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Re: Split up with partner, devastated.
I don't know if anyone can tell you whether you've made the right decision, but it sounds as though things were getting unbearable for you, and I must say I would find it very disturbing if my husband was behaving like that not just once but over and over again. I think it would be the deceitfulness which would hurt me the most.
I do understand what you're saying about how we can be quite isolated with SA, and so any close relationship we have may be especially important to us. But of course that makes us vulnerable to exploitation and to people taking us for granted. This has happened to me in the past, I think I got more intense about relationships than more outgoing people would have done, and like you I was terribly cut up when things went wrong. I found that having a job helped (even a crap temp job) because it forced me to focus on something else. Also being in a shared house made me talk to people even when I didn't feel like it. And getting away from the area where I might still meet the person I'd split up with made a big difference. I don't know if any of this will be much help, but I wanted to say I do understand how hard these things can be. |
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Re: Split up with partner, devastated.
I know what I would do, and it would be to leave. I wouldn't be happy with messages like that being sent to other women at all. But that's me, and how I would feel about it.
Judging from your original post, it's something he keeps doing and will therefore continue to do. I would rather go it alone than put up with that personally. |
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Re: Split up with partner, devastated.
In not in a relationship so maybe ignore my opinion. But I do think you deserve to be treated with respect and although the sexting may not be physically cheating on an emotional level it's not much different surely.
You should do what right for you though and not make a decision based on comments from randoms off the net like moi. Hope things get sorted and all the best for the future. |
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Re: Split up with partner, devastated.
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I can empathise with how difficult it must be to contemplate ending things for good with someone you've known for so long. But I think it comes down to the issue of whether you'd ever be able to trust him again. If not, it might be better to face the pain of breaking up and put an end to the experience of being continually let down, although I do realise it must be incredibly difficult. Personally I'm tempted to say that anyone is worth more than the treatment he's shown towards you. Unfortunately you just can't force someone to act in the right way and more fool him for ruining something with someone loyal and loving. |