 clyde33 is offline
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Default Feeling awkward due to my accent...

I've lived in a city for 25 years that isn't my home town, and my accent (that i've never lost) is very, very different from the locals here. I still get comments about it and asked on a regular basis if i'm just here on holiday etc.

I feel very aware of sounding different and it's a problem every time i open my mouth in public. Work is ok and dealing with strangers, but on a social level like being in a pub our out with my husband's friends, i'm very aware of being "different" and it's making me self-conscious.

Does anyone else have this odd issue?
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Old 18th November 2017, 23:53
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Default Re: Feeling awkward due to my accent...

A different accent makes my ears perk up. I love accents though. Although I tend automatically to mimic accents.

Recently I went up to Leeds and someone could not understand me when I was spelling out my email address. It was funny.

"M-O"
"Emma?"
"No...M-O"
"Emma?
"Nooo.. The letter M and the letter O!"
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Old 19th November 2017, 00:21
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I didn't know you were a Londoner GI

No one really comments on my accent up here unless I mention where I'm from. I'm a little self-conscious about it at times, particularly at work as I do pronounce some words very differently (glass, bath, grass, etc).
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Old 19th November 2017, 14:13
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I love it. I have a very common as muck generic SE accent. When I lived in Newcastle people kept calling me posh

Having a different accent is a great way to start a conversation as most people seem to be interested in diff accents and then that leads to talking about where you or they come from.

I can see it it would be a priblem if you want to fit in, me Ive always liked to be a bit of an outsider.
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Old 19th November 2017, 14:40
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I agree with vaxjo. The only reason people might comment on something like an accent is to to try and break the ice, or to start a new thread for an existing conversation. 9 times out of 10 people are not intending to make you feel different or self-conscious, they're just using an observation as a way to get a conversation started. I'm assuming that nobody's passed any criticism.
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Old 22nd November 2017, 13:06
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I'm aware of it as i've been asked to "slow down a bit" when i speak, been told by my elderly next door neighbour that she can't understand a word i say, plus mimicked by my husband.
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Old 22nd November 2017, 14:32
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^ A lot of people naturally speak fast though. And if you're unused to hearing a particular accent it can sound faster too. I've had people mimic me but I just think they mean it in a good natured way.
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Old 22nd November 2017, 23:54
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I love accents. I don't think it's meant as a criticism most of the time. Also I tend to mimic them a bit unconsciously when they are new to my ears. I always feel you can't really get away with using local dialect words though, when you're not from a place and don't have the accent. It sounds wrong.
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Old 23rd November 2017, 13:21
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Someone I know adopted the local suspiciously quickly after moving.

I think they did it to fit in as it would get tiring constantly having it referred to or feeling like an outsider (depending on the two places involved).
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Old 25th November 2017, 10:11
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I live only a half hour drive from where I was born and I get 'you don't sound to local, where you from, Newcastle (which am not)?'
And when I've lived down south I was always getting comments , often laughed at for my accent.
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Old 26th November 2017, 23:20
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I really wanted to gain an impenetrable Newcastle accent from the time I lived there, but never lost my horrible generic SE accent.
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