What is the worst thing someone has ever said to you?

[STRING3R]

Originally Posted by I Love My Cats

I remember I was almost dozing off on an overnight coach back from France when I was in Third Year at school and overheard 5 people at the back of the bus saying the most horrible and hurtful things about my appearance, personality and family. This was completely unprovoked and I know I should have got up and challenged them - instead I just sat there with my eyes closed and listened. At one point, one of them said "What if she's awake"? and one of them walked down the aisle to where I was to check I was asleep - Obviously I was pretending. It hurt listening to that and their laughter, but also that other people nearby could have heard some or all of that and nobody stepped in and told them that what they were saying was unkind. I won't repeat what was said, but I can remember every part of the conversation word for word.

I remember a good few years ago, and before I met Mr ILMC, I had made an attempt to be social and was out at a pub. A guy came over and started trying to talk to me and I was seriously struggling and felt out of my depth. After a few minutes he told me to 'Stop being such a stuck up cow - It's not as if you're nice looking anyway', or words to that effect. That really badly affected my confidence and I haven't been back out to a pub or club at night for years.

Wow I am very sorry to hear that, Some people can be really mean at times.

[scrump]

In an argument with someone over a parking space, i was giving it some mouth as i do :hmmm:
This guy ( i know him vaguely) said to me no wonder your husband left you if thats how you behave...that kinda hurt me

[karl-32]

Originally Posted by scrump

In an argument with someone over a parking space, i was giving it some mouth as i do :hmmm:
This guy ( i know him vaguely) said to me no wonder your husband left you if thats how you behave...that kinda hurt me

phwew thought you was gonna bring up the **** off thing lol

yeah that sucks but its a load of crap . Your cool

[Mortigantoj]

Originally Posted by Dragnet

Same

If she had said "I hate you - you repulse me!" at least I'd know how to feel about it! Now, I'm stuck between worlds! hope of the hopeless!

[Phool]

"I don't normally fancy pakis but you're alright? Some bloke in a pub years ago.

"Oh! [obvious dissapoinment] you sounded really sexy on the phone" !!! Some acned pizza delivery boy!

"You used to be so fit"...my cousins en masse one evening

"You should have kept your photo hidden!" some twat on an online dating site.

[karl-32]

Originally Posted by Phool

"I don't normally fancy pakis but you're alright? Some bloke in a pub years ago.

god some people are just disgusting .

[diplodocus]

'Oh **** off you chinky git!' That was my best friend at school at the time! That cut real deep and I was too stunned to even react. Needless to say that was the end of that friendship lol

[Mortigantoj]

^ was that said maliciously or in a jokey manner...?

[Superfred]

It's probably not the worst but it sticks in my mind. A friend of mine said that he 'hated all gingers'. I asked if he was joking and he said 'no, I hate gingers.'

Cheers mate

[Phool]

No wonder we develop social phobia when people behave like such twats!

[diplodocus]

Originally Posted by Mortigantoj

^ was that said maliciously or in a jokey manner...?

Pure venom. It wasn't so much the words themselves as the intent behind them, to hurt as much as possible.

[Salusa87]

I feel fairly lucky after reading these.

Suppose one of the worst for me was being told to get a life, wasnt meant in the funny way either was meant in the most basic sense of it.

[Mortigantoj]

Somebody once said of me:
"He's not the messiah...he's a very naughty boy!"

...no, wait!

[Dandelion10]

Thankyou but I often find rejection or 'those looks' much harder to take than name calling.

[Superfred]

This one is more annoying that it is hurtful..and it happened just last night..

A manager at my store said to me 'Cheer up it might never happen'

ARGHH

The reason I hate this line so much is because how does this person know it didn't just happen. I could have had a relative pass away, have ended a long term relationship, been diagnosed with an illness and a million other possibilities.

It's funny though. It was this same manager who used to make similar comment months ago, about me not smilling. I wander what his beef is with people who don't smile at him? It's odd.

[Rick Sanchez]

I was bullied nearly ever day at school, so I've lost count of the amount of hurtful things said to me. There are a few things that really stick, though, like when a group of about 10 kids were taking the piss out of me in primary school, and when this girl was pretending to fancy me and then, in front of loads of people, said something to the effect of "I wouldn't go near you in a million years", whilst laughing. Funny. Oh, and there's been plenty of times when kids have pretended to like me (or maybe even did like me), only to turn on me. There's really no confusion as to why I'm a socially anxious avoidant.

