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Old 17th September 2018, 23:18
AHME409 AHME409 is offline
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I am incredibly worried I won't be able to find a job. A year ago, when I was fresh out of university, I gave job searching ago. It was such a negative experience that even now thinking about it makes me feel nauseous. It has taken my confidence away for applying to new jobs. My main problem was that I was too quiet and could never think of things to say or join in group conversations. It wasn't the social anxiety. This is part of my introverted nature and I don't think its something I can change. All the rejection made me feel like I was flawed as a human being and I came home and had panic attacks. I haven't job searched in over a year and am not sure where to go from here. I feel paralysed by the fear of failing again. Also the longer it gets, the more anxious I get because I get more nervous about contacting people for references and I don't know how to explain away the gaps in my CV.


I feel so ****ed up and incapable I'm constantly worrying about my future.
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Old 18th September 2018, 00:00
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This is something that I went through as well when I finished uni and I remember the anxiety and confusion and constant fear!! Also I remember feeling shame and embarrassment (which on reflection seems like a silly way to feel about it). I'd look at jobs and think I couldn't do them because of the social aspects of it and the potential amount of socialising required.

Do you have any friends or family that you can talk to about your worries? Also your uni might have a careers service for graduates and they might be able to help you in terms of prepping for interviews, confidence, mock interviews and all that.

Do you know which kind of job you would like to do or a vague area you'd like to work in e.g. technology, childcare, people, animals, food? (Sorry for all the examples - my brain can't work concisely today!)

In the end I got a part time job (to fill the CV gaps) and volunteered (to get experience in the field I wanted to work in). Then things naturally got better from there.
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Old 18th September 2018, 23:27
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This is something that I went through as well when I finished uni and I remember the anxiety and confusion and constant fear!! Also I remember feeling shame and embarrassment (which on reflection seems like a silly way to feel about it). I'd look at jobs and think I couldn't do them because of the social aspects of it and the potential amount of socialising required.

Do you have any friends or family that you can talk to about your worries? Also your uni might have a careers service for graduates and they might be able to help you in terms of prepping for interviews, confidence, mock interviews and all that.

Do you know which kind of job you would like to do or a vague area you'd like to work in e.g. technology, childcare, people, animals, food? (Sorry for all the examples - my brain can't work concisely today!)

In the end I got a part time job (to fill the CV gaps) and volunteered (to get experience in the field I wanted to work in). Then things naturally got better from there.
Hey Biscuit! Thanks so much for your reply!

I have family but no friends. My family aren't very forgiving about my social anxiety though and add to the pressure of my job search. My uni is quite a while away from my parents house and I don't think I'd have the confidence to go in anyway.

I have a degree in psychology and would have loved to be a counsellor but I don't think my social anxiety will allow for that and I think I'd like to work on myself first anyway. Other than that I am good at the arts but there are hardly any jobs in those and I can't sell myself to save my life... Animals would also be good but I have no prior experience and don't see many jobs going as it is... I also wouldn't mind doing some web development.

I'm considering trying to start freelancing but I have no idea how I would go about it... But it would allow me to combine my strengths and I won't have to interact with co-workers. I'd be happy to provide a skype counselling service, sell my art online, write a blog or design websites for others. Those would all be a DREAM if I could achieve any of those. It all seems so intangible though...


If I could achieve those I'd probably volunteer on the side to build up my confidence to perhaps get a professional psychology job once/if my confidence builds up. If that's not possible, I'd at least have some social contact.
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