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How about just forgetting all about social anxiety
Today things are going around in a vicious circle.
I feel very very anxious, i have to (yet again) go out soon. When i was out earlier into town, i felt so panicky. I was sitting in my car, trying to feel the "courage" to open the door and get myself out into the world. What would i need to do to let go of the sa. Why doesnt it feel impossible to do when in the safety of your home,but impossible once out there. Sometimes it seems so simple. *empty your mind *if an negative/sa thought comes in ur head, kick it straight back out *dont think * just.............dont ............................think *smile (this is hard as often i think i come across as creepy since i look ok'isch only when i smile..otherwise i look too miserable or whatever and i like to smile as that is the only way another person will be friendly to you) there isnt really a point to this message. Just feeling exhausted with it at the moment. I just want to cut myself but i have to think of my kids and cannot expose them to that. So what to do..mm well i guess posting here. |
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Re: How about just forgetting all about social anxiety
I'm so sorry you've had a bad day, Autumn. Very glad you posted here.
Do you think it's because you don't go out much that it is getting so difficult? It sounds a bit like agoraphobia. I know that once when I hadn't been out much for several weeks because I was ill, I then did find it daunting the first few times I went out. I felt self-conscious and it was quite an effort. But what I found was that if I went out every day, it did start to wear off. Are there some things you could do just to get your focus away from your anxiety? Anything creative? Even some cooking or baking (I won't say housework, can't imagine that would lift anybody's spirits!). It could be that you're tired and run down today, think about ways you could be kind to yourself too. |
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Re: How about just forgetting all about social anxiety
SA is a chronic condition for most. You just have to cope with it the best you can.
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I always try to be like someone else when im out, like my brother for instance, he's so confident and bubbly. when he visits I love how he rubs off on me, I always try to 'steal' some or try and learn from him.
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The more time I spend on here, the worse I feel as far as anxiety goes, it's a vicious circle.
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Re: How about just forgetting all about social anxiety
Someone a while back posted something similar and she highlighted how you can try to forget SA but it operates on a subconscious almost automatic level.
The physiological signs and symptoms are there whether you choose to ignore them or not. You're right that the way we think is a huge part of it, probably the biggest factor in it's ongoing cycle but there's other deeper layers like behavior that we've become accustomed to and the way we feel about ourselves as a result of those negative thoughts and behaviors. |