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Blind date
Ok i promised Phool i'd start a thread on new years day so here goes.
This is not the blind date you might imagine, my sister asked me yesterday if i'd be interested in dating a blind woman, she's a friend of my sisters friend and a similar age to me. She's not been blind all her life but got diabetes which made her go blind, the wording my sister used is that we would have companionship. I guess if she wasnt blind she probably wouldnt want be with me and if i didnt have SA i wouldnt want to be with a blind woman, but such is loneliness and its a dilemma for me |
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I know a blind lady, she's a real looker and gets a lot of attention. I don't know any disabled people (and i know a fair few) who aren't as picky as anyone.
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Include me as well, he has entirely the wrong motives.
Do her a favour and let her meet someone who will care and love her. |
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Hello
The chap I was seeing over the summer had tourettes, not the swearing kind but the facial twitches and spasms kind, he didn't tell me before we met and it did surprise me at the first but I really liked him and put it ot one side. There were issues like his spasms don't stop when he's sleeping so sometimes I used to go and sleep on the sofa if it was disturbing me too much. There is always a compromise in any relationship. There is actually a thread in the Basement about whether you would date someone with a disablity - where lots of people posted with both views that you might find interesting. I would give it a go...its only a date. Thank you for posting a thread. I'm going to start one of my own in Club 30-81 now - though a silly one! |
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Ok thanks for the advice, is it my SA that causes me to have these issues, i've no wish to cause anyone any harm, i feel like shit now.
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Yorkie are you attracted to this lady by looks and personality ? Do you honestly want to meet her for the right reasons ?
If the answer is yes then why not ask her out. But if there is only pity or a sense of asking her out because you are thinking thoughts along the lines of "I won't do better", then please don't do anything before you work on your own self esteem. I've had contact with many sight impaired people over the past few years and honestly it's not a problem for them, they usually cope incredibly well in a world which rarely does anything to accommodate their rights & needs. I'm lucky in that i've met and worked with all sorts of disabled people, before that I had a lot of preconceptions, but they soon disappear and you will stop seeing the disability as a problem and just part of them. I've met some great disabled people over this time, but mostly indifferent, and a number of arseholes of course, in short no different to any other bunch of folks This isn't the usual PC bullshit, it's my experience |
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Thanks Phool
A woman I know who has a walking disability. I've been keen on her, on and off, for a couple of years. And I've sensed that perhaps she might have some feelings for me, although of course i'm awful at sensing this sort of stuff, so I don't really know. I'm ashamed to admit similar thoughts like Yorkie's have occurred, I wonder if i'm only interested because there's no one else around at the moment, and stuff like "I could do better" and "time is running out, who else is there" crossing my mind. I'm even wondering if I could "defend" her properly if some little shit insults her because of her disability, I don't even know if I could defend myself againist verbal insults But I think a lot of that is excuses, I don't feel strongly enough about her to do anything, but then odd times I do feel strongly. So I'm ****ed in the head |
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Relationships are learning experiences for both sides. And the best relationships are built on friendship, maybe you guys have the best foundation for building a relationship? |
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Personally I allways try and treat everyone the same, regardless, so it wouldn't bother me if she was blind or whatever. If it was me then I'd take her out for coffee or lunch and just treat her like I would anyone else, hopefully we'd have a great time and a real good giggle and if all went well then I'd definately be arranging to see her again. So, go for it, just enjoy each others company, and let us know how you get on. |
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As you can tell, my news years resolution to KICK ASS is going well hee hee. And if people took the piss coz I was dating a blind woman i'd simply say "Laugh all you like, but the thing about blindness is that all the other senses are enhanced, so every touch is that little more electric, every kiss is that little more delicious and every orgasm is far more intense, something you could only dream about" I tell the people I work with nowt, keep them guessing, they obviously have nothing better to do. |
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I think i'm perhaps getting more lonely the older i get, the concept of finding the right person is nice if you have that kind of choice. We all have SA but clearly we all have different types of issues to deal with, having a relationship was never on the cards for me especially as a young man when i had terrible issues with myself and mental unstability. It has to be pointed out this isnt my sisters idea, its the friend of the blind woman, her previous boyfriend lived with her and was unemployed, she had to subsidise him, gave money to him. In the end he found someone else on the internet and left her. I think the friend is merely looking out for her and trying to find someone decent for her. It was put forward as a concept of companionship, many people fall in love, many people fall out of love, it can perhaps be a fickle thing? |
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