How is everyone feeling? (31) - Page 569

Mo34 · #**17041** 13th December 2018, 20:04

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Originally Posted by Lee S

7th of December has gone

I only just noticed this! Doh.

Mo34 · #**17042** 13th December 2018, 20:07

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Originally Posted by jinny

I feel overwhelmed and exhausted and sad and confused

My husband is not speaking to me. Its a massive strain because we don't get chance to talk about things as the children are always here, though lately he's started shouting at me when they're in the house, my youngest is tearful.

I think he is leaving me... But wants to make me the bad person. So is just being horrible instead, instead of just saying what he wants.

I am kind of done with it, it's been weeks now, and that's only the culmination of months of mostly ignoring me. I haven't got it in me to try and get things right anymore.

But I have been with him for 18 years. And am scared of being alone. I am alone really, so some things will stay the same, but I am scared of the practical things and also apprehensive as to how I will feel if we finally separate and he gets together with someone else, while I am alone and miserable.

He's always been better than me and he knows it, but I am sick of trying to be a better person than I am

Aww jinny, I hope things sort themselves out for you.
Your husband sounds like he's being pretty unfair on you if he's got a problem he should spit it out rather than being horrible.

T · #**17043** 13th December 2018, 20:44

Had a tough day in work today think an early night is in order and just forget the day even existed!

T · #**17044** 13th December 2018, 21:18

^^

Yep often find sleeping clears the head a little. ...

Sorry to hear your going thru a tough time too jinny hope things improve for you soon

Schmosby · #**17045** 13th December 2018, 22:42

Still ill, been ill since the weekend.

I Love My Cats · #**17046** 14th December 2018, 01:38

Totally defeated. In hospital with the wee dude. Also tonight, my dad has been admitted to another hospital! No chance of meeting essay deadline and going to fall further behind at work. Someone up there has it in for me and my wee family

I Love My Cats · #**17047** 14th December 2018, 02:09

Thanks Galatea. He's finally sleeping, thank goodness. Haven't even been able to phone to find out how my dad is. Not how I saw my week panning out at all!x

T · #**17048** 14th December 2018, 03:48

Oh well so much for a good night's sleep

Mo34 · #**17049** 14th December 2018, 07:39

I hope your little one and your dad are ok I Love My Cats

newbs16 · #**17050** 14th December 2018, 10:21

I don't feel like I'm coping very well at the moment and things seems to be getting on top of me. I feel like I've let myself down and anxiety/emotions are talking a hold of me, I could probably just sit here and cry.

Mo34 · #**17051** 14th December 2018, 15:37

^ aww newbs

I'm sure you haven't let yourself down. Everyone goes through blips where it all seems like a struggle.

Vienna · #**17052** 14th December 2018, 17:33

Flipping annoyed.
Last week mum said she didn't want the Xmas presents thing this year, suits me fine. I really don't want to spend my money on Xmas presents this year , I'm done with the present thing, can't be arsed.
Get home from work and dad says 'i bought mum xxxxfrom shops today but I already got her something else, do you want it to give to her? It was £15'

So I feel like I'm being forced to give a present now. I Know if I say no, he'll sulk.
Why should I be forced to do this, mum isn't fussed on Xmas. Nor am I.
I wish it would just sod off.

I Love My Cats · #**17053** 14th December 2018, 19:49

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Originally Posted by Mo34

I hope your little one and your dad are ok I Love My Cats

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Originally Posted by jinny

I hope your Dad and your lil' one get better soon, Ms ILovemycats x

Thanks Mo and jinny. Wee guy is a poor soul. On intravenous antibiotics and very distressed

Phoned the other hospital and my dad is settled but needs infection to clear, then getting a pacemaker fitted as his heart has slowed down due to his age. It never rains, but it pours

Professor Willow · #**17054** 14th December 2018, 19:51

Feeling like a bit of a loser, I bailed on going for a drink with a friend because I couldn't deal with the anxiety and having to explain to my boyfriend I was going out for the evening

Mr. Nobody · #**17055** 14th December 2018, 20:54

Feeling bad for everyone who has worries,
Hoping everyone makes it through the next week okay,

ILMC - hope your wee boy is doing okay, and your dad is getting the care and attention he needs,

Jinny, hope you and hubby get a chance to have some quality time over the Christmas holidays to re-connect

D1662 I'm sorry you missed seeing your friend, but maybe your partner would have been fine about it,..why shouldn't they be?
My partner goes out with friends all the time, it's what people do.

I Love My Cats · #**17056** 14th December 2018, 22:11

Thanks J

wee guy has just been given another wee dose of morphine to help him sleep and nanage pain. His foot is agony so he won't sleep on the bed as his foot would touch the bed surface. Hes lying on me on a recliner chair and that'll be us for the night. Hoping he is settled.

