Do you consider yourself attractive & sexually desirable to the opposite sex? - Page 11

sammmy · #**301** 8th January 2012, 14:06

aw that's a nice analogy, i like it

me and my boyfriend's relationship is like a stinky old pair of well loved converse with all the stitching coming away.

diplodocus · #**302** 8th January 2012, 14:25

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Originally Posted by strange_paradox

You really think you can determine a women's interest in you, and your suitability as a match, based on her questioning of your employment history?

Do you really think women are that shallow?

Some are and some aren't. Asking about someone's in depth employment history in the way that Defiance describes is a prime example. And that's up to you if you think that's 'shallow'. To some people it's a legitimate concern. Maybe they've had lots of failed relationships because they are that sort of career orientated type and they don't think it's a good match or maybe they are simply shallow gold diggers.

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In Defiance's world, women are a commodity to be rated on a 1-10 scale, judged by their appearance, fashion sense, body language and line of questioning.

If you actually took the time to read and digest his posts you'd know that wasn't true because it's pretty apparent he is looking for something more serious and he's said many times that personality makes a big difference.

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Originally Posted by strange_paradox

In one of his previous posts in this very thread, he describes a girl who seemed scared of him after he approached. And he wonders why?!

I took from that because he's a young black male who is being stereotyped as a player when he acts a bit more confident. What's to wonder about? Defiance can correct me if I'm wrong.

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Originally Posted by strange_paradox

Treat women as human beings, not objects. Dating isn't a science.

Well if you understood anything about PUA you'd know it's very much about treating women as human beings. The whole point is that a lot of guys go wrong because they put women on pedestals instead of relating to them as human beings. If it takes a logical reasoned approach by using science to get these guys to be able to change their bad habits then what's the harm as long they aren't hurting anyone in the process?

It's pretty obvious you have some warped ignorant view of PUA and what it entails. Next time why don't you actually spell out your specific criticisms rather than just typing some trite mindless insult?

We_Hate_You · #**303** 8th January 2012, 14:26

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Originally Posted by wlien

Where can we find this hot 18-year-olds who are easily impressed?

You're local sixth form college.

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Originally Posted by sammmy

Look for TOWIE/Made In Chelsea forums. There are probably girls on there that are impressed by shiny tin foil. Use some to lure them back to yours.

Yes. Yes. See everyone, Sammmy gets it.

diplodocus · #**304** 8th January 2012, 14:33

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Originally Posted by strange_paradox

Not people, women. To PUAs and Sargers, ALL women are the same. You wouldn't regard members of your own gender as all the same, would you?

More complete crap! Absolutely not! If a PUA'er treated every woman as the same they would get absolutely no where!

This seems to be a very commonly propagated myth about PUA

diplodocus · #**305** 8th January 2012, 14:47

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Originally Posted by Defiance

i'd rather say i was unemployed then tell a girl i was interested in that i was working in fast food lol.

Actually a mutual friend used to purposefully tell girls that he worked in McD's or KFC and his job was to put the cheese on top of the burgers. He had an ok job but used this for a laugh. The girls would ask him and he'd drop this and they'd laugh while trying figure out if he was serious. And if they asked again he'd stick to it. It worked really well and always got a good reaction. Exaggerate and make it comical. Tell em you have to stick the sesame seeds on the big macs with tweezers or something

Incidentally the job/employment questions never came up again and often it would become a running in joke. If you get a woman that turns her nose up at that then she obviously has no sense of humour so that's no loss.

Tom123 · #**306** 8th January 2012, 14:52

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Originally Posted by ruthieroo

hmm still not too sure don't spose you could be more specific could you?

Errr, I guess it's sort of like a field being ploughed too often and too roughly with a machine that is too large. It's never quite the same again.

Toxic · #**307** 8th January 2012, 15:18

these analogies amuse me, i shall now pretend i dont have a clue what your on about so you have to keep thinking more up!

-anyway

it seems in my recent hibernation ive returned to 5 pages of if you dont have a job thats another minus point to being less desirable

(scribbles down on paper)

I suppose if a woman is looking for a proper relationship, something that they want to last for years then i guess its nice to know about potential partners career/job status....however ive never ever considered it myself, if i was interested in a girl i wouldnt care if she was unemployed either

(well unless she was proud of scrounging...) , i think for me i would currently say im doing some freelance design work...while looking for a job (which is true tbh, although ive worked out im on about 10 pence an hour so if they are gold diggers they came to the wrong place

)

also easily impressed 18yr olds..local college , right! what do i do, flash them my JSA papers? my learner drivers licence? or perhaps my very low limit/very hammered credit card?

tho honesty, although i guess it makes sense, the fact some people out there consider jobs such a huge thing (actually..the woman i used to work with who was obsessed with money ditched her ex because he was only on 16k a year..so yeah) well they are not the people i want to be with!..bloody..harsh though

James Brown · #**308** 8th January 2012, 15:35

I'm in the fat , balding , bad teeth category . Still they say that personality counts for something . I hope so .

