'recovered loser' writes about overcoming shyness

you company man · #1 21st March 2007, 19:24

www.succeedsocially.com

The author is a young guy who got over his shyness and has written a lot of free articles on the topic. There's stuff on making friends, getting along with people, tweaking your personality, the opposite sex, and improving yourself.

Winnie57 · #2 21st March 2007, 20:07

It looks an interesting site with some useful tips

Ross PK · #3 21st March 2007, 20:12

I'll read that, thanks.

bluebottle · #4 21st March 2007, 20:19

thanks for giving us this link, I just had a look at it and it looks very interesting. I'm sre I'll go back to it soon to get some more inspiration in some areas of my life.

A little warning though, it's not really a SA specific site, it has more general tips on how to get a social life, make conversation, etc. Some of the tips do sound very scary to people suffering from SA (like 'go to lots of places and talk to lots of people'). Still worth looking at I think though

claprun · #5 21st March 2007, 21:04

Very interesting link. Thanks, you company man!

(I just though I would post, since I hadn't done so in a while

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Pal · #6 21st March 2007, 21:08

I hate the term "loser".

incommunicado · #7 21st March 2007, 21:09

Interesting, thanks for the link co. man

this bit brought back some old memories

http://www.succeedsocially.com/sexbasics

bluebottle · #8 21st March 2007, 21:17

Yes that annoyed me too on his site. To all of you who read the site - try not to take things personally when you read his tips... remember he doesn't even know you!!

(Hope this didn't sound patronising - just thought I'd give a little warning.)

Pal · #9 21st March 2007, 21:26

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Originally Posted by bluebottle

Yes that annoyed me too on his site. To all of you who read the site - try not to take things personally when you read his tips... remember he doesn't even know you!!

(Hope this didn't sound patronising - just thought I'd give a little warning.)

Oh i don't take it personally, i'm just stating that i hate the term.

Stervek · #10 21st March 2007, 21:35

Patronising tripe

trouble180 · #11 21st March 2007, 21:41

It definetly pays to be different but its got to be in a good way. You can be different cos you like torturing animals or because ur coverd in tattoos n in a rock band n have a pet chiwawa. I guess it is kinda being different in socially accpetable ways but still things that are different/rare we immediately put more value on. "dont be a mindless non conformsit" i kinda like this, i think a lot of social rules etc. can be quite fun to break away from and have fun with but if you dont accept any social rules your likely to be outcast. Just skimmed over the site it seems pretty gd

ben

Corelone · #12 21st March 2007, 21:47

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Originally Posted by Ninja81

One thing that I don't get:-

"Don't be a mindless non-conformist"

"Western society places an inherent value on being an independent individual. Being different and not like everyone else is often seen as good in and of itself."

Well, in my experience it's the other way around, people are encouraged to conform & act like sheep in our society

Being different is often seen as a good thing? Since when?

Again, in my experience it's the other way around, if your different your weird.

Don't mean to pick holes but, this part baffles me.

Compared to some more so-called Collective asian cultures, western cultures are more Individualistic in orientation. I remember reading that in a text book so you can probably look it up.

Like in a collective country you'd go along with the wishes of your family for the benefit of the group, even if you didn't want to do that thing yourself. In the west the person would do what they wanted and follow their own dreams. and look how marketers in the west sell people things by exploiting their need to be different and unique.

Stervek · #13 21st March 2007, 22:50

western cultures are more Individualistic in orientation?

Part Crab · #14 21st March 2007, 22:51

I wish I was as cool as them...

jontyboyoh · #15 22nd March 2007, 00:07

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Originally Posted by Part Crab

I wish I was as cool as them...

Maybe one day u will be, mate......... Read the article and lets see.

Corelone · #16 22nd March 2007, 22:38

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Originally Posted by Stervek

western cultures are more Individualistic in orientation?

According the social psych class I took they are.

Even posting that photo illustrates the point. What's the underlying message? To me its that these kids should be made fun of because they're all mindless sheep who dress the same. Seems to be valuing individualism to me.