Mr. Nobody · #**17057** 14th December 2018, 22:37

Oh my, that sounds like quiet a painful injury for the wee dude,
Does sound like you're in for a long night cats,.. hope you manage some sleep amongst it all.

Professor Willow · #**17058** 14th December 2018, 23:07

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Originally Posted by Vasco Da Gama

D1662 I'm sorry you missed seeing your friend, but maybe your partner would have been fine about it,..why shouldn't they be?
My partner goes out with friends all the time, it's what people do.

I wish it was that easy!
He gets very funny about me meeting people on my own, and I end up having an interrogation about who it is and why we are meeting etc.
However my bf quite often goes out with his friends and I'm not allowed to say anything about that.

Dougella · #**17059** 14th December 2018, 23:19

^Sounds like double standards there.

Tom Morello · #**17060** 14th December 2018, 23:35

^I wouldn't put up with that, it sounds very controlling.

newbs16 · #**17061** 15th December 2018, 02:29

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Originally Posted by I Love My Cats

Totally defeated. In hospital with the wee dude. Also tonight, my dad has been admitted to another hospital! No chance of meeting essay deadline and going to fall further behind at work. Someone up there has it in for me and my wee family

I hope your son and dad are on the mend, hopefully your college will give you an extension given the situation.

Jam · #**17062** 15th December 2018, 09:04

^ U ok?

A Whimsical Stranger · #**17063** 15th December 2018, 16:19

Lonely. I dread every day that I have to go to college and face my ex. Even after everything that's happened, after he's disappointed me and my son in the most awful way I'm not over him. I seem to be swinging from feeling extreme hatred for him and devastation that we're not together anymore. All the people I hang out with at college, I was friends with through him and now I have no one. My one source of comfort is that I'm acing the course, and he's struggling because he doesn't have me to help him anymore.
In a moment of desperation, I joined Tinder. Tinder. I'm not getting anywhere though. Where are the unsolicited offers of sex when you need them?

mj187 · #**17064** 15th December 2018, 16:33

Christmas office party tonight, feeling very anxious

T · #**17065** 15th December 2018, 23:04

I need to think about things what i'm doing maybe a change for the new year will help

newbs16 · #**17066** 16th December 2018, 02:43

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Originally Posted by T

I need to think about things what i'm doing maybe a change for the new year will help

What kind of things?

mj187 · #**17067** 16th December 2018, 11:44

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Christmas office party tonight, feeling very anxious

Went okay, but felt a bit uncomfortable. Was worried I'd be sitting on my own for the evening but luckily it happen that way. Still, you look round the room & everyone it socialising, making it look easy. Anyway I passed through it.

Schmosby · #**17068** 16th December 2018, 13:01

Been asleep since friday eve. Feel a bit better now, like I'm at the tail end of this sickness. Let's hope I don't pick something else up in my last week.

Professor Willow · #**17069** 16th December 2018, 15:46

Pretty pissed off.
Last night I plucked up the courage to tell my bf that I was planning to go out for a drink with a friend (an online friend who I have known for about a year, who is also gay ) and he got all funny about it, saying its not normal to meet people like that and he could be some sort of monster and it isn't safe.
Although I do understand his concerns I have known this guy for over a year now, we are friends on Facebook and I don't believe him to be a mass murderer.
I'm not good at going out meeting new people in real life, so for me, the online way is easier but he doesn't seem to understand this.
It's doing my head in and now he tells me he's going out on Friday for a pub crawl with his friends.

I Love My Cats · #**17070** 16th December 2018, 22:06

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Originally Posted by Vasco Da Gama

Oh my, that sounds like quiet a painful injury for the wee dude,
Does sound like you're in for a long night cats,.. hope you manage some sleep amongst it all.

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Originally Posted by newbs16

I hope your son and dad are on the mend, hopefully your college will give you an extension given the situation.

Thanks J and newbs

He's a very sick wee boy. His blood has massive amounts of streptococcus in it and the swellings on his hand and foot are due to the same infection attacking either the joints or the bones. The only way to find out whether it's the bones or joints affected is an MRI scan and they were considering sending us to Yorkhill. However, they're holding back the scan as the wee guy has enough to deal with just now and regardless of whether bones and joints are affected, the treatment is the same and he is already getting that in the form of large doses of 3 IV antibiotics, 4 times a day. Hes just shattered and miserable. Hoping he turns a corner soon.

I've got extensions for both of my essays, but given the absolute cut off is 21.1.19 for work to be graded and (hopefully) pass on to next module, I fear time could be against me here