Crabbywitch · #**309** 8th January 2012, 16:19

wizard sleeve

'The inner labia of a vagina that protrude well beyond the outer labia. So called because they are large and stretchy and flap in the wind like the silken sleeve of a wizard's garments. The presence of a wizard sleeve gives the vulva an appearance quite different than a coin slot and usually means the vagina is not a peach.
I went down on her, which was nice, but her freakin' wizard sleeve kept getting in the way!' - urban dictionary

I have a problem with the use of such references on this forum. This is supposed to be a supportive forum where we can discuss our anxieties, many of which concern body image issues, not a place where people carelessly use cruel slang that pokes fun at perfectly normal body shapes and sizes

It is a sad, sad world where women need to worry if their labia are the right length or not

Mr Ploppy · #**310** 8th January 2012, 17:03

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Originally Posted by Crabbywitch

wizard sleeve

'The inner labia of a vagina that protrude well beyond the outer labia. So called because they are large and stretchy and flap in the wind like the silken sleeve of a wizard's garments. The presence of a wizard sleeve gives the vulva an appearance quite different than a coin slot and usually means the vagina is not a peach.
I went down on her, which was nice, but her freakin' wizard sleeve kept getting in the way!' - urban dictionary

I have a problem with the use of such references on this forum. This is supposed to be a supportive forum where we can discuss our anxieties, many of which concern body image issues, not a place where people carelessly use cruel slang that pokes fun at perfectly normal body shapes and sizes

It is a sad, sad world where women need to worry if their labia are the right length or not

I remember watching a documentary in disbelief, it was about some silly boot getting surgery to get hers reduced

Apparently her friends teased her about it. Do many girlfriends show each other their pussies then ?

Tom123 · #**311** 8th January 2012, 17:14

I am very sorry If I offended anybody, it was merely a throw away remark and a joke about Harry Potter which went a little too far. The last thing I meant to do was upset anybody.

Toxic · #**312** 8th January 2012, 17:53

i was under the impression it wasnt used as a way to describe someone with perhaps "different" shaped..bits

more a joke term used on someone whos well..been round the block a bit lets say

Mr Ploppy · #**313** 8th January 2012, 18:05

Tsk, who do they think they are bothering the beautiful people.

Mr Ploppy · #**314** 8th January 2012, 18:11

It was.
But then again not everyone thinks in terms of stereotype attractiveness.

sammmy · #**315** 8th January 2012, 19:20

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Oh, I wasn't saying you had, just saying a lot of people do. I don't mean it in a particularly shallow way, but for example, older men messaging young women and expecting to get somewhere.

well, i'm only interested in older men. any guy under 30 messaging me would probably be wasting his time..

sammmy · #**316** 8th January 2012, 19:25

i should have started with"if i was single.." :P

sammmy · #**317** 8th January 2012, 19:27

lol the point i was trying to make anyway is that everybody digs different things, and don't think that you're a thing they will not dig. you never know your luck.

sammmy · #**318** 8th January 2012, 19:34

haha

Saponara_Immobile · #**319** 8th January 2012, 19:35

It's true that on dating sites older guys message much younger girls who aren't interested. I remember dating girls in their 20s and they all said that even though they might have their limit set at say maximum 30 odd (on their profile) they'd still get a shed load of unwanted messages from guys 40 to 50 plus.

diplodocus · #**320** 8th January 2012, 19:46

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Originally Posted by mark101

I do try messaging them but just get no replies,i recently got chatting with a woman on an app.She exclaimed how it was nice to chat with a normal person,i said that i wasn't everyone's idea of normal and gave her a brief lowdown on my SA/AvPD and depression.She said she didn't care and that i'm lovely,that was four days ago and she's not spoken since.

Don't take it badly mate. It's a very very common experience for the average guy (regardless of SA) on internet dating sites. You have to realise that you are 1 in a 100 guys chasing one woman. To be frank internet dating sites are useless for men, just imho obviously

Mr Ploppy · #**321** 8th January 2012, 19:48

A 50 year old winning the lottery would certainly get a lot of attention from under 30s

diplodocus · #**322** 8th January 2012, 19:53

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