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A question for you walkers
We all know, there is a different law in the countryside where people are actually friendly and say hello to you. Does this create anxiety for anyone? You see people coming in the distance and you think 'should i say hello, should i not say hello, should i look at them, should i not look at them'. I always feel I should have done the opposite to what I have done, and if i do say anything, it comes out in a really low squeaky voice, and that is embarrassing!!!!!
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Re: A question for you walkers
Oh god yes! I do a lot of walking and when I see people approaching in the distance I never know what to do.
Sometimes I will change direction to avoid them, but if I can't I either cringe and say hello, which as you say usually comes out in a squeaky weak voice, or I avoid eye contact and keep my head down, which obviously comes across as rude. The problem is that sometimes I have forced myself to say hello and I have been totally ignored, which makes you look stupid, so there's always that dilemma going on in my head of whether to speak or not. |
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Yes, it's a tricky one and my reaction varies. If it's an older person, I can usually say Good "Morning" or "Evening" to them OK but with people around my age group, I can;t although to be honest, I rarely see anyone of my age group walking in the country anyway.
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Re: A question for you walkers
I can completely relate, Sevlow.
I live in the Peak District and go walking most days. I tend to choose the times and places where there are fewest people. I can normally muster some sort of greeting but if the say anything else, e.g. ask for directions, say something about the weather, I just mumble then run away. But I’m getting better at not avoiding eye contact. What I really can’t stand is walking past huge groups of people. I still try and avoid them if at all possible. I don’t know why they do it. The countryside is all about getting away from crowds of people. If it’s crowds of people you want go to the city. I used to hate my voice too but I’ve worked on it recently. I talked about this in other thread. |
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I find myself having similar problems just in everyday life. For example, I'll be walking down the sidewalk and someone will be coming from the opposite direction, and I'll just basically keep my head down or my eyes focuses in the distance ahead of me, because for some dumb reason its like my mind freezes up at that moment. Don't know how to explain it. When strangers give a courtical hello to me I often feel too that my response comes out sounding stupid, like squeaky as you put it. Or Ill be taken by surprise by someone saying hi and just freeze up and not respond instead of my mind being able to process what just happened right away so that I can say hi back. If that makes any sense lol....
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I think if its two or three people its usual to at least nod or say "hi" or " morning".Not go by as though you don't see them.
If they don't answer any external judge would say they looked sillier , not you! I think you could ignore a large group .Theyre sort of wrapped up in themselves.and will ignore you. Though i think a none Saer might say a bold "hello" to the leader which would cause the rest of the group to nod or smile at you as they pass. Or a few quiet members would say nothing. |
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The last walk I had I managed to get some bass into my voice, and sounded more like a man - so I felt better for working on it. Once you do it a few times, it becomes easier - and will help when you need to say hello to someone socially. |
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Re: A question for you walkers
I always make a point of acknowledging other people when out walking/running/cycling in the forest. Still have that sense of anxiety even if i spot another human a mile off, but people are generally much friendlier out of their own enviroment.
Exceptions being some of the tourists - English city dwellers, and twitchers(bird-spotters) they're a strange lot! Foriegners are ok and often ask for directions, locals in mid-winter are the friendliest. Large groups of ramblers can be awkward as you keep having to repeat yourself and nodding like a donkey as you pass them. |
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Oooh I thought this thread title said something else for a moment then Sorry just had to say. Thought it was a kevcantona thread or something
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