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17th January 2011, 23:06
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Hi I'm new. :) Having a lot of trouble : (
Hello,
 I'm 16 from the UK. For years I have had trouble socialising, I was bullied as a child from the age of 8-12, before that I always remember being happy, I used to speak non stop to lots of people. Which makes me think the bullying probably has a lot to do with it. I was constantly teased and picked on. I then moved to the US, the children there all had accents, and I didn't, I never spoke to anyone except one girl I used to hang about with and a few of her friends. When trying to speak to anyone else I would just begin to panic and feel anxious. One time we had to do a class presentation, and I couldn't do it and froze up, another girl had to 'help' me do it. I now live back in the UK, find it incredibly difficult to socialise with people and to speak to teachers. With my english teacher it is the worst, I cannot feel comfortable in that classroom. My mouth gets dry and I can't concentrate, when I have to speak to her I always end up speaking really quietly today she read out our speaking grades and began going around the class asking the people who had 2's if they'd be willing to do some work to bump them up to a 1. When she got to me, I felt to nervous to speak and my mouth was dry so instead I just nodded my head, she stared at me a few seconds then all she said was 'no'. I didn't know if she was talking about 'no' as in no you can't do it, or if she thought i was saying no. I assume she thought I was saying no, but I was to nervous to say "I do want to do it I meant, yes, sorry." I kept thinking trying to plan it out in my head how I would say it but I couldn't. I get scared to ask her things, such as tomorrow there's a certain piece of paper i require to put in my folio, but I'm too scared to ask for it. The same thing happened with my essay's i kept thinking she would turn them down, or tell me no it's too late or yell at me. But when i handed them in it was fine. She's not even a mean teacher, she's a lovely lady and I have no idea why I get more anxious in that class than others. The other classes aren't that bad. The only people I speak to are a few close friends & family. I can speak to other people but I feel uncomfortable, and some people just make me really nervous e.g the really loud confident ones who are always shouting out. I remember one of my boyfriends broke up with me, because sure we liked each other, but I couldn't speak to him much. : ( it sucked. I did try, I really did, but i just felt anxious, and I would worry what if he doesn't like me, what if I say something wrong, etc. I have these worries when speaking to people all the time. Well now you all know about me,  , I decided I want to get over this. I'm just not sure how, I have tried in the past and built my confidence up more than it was. It's just easily knocked down again. : (
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17th January 2011, 23:16
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Re: Hi I'm new. :) Having a lot of trouble : (
Thank you, yeah bullies suck.
 it's terrible to cause' someone so much pain. but at least it's not happening any more. Thanks again.
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#5
17th January 2011, 23:17
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Re: Hi I'm new. :) Having a lot of trouble : (
Thank you Drima,
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#7
17th January 2011, 23:33
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Re: Hi I'm new. :) Having a lot of trouble : (
Welcome to the site!
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#11
20th January 2011, 22:15
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Re: Hi I'm new. :) Having a lot of trouble : (
Welcome to the site, Im newish as well, sounds like youve had it bad, I was bullied as well, Bullies are often cowards, cant stand them. I hope you find this site usefull, it has opened my eyes! Welcome again, dont suffer communicate with others on this site! Matt
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