[IRIS]

Originally Posted by crazyfan

I think the worst thing someone has said to me was once when I was coming out of a shopping centre with a friend and this women who was working for a company comes up and says "excuse me I'm doing a survey about people who look a bit strange, do you have a minute". Not being funny but I hope that women burns in hell.

Whats the worst thing anyone has ever said to you?

How do you know they weren't asking your opinions about OTHER people that look weird??

A few from an ex

' you make my life a misery '

'you'd be too unstable to marry'

'how could you have kids? You can't even look after your pets'

'you'll never cope on your own'

other things from other people so hurtful I wouldn't even type them!

Plus, a guy in the pub with me and my friend ..' you look the oldest, you look motherly ' eek I hated that and any other comments about me looking older than I am. And comments about my glasses.. ' your glasses are so strong you can see into the future ' (don't laugh!)

And something that gave me a phone phobia forever ' when people ring someone they usually have something to say'

[Sadpup]

" He just stands there "
" Your ugly "
" You got a big head "
" His face is squashed up "
" He looks wierd "

And I what I hate most is when people speak of me, like I'm not there, or I can't speak english.

Its all from the past, but it still haunts me though.

[GhostOnMagneticTape]

Too painful and hurtful for me to mention.

[littlejack]

Some of these are very sad and make me so angry.
I feel lucky because right now the worst things I can remember are stuff like 'why do you never speak' or 'you're too quiet' or 'you need to talk more'.

The very first post, if someone said that to me and I was in a bad mood, I rarely ever snap, but then I would go very angry if a stranger said that. I have encountered a few cheeky sales people though but to be honest they do have the worst job in the world.

[Narwhal]

Nothing really nasty to my face, it's usually stuff that's been said behind my back that I've either overheard or it's got back to me somehow.
I guess when I get stuff like 'why are you quiet' etc I hate it, but I don't think it's particularly nasty of the other person.

[IanIan]

"I wish him dead"

Said about me across a room to someone else, by someone who thought I'd turned them down, but in reality I'd been so utterly gobsmacked that someone like her was even interested in me I half thought it was a joke and responded in a jokey fashion. A spectacular error of judgement by me as it turned out. I seem to recall she also called me a 'potential rapist' which was pretty f*cking horrible. Inaccurate too, if I'm too shy to even tell someone I like them, I'm not likely to be so brazen as to try attempted rape am I? Bizarrely I really, really liked her too. She obviously went off me pretty quickly though. I wish I hadn't messed things up with her.

"I don't love you anymore...I probably never have"

Ex-girlfriend years ago, not a horrible thing to say in itself but in the context of being dumped by someone, it feels awful.

"I don't think he's a monster or anything..."

Two colleagues talking about me recently, that was the nicest thing they could think to say about me. Pretty grim when you think about it.

"He's so weird and quiet, how could anyone ever like him?"

Two girls from college I overheard talking about me as I walked across a formroom, years ago. I remember it really cutting right through me at the time.

"He's too weird, she doesn't want that"

Again, work colleagues talking about me and my not at all private life.

Oh, yeah - my Mum says horrible things about me pretty much constantly. "No wonder you've got no friends" as I got into the car to go home from Hospital after a nervous breakdown springs to mind immediately.

Also when I was younger and she'd talk about me whilst on the phone to her friends, I can't remember any specific ones but it was pretty much constant belittling and criticism.

[AxelFendersson]

Originally Posted by IanIan

I wish I hadn't messed things up with her.

If being jokingly turned down causes her to wish you dead and accuse you of being a potential rapist, I think you probably dodged a bullet not getting too involved. Certainly you didn't lose much.

[bornthisway]

'fat bitch'
'do you have a voicebox?'
'at least I'm not ugly like you'
'what use are you'

[piesJoy]

''Have you ever thought about/of suicide before?''

[Mr Ploppy]

Originally Posted by Mortigantoj

If she had said "I hate you - you repulse me!" at least I'd know how to feel about it! Now, I'm stuck between worlds! hope of the hopeless!

She also ditched me as a friend a week later. She had a lot of problems so I probably dodged a bullet

[Mortigantoj]

^ probably for the best in your case then! With me, this one would have definitely been a keeper

I'm being a bit funny with her now (annoying, I mean...not humourous) ...not intentionally, just automatic response... so will see how long she keeps me as a friend

[Mr Ploppy]

I know it's going to be difficult to keep things going as a friend. It may be better in the long run for you to not see her.

[Mortigantoj]

^ that's what I said to her, but she insisted on still wanting to be friends!

[Mr Ploppy]

But really it's your choice, not hers.