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Umm... I have SA?
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Hmm, I've clearly not been here long enough to know what is and isn't a good thing to say, so now I feel very embarrassed for having brought that gender thing up... D:
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I think the lower your self-esteem irregardless of gender the more prone you are to getting used and abused in that fashion.
I agree they do have to do things. I think that naturally progresses to the next question, is it harder to do the approaching or to be approachable? And, is it harder to be rejected or do the rejecting? I'm not even going to answer that but I will say I know which way round I'd rather have it.... |
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It's one of those - light the blue touch paper and retire to a safe distance - kind of topics. No need to feel embarrassed though. I think it's an easy conclusion to draw, although it's not really as accurate in practice as it is in theory. This can of worms is regularly opened, hence the comment on my post from diplodocus. No worries though, it's an enduring topic and probably always will be. PS, I've not said anything constructive on your thread only because I'm in a relationship, so don't qualify to answer. |
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i suppose that is a good point
i immediately thought...yeah damn them lucky women..i wish i could just sit there and have members of the opposite sex chat me up! ..how easy they have it they should try being a bloke! ..but then i remember when the woman at work was all over me..making approaches when i wasnt remotely attracted to her had to pretend to be busy or keep running to the toilet so it looked like i was elsewhere a friendly member of staff ended up having to bail me out due to lack of back bone because i couldnt/didnt know how to reject her i guess we both have our issues! ..i just need to be in that situation again, but by someone im actually interested in! ..which means id need a job..and its only happened once in 25 years... |
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I actually agree that it's easier for girls. I've seen plenty of shy girls have no trouble getting a boyfriend, but not so many shy dudes. I see plenty of confident guys with shy girlfriends but rarely confident girls with shy boyfriends. That probably makes me sexist, but it's what I've found.
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few people have SA so bad that they can't even speak when a member of the opposite sex approaches them.
in responce to diplo's question i think it's noticeably harder to approach and risk rejection rather than wait for someone to approach you. having said that, in bars and stuff, i do notice sometimes that women who are keen on someone will give them the eye or other body language cues to signify to the male that an approach would be welcomed.. but generally, it's still harder for the male. having said all this, i still do believe some women have a challenging time finding dates as i have watched a few re-runs of that program would like to meet on TV ...and yes, there are some women out there who don't really get approached very much and that tracey cox was doing stuff like giving them a makeover and giving them tips on how to be more approachable and appear more sexy to men, and if that didn't work they tend to make the girls on the show approach guys, so yes ... having watched the program for some women finding a date can be little troublesome if they dont get approached much .. |
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Women do undeniably have it easier in terms of attracting potential partners (especially online) so imo that's a fair assumption but it doesn't mean we can keep their attention or interest. Men are more easily pleased as a general rule then women I think and therefore are more likely to be happy to stick with a woman with issues for longer then your average woman would with a man with issues probably unless he met criteria A, B, C etc but naturally that's not always the case.
But you're statement regarding quieter/shyer/more reserved women being more likely to be mistreated is wrong imo. Fact is, in this day and age, a lot of women choose to be with men that mistreat them even though they have options to help them get out of it. Yes it may be due to insecurity or whatever but it's often, still a choice. However, I get each situation is different and some people (both men and women) can't get out of the relationship for whatever reason. Just because men are 'jack the lad' types doesn't necessarily mean they are any more likely to mistreat a woman then you're average shy, reserved, sweet seeming male. Quote:
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Cos I is a minger, innit.
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The person I truly want is someone I cannot have.
The person I was last with is someone who I grew apart from. We were always ok together but we grew apart and lacked the spark to keep going. The main reason is that I don't get out much hahaha |
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go out for a night out with friends or something (or find a forum to get some people to go out with) then give them 20 quid and tell them to not give it to you back unless you approach. if you are poor like me haha, you will eventually make an approach because you don't want to loose your money. you wont even be caring that much over the result in end, you'll just be too concerned about your money. once you've made the first approach you'll find it a bit easier to make more. it might be an idea to give the person back the 20 quid to force you to do more. this is a good method to use, and one which i used on nights out to make sure i actually get some approaches in and not stand there like a lemon all night. only around 2 out 7 approaches tend to go well for me, where there's obvious flirting ...etc, the rest, usually i can tell they are not interested so excuse myself from the convo. most people if they are not interested wont be rude to you, but you should be able to tell weather or not they're into you or not. |
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I dont have any friends. |