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Old 2nd March 2009, 12:54
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14. Would you mind showing these visitors round and telling them what you do (at work).

Not like you can stand there in front of loads of visitors and say NO. I've got the knack of this though now, I know the sound of visitors footsteps so I run out of the other door when my visitor radar goes red.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 12:54
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on that note we should add:

"your presentation should last 10-15 minutes"
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Old 2nd March 2009, 12:57
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on that note we should add:

"your presentation should last 10-15 minutes"
10-15 seconds is just about managable........I'd rather throw myself down the steps so I can goto hospital for a plaster-cast than do a 10-15min talk.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 12:57
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15. Done anything interesting lately?
16. Gone out lately? (Like 4 but more subtle)
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Old 2nd March 2009, 12:59
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16.

Scenario- in a team building exercise
'Okay so its time to do some role play''

Noooooo why???
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:01
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Scenario- in a team building exercise
'Okay so its time to do some role play''

Noooooo why???
17. Get up and have a dance with me, stop been so boring!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:01
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Scenario- in a team building exercise
'Okay so its time to do some role play''

Noooooo why???
gud one TB,
makes me physically sick just seeing it written down
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:03
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19. Oh, go on they won't bite!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:13
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oh god im gonna be on this thread all day!

20.
In a meeting with 20 plus people, where ive hardly said a word...
'Naomi uve been very quiet, lets here from you on your opinion about xy and z.'

Oh yeah great thanks a lot, force me to talk why dont ya, where theres all eyes on me and i havent got a clue what my bloody opinion is, i havent been paying attention as im too busy feeling SA. OBVIOUSLY i havent said anything because i dont want to, you fool.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:15
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13. let's all go around the room and introduce ourselves
that sets off an air-raid siren inside my head

21. "Go on, come to the [insert social nightmare of your choice] - it'll bring you out of your shell"

had this one nearly word-for-word at my last two jobs
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:24
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22.

'you should get yourself a facebook account'

yeah okay i'll put up a page all about me, and show just how 'exciting' my life is. and show the world i have just 2 friends.

P.s no offence to those of you who are on facebook
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:24
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challangerchris, truleyblue,stepford, b1814, flake_, MrPSB, lilly,pantini, hellotiger! So relieving to know you are filled with dread like me!!!!!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:30
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it'll bring you out of your shell
That sent a shiver down my spine.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:32
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challangerchris, truleyblue,stepford, b1814, flake_, MrPSB, lilly,pantini, hellotiger! So relieving to know you are filled with dread like me!!!!!

I know what you mean hun!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 13:59
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oh god im gonna be on this thread all day!

20.
In a meeting with 20 plus people, where ive hardly said a word...
'Naomi uve been very quiet, lets here from you on your opinion about xy and z.'

Oh yeah great thanks a lot, force me to talk why dont ya, where theres all eyes on me and i havent got a clue what my bloody opinion is, i havent been paying attention as im too busy feeling SA. OBVIOUSLY i havent said anything because i dont want to, you fool.
Most of the posts on this thread are recognisable SA-sparking situations for me (or have been in the past), particularly the above.
In fact I think in the past any question about me was a question I did not want to and could not answer. I'd have preferred to just be left alone to blend into the background so no one could judge. Here's one or two more.

23. How was your weekend? (Please don't ask I have no life and my answer isn't valid anyway)
24. [In class/group situation] Now everybody find yourself a partner (argh, I'm not going to have one, no one's going to want me or I'll end up being paired with the teacher, argh the humiliation)
25. [In class/group situation] Get into groups (See 24)
26. [From family members known me since childhood] So what's your friend X up to nowadays? (Don't ask, I don't know, I never see her, I'm too scared and too much of a loser)
27. [From mum] Why don't you ever invite any of your friends over? Why don't you give X a call? (Argh! because it stresses me out!!)
There are more, I'm sure there are many more....
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Old 2nd March 2009, 14:08
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Cheer Up

That's so annoying !
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Old 2nd March 2009, 14:14
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28. Let's go (wherever)there will be tons of people there - we'll have fun...

No you'll have fun - I'll feel like I've walked into a nest of vipers.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 14:26
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29. "Hey, it says here that the serial-killer is probably a quiet loner, who kept himself to himself... Sounds familiar... hahahahahahahahahahaha..." (etc, etc, etc)
I had...

30. Have you been away (meaning inside) for 6 months?

I don't care to dispel this myth.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 14:41
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ha ha!

How about wedding orientated ones...

32. - 'louise and guest'are invited to.....

33 - 'i'd luv you to be my bridesmaid'

34.- 'come on, everyone dances to this song...'

35 - 'you'll do a reading at the church won't you?'

NO,NO, NO and NO Ihate weddings and hide in the toilets!'

LOL
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Old 2nd March 2009, 14:53
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36. (someone professional asking) "Whats a phone number I can contact you on?"


I'm sitting there giving my phone number out like an idiot thinking "but please dont phone me noooo dont phone me!"
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Old 2nd March 2009, 14:55
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36. (someone professional asking) "Whats a phone number I can contact you on?"


I'm sitting there giving my phone number out like an idiot thinking "but please dont phone me noooo dont phone me!"
so no that feeling shydoll!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 15:10
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This is one im trying to deal with at the mo.

Mum 'I've decieded to get her christened in May'

Dad 'oh fekk - so if I come (which I want to cos she is my daughter) do I have to stand at the front?

Mum 'yeh'

Dad 'puke'
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Old 2nd March 2009, 15:23
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37. Can you give me you address an telephone number.

A problem when you have a blank-out spell... Name? er, hold on a moment let me think.
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Old 2nd March 2009, 15:52
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Any reference to "She" or "Her" is pretty bad to me.

But one of the worst things i've ever heard somebody say is "I want an answer from each and every one of you."
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Old 2nd March 2009, 15:59
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38. Speech! Speech!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 16:01
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38. Speech! Speech!
**** off! **** off!
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Old 2nd March 2009, 16:16
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Lol ^^^^^^^^
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Old 2nd March 2009, 16:33
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[QUOTE=Cynic;713182]Next time you get that, take me as your guest if ya wish.


....even if we have to dance to 80's pop classic???!!!

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Old 2nd March 2009, 16:49
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This may be just me, but generally anything which accompanies a camera appearing
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Old 2nd March 2009, 16:54
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Cat got your tongue?...Yes, I'm not talking because a cat has stolen my tongue!?...Grrr
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