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I can't speak to women
I'm not talking about relationships, that's not even on the cards, but in a general friendly way, I just clam up.
And really they don't look that interested in speaking to me, or introducing themselves to me. So I doubt they are bothered anyway. |
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Re: I can't speak to women
you are projecting an assumption on to women that they are not interested in you. Women are just like men really you can talk about what ever you are interested in, if you want to make friends with some one you generaly have to find some sort of conection, be it music, films, books or even a similar sense humor. Just try to talk or if you can't talk then listen - we like to talk alot Ask questions that get them talking, smile and don't worry if you really can't talk try the talk show host approach listen to what is being said to you and ask questions following on from what is being said to you, even if you panic and can't focus fully on what is being said try to pick up on the themes. But just be yourself x
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I know what you mean as I was like that for a long time.I also used to blush so badly that even small talk would make me a nervous wreck and I would avoid all females at work like they were an alien species.It may help at first just responding to online forums where plenty of females post as this could help to break down the initial panic.
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Whenever you are very nervous about talking to people just imagine they have no clothes on.
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Very nicely put. Thank you. |
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Actually, I've found that talking to women in a purely friendly, social way has got easier over time. I don't get scared by women any more (ok, there's one who I'm scared of and I get anxious if I'm the only man in a big group of women, but not in general ). As to what changed, I think it was just exposure, typically in a still male-dominated group but with some women present, which is less scary. So I'd suggest this if possible, as it helped me. You should find you "clam up" less if you can feel more comfortable and at ease. Turns out that women aren't a completely different species after all, and are quite nice once you get to know them More intimate relationships are still no-go, but one step at a time... |
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I was at a social club thing the other day, I was the newbie and the guys introduced themselves to me, and were friendly in the usual guy "hi, how you doin" sort of way, but the 4 women there didn't even come near me, let alone say hello.
It made me feel very insecure, as if I wasn't worth even saying hello to. I couldn't figure it out. |
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It's worse with women around my age, and younger. The attractiveness doesn't really come into it.
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I often have that impression as well.
It's a daft "rule". |
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