What do you need to feel like you are good enough

[Amara 94]

This has been on my mind. I’m attempting to stop porn. I always seem to relapse so expect that I might. But I noticed everytime I try I realise that I miss some of the people that I follow and wonder what content some of them make. I do have a favourite pornstar but now I’m noticing that not watching her content feels comparable to missing a person that I get really attached to in real life. In fact, I think the last woman that I got really attached to in real life reminded me of the pornstar by appearance and body.

It feels like me watching some porn is to actually try and feel some need for approval by someone I find attractive or cool.

In my mind I need approval by certain people to feel like I am good enough. This is obviously irrational but that’s how my mind thinks.

There are other things probably that I might post later.

[Dougella]

Have you heard of something called a parasocial relationship? It can be what people develop with people they watch or read about online, perhaps this also extends to sex workers.

[Amara 94]

Yeah I’ve heard of the term but haven’t thought about its meaning

[Amara 94]

Originally Posted by Dougella

Have you heard of something called a parasocial relationship? It can be what people develop with people they watch or read about online, perhaps this also extends to sex workers.

I’m watching a vid that speaks a bit about parasocial relationships and think that that’s even an issue with how I interact with relatives. Since we didn’t grow up together and never met each other growing up, met through WhatsApp and Instagram. It feels like there isn’t a deep connection or there is even a lack of empathy in our connections because everything is through the screen. I think migration, if family doesn’t maintain a connection, breaks families.

[Clumsy*]

Originally Posted by Dougella

Have you heard of something called a parasocial relationship? It can be what people develop with people they watch or read about online, perhaps this also extends to sex workers.

Is a parasocial relationship a one sided 'relationship' then? As you are not interacting with that person but building an attachment to them anyway?

[Dougella]

^ Yes i believe so.

[Sisyphus]

I think I have a parasocial relationship with this